Are You Clowning Yourself?

African Art by Salkis Re; Clowns
Salkis Re, Artist, Author, Poet

Are You A Clown?

I was one for most of my life. Trying hard to make people laugh and smile and like me.

Masking how I truly felt for fear of experiencing rejection and loneliness.

The more I tried, the more invisible I felt as I never got what I wanted.

Some of us are used for the entertainment of others who never seem to feel an inclination to reciprocate the generosity and care they’ve received.

I came to the conclusion that being kind wasn’t the way to get love. I figured out that being selfless wasn’t the way to want he hearts of others..

What would give me a quality experience when interacting with other souls is to LOVE MYSELF.

Joaquin Phoenix

Are you playing the Clown in real life?

Are you doing things for laughs and cheers at the expense of your ideals and self esteem?

Are you afraid to ask for what you need from those whom you give too?

Then you are playing a clown, and it’s time to stop entertaining people at the cost of your identity.

 

Energy is EVERYTHING..

The respect you want to enjoy requires ENERGY.

The love you want to experience requires energy.

What signal are you sending out into the world?

What are you eating to support your cells and organs?

What are you thinking in order to change the way your genes express themselves?

Joker Abstract Art , African Art, Cowns, Scary Clown, Sad Clown
“Joker” Original Art by Salkis Re

Feeling good about who you are requires new thought patterns and a new environment to support a new thought.

You ever rearrange the furniture in your bedroom and feel like its a brand new room? That the same concept needed to change the results you get in your life. Rearrange your thoughts by manipulating your environment.

The game of life and abundance and wellness is about about changing your perception of your reality.

feel love permeate through your body. When you go out the door, breathe deeply and think positively about yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Love Does Not Exist!

I know I know…

WTF Salkis! You’re just a bitter Dark skin woman who’s been beaten down by life and you want to bring every else down with you! Blah blah blah…..

 

HaHa! I can hear you through the computer screen..

But it’s true..

You can be accommodating.

You can be attractive.

You can be selfless.

You can be Beautiful.

 

 

African Abstract art painting by Salkis Re
“The Sun” Original Art by Salkis Re

And love… can/will/does flutter away….

Why is it so hard to love?

Because LOVE is a fool game!

It for the ignorant people who are first getting to know each other.

The excitement of the first kiss.

The discovery of hidden talents.

The wonderment around not knowing what a person is capable of..

That is LOVE in a nutshell!

Love is infatuation.

Love happens when you DO NOT KNOW A PERSON.

Why?

Because its your imaginings of them that seduce you into having feelings of clinginess and attachment.

Then once you get to know them. And you realize that they are not as perfect as you imagined..

The LOVE for them goes away..

And you are left with reality..

The reality that they have perversions and dirty habits and that they are not as self assured and all knowing as you perceived them to be..

You see them get frustrated and doubtful when paying bills or interacting with others..

Reality crushes the illusion/LOVE and what was an escape at the beginning of the relationship is now a sink hole pulling you into the miasma of everyday life.

BORING..

Boredom kills love.

And boredom is inevitable as you become familiar with another person.

So prepare to be dissapointed.

Prepare to be turned off.

Prepare for them scorn you when they sell your first Bowel Movement because you mistakenly didn’t flush to toilet before you left the bathroom..

 

Prepare for what relationship really are: a journey in forgiveness and understanding of someone who gets on your nerves most of the time..

 

 

 

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Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Be a Pussy Kat!

You are wondering how to be?

You want to know what you need to do and say and be to get the things you want in life.

And it is really as simple as adopting the nature of a feline..

African Art  by Salkis Re
“Ms Kitty Says” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here


The magic that is a Cat is something so majestic, so mysterious, so gentle and fierce and it really cannot be compared to anything thing else in this world.

Your nature should be congruent with your expectations. You can’t act one way (that you realize is ineffective) and expect to get the results you want.

Most of reasons why we suffer as women is through in indoctrination of guilt.

 

Guilt is a powerful persuasive technique because it creates self doubt and weakness within the mind.

 

Cats are superior opportunists and do not linger around past your usefulness.

They get their food and leave.

They come and demand your attention and then leave again.

They rub up against your leg and prrrrr for a while and the leave.

They’ll even bring you a freshly killed mouse as a gift of generosity….

and then the leave.

You can be loved and completely ignored by that same cat which makes you love the cat even more.

 

 

If someone can make you feel guilt and shame, THEY OWN YOU! PERIODT!

So you my dear, you must become like the feline, ever on her purpose, not easily impressed to care or not.

She is a watcher,

quiet,

yet you feel her presence when she is in the room…

BE A KAT!!! Prrrrrrr

 

She will not “cum” to you until SHE wants too……
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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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Wendy WIlliams Getting Her Groove Back!

Sooo somebody said that Wendy Williams os out not he dating scene since coming out a few months ago with the announcement of her split from her husband.

Wendy Williams
Wendy Williams with a new guy? hmm

I was reading a post on my facebook about the term “Cougar” and one of my FB friends said that she felt it wasn’t a complimentary term to be called.

Being a Cougar Means That You Are Dik Chaser With Wrinkles

Cougar means an older woman who prefers younger men. But the context of that title is relative to older women who are really washed up dik chasers looking for a last hoorah!

I tell women all the time to be careful to take your time with new relationships, especially if you are an older woman because it is assumed that you are desperate and needy and lonely and hard up for companionship and love. And it doesn’t matter how successful you are at your job, or how many degrees you have or credentials, at the end of the day, you are just a woman lookin g for love..

Dried Up Choochies Are More Compliant

But what men tend to do is indoctrinate women with an artifice conclusion that assumes that there really is no reason to “hold out” when you are a woman of a certain age because you should be more grateful that anyone would want to face your dried up choochie!

But honestly, holding out is discouraged at every stage of your life, for it is in no way exclusive to geriatric women looking for a boy toys to play with..

Too Old to Protect Your Heart?

If you are an older woman looking for love, you have to understand that the likelihood that a potential lover assumes that you are wounded and therefore extremely compliant is VERY HIGH!

So you have to ask yourself if protecting your heart, mind and body are now antiquated issues that are really irrelevant for this stage of your life…

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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

Black Women And Self esteem Issues

Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

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No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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“Medicine Woman”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Coach”
“Writer”
“Poet”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

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Why You Can’t Get a Man: And It’s Not Because of How You Look!

You don’t have love and you think it’s because you are an unattractive black woman with a:

dark skin,

big nose,

overweight,

uneducated,

no curves etc…
It’s not because of ANY of those reasons!!
Yes.

People you who are apart of this society will come to you with their “programmed” perceptions of your worth.

So WHAT!!!

Who can use you without your participation?
Who can lie to without your belief in them?
Who can string you along without your patience?

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You don’t get what you want because you let “them” beat the PASSION out of you!
You don’t get what you want because you are “The Walking Dead”.
Soulless.
An Inanimate mass of flesh waiting for “them” to “Turn You On”!


This why YOU don’t have what you want.
Being “Nice” or “Good” doesn’t translate into PASSION.
And you have to ask yourself this: What am I willing to lose to show who I truly am?

Can you bear the criticism?
Can you stomach looking like you are crazy?
Can you come to terms with your unconventional looks and the skin suit you wear?

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If you are unattractive AND boring, there is no hope for you. Just jump off the next bridge to put yourself out of your own misery!


But if you don’t want to end it all: THEN RISK IT ALL.
Put yourself on blast!
Speak what’s on your mind!
Do what your God has assigned for you.
And let the chips fall where they got damn may!!
.
“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

 

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“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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You Are Leaving Him Because You Are Bored???

As I coach women lately, I’m finding that many

of you are considering ending stable

relationships because the man is “boring”

and seems to be unable to stimulate you emotionally.

 

He pays the bills

He pays the bills, you don’t have to wonder where food and shelter will come from.

You get what ever you wants BUT you’re bored..

 

Exciting Men Will LEAVE!

These men with “community deicks” bring a lot of excitement.

They are undisciplined, unpredictable, care-free and purpose driven for fun,

and can offer that feeling of being “wanted” that you prize so much.

 

Intellectual Men Are Manipulators

Those “Intellectual” prophets can tell you something you never heard before,

wow you with recitations of cosmic theory and speculations

of our origins of man while he ‘experiences you instead of claiming you’: just like Nipsy did to Lauren….

On SALE NOW ” “DO You Still Love Me?”

STOP BEING A FOOL!

Don’t let your emotions make a fool out of you.

A regimented man can fiancé your need for “stimulation”

He can provide the resources you need to get out

of your dissatisfaction with what you are.

BE the stimulator.
Be the catalyst.
Be the fantasy.
Be the PURPOSE for your own life and stop being a brat

for attention and go find something constructive to do…

Thick LocsWhy Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who

had to bind her insecurities and throw that b#tch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The Best Way To GetWhat You Want!

Every woman should think of the “Bigger Picture”.

Never make decisions based on the moment…..

Always think of your future when you are trying to decide what to do.

You will change.

You will age.

You will be less in demand sexually later than you are now.

SO you must plan.

Do what is best for your future.

This means that you will have to withhold your pleasure.

This means that you are not a slut for instant gratification.

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Art by Salkis Re

This means that you know that anything quick diminishes in value quick as well.

So Plan.

Eat your veggies with a plan.

Have sex with a plan.

Have a baby with a plan.

Get married with a plan.

Work to finance your future plans..

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

African American Art
“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Beauty for Black Women


African Art

So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

African Art
“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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