The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

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“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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Pretty But You Sick???

Beautiful darkish women

If your goal is to truly love yourself

 

If your goal is to truly love yourself and you are not adding

what you eat into your transformation cocktail, then you are

playing games and fooling yourself at the same time too.

Holistic living requires that your diet be in line with nature.

 

Triggered to Eat Junk Food

This is a very emotional thing for us because

EVERYTHING we do is triggered by our emotions.

I don’t know anyone who eats for nutrition purposes.

 

Food Porn

We have to dress the food, lay it out really nicely,

make it look attractive and appetizing in order to want to eat it.

Ad this food porn only further makes us emotionally

dependent on the soothing that we think we are getting for food.

 

If you are eating for nutrition then salt would not be apart of your dish.

I know I know, food tastes like shit without salt,

, or so our tastes buds have been trained to believe.

 

 

You may not being doing crack, but the food you are eating a daily

basis is just as much of am addictive drug as any line of cocaine.

Salt is a chemical, it is not a food.

Sugar is a chemical. It is not a food.

Cooking oil is a chemical, it is not a food

 All manner of imbalances happen when you consume these chemicals, from colds to cancer.

 

If A baby Can’t Eat, Neither Should You!

The general rule here is if you can’t feed it to a baby or eat a bowl of it, or feed it to an elderly person,

THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE EATING IT!!

The journey to self love REALLY BEGINS NOW.

Are you ready??

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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The Ugly Girls Club!!

Dark skin women beautiful

The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

Dark skin black women
Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


Black Women with Thick Locs

Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals

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Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!

Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.

Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….

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It might feel icky to be a fraud,

but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling

you the truth while being themselves.

You are being humored every DAY.

People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,

some even pretend to be impressed

and attracted to you.

And here you are,

afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,

to get you results that could make you better.

So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?

How do you grow while staying the same?

How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?

I’ll answer the answer: It cannot be done!!

Continue reading “1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals”

To Know You Is To Control you!

“I Wanna Know You” Written by Salkis Re 

I want to know

if YOU MEAN what you say,

if YOU ACT like you say,

if YOU DO what you say…

This is the goal of anyone who wants to get to know you.

And they will find out, just as YOU WILL for them,

that they don’t entirely mean what they say or do what they say.

We call it being cordial or having manners, or establishing rapport.

The goal in any courtship, in any “I want to get to know you”

session is to simply to establish that you are EQUALLY YOKED

The, (I’m just like you, and that’s why you should like me) thing.

It’s all a feast of selling yourself until one of you is no longer

afraid of how you are perceived by the other.

When he is no longer afraid of LOSING you, then he

will start to show you who he really is…

Carry On

Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

Art by Salkis Re

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“Kept Women Can’t Be Nappy Heads”, Written by Salkis Re

Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.

She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation.
🐾
She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…

Watercolor portrait Painting, African Art
“What Would I Be?” Original Art by Salkis Re


I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,

and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look.
🌸
Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totem pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?”
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Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…

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If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..

Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.

Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.

Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”?
No.

They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..

They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.

HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…

GAME!!
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
LESS stress,
LESS requirements,
LESS structure
LESS disciplined
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?

👉No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
Carry On!

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
~SALKIS RE
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Talk with you soon, hugs..

 

Dating Outside Your Race Black Women?

I could join you picket line…but I won’t because part of the blame, well most of it was my doing,
for I chose to give men who I knew were not interest in me a chance.
I knew that the guys I LIKED didn’t really like me,
but I hadn’t any concrete “evidence” to substantiate my suspicions, yet and still, the situations
that by the grace of God revealed the truth, I dismissed the truth anyway.
I didn’t want to admit the truth because that would mean that in my mind,
I was acknowledging that I wasn’t good enough.
 
Watercolor Portrait Painting
“I’m a Girl!” Original Art by Salkis Re
And what’s the best way to relieve the mind of anxiety and depression: distraction!
Men pretended with me and I pretended right along with them, hoping that “proving value” by “selling myself” to an
*unmotivated buyer to begin with would somehow turn things around for me…
This what you do too.
You pretend.
You pretend you don’t see what you see.
You even pretend to be confused, but you know.
You ALWAYS know, the problem is that you do not trust in what you know because you
cannot differentiate your true self from the pretense you’ve created to get along with others.
 
Most of the time it was just a “feeling” though. In the mist of a conversation,
his mind does not seem fully engaged, and if a woman walked by that he liked,
he took the liberty to take a long and quite substantial look,
not feeling instinctively compelled to respectfully conceal his arousal from you.
 
There were other times when dates would be cancelled at the last minute
but then he’d show up at midnight to my door claiming to “miss me”,
I knew that he lied but I let him in because I wanted to feel wanted: truth be damned!
Then there were those times when holidays came around and gifts didn’t come neither the presence of his body,
probably because he was too busy stocking stuffing at “homes” of women who’s company he valued more.
And it was no buggy in my mind because
I bought my daughter all the gifts on her list which allowed me to a distraction from my feelings of inadequacy from being unwanted…
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“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE
So now here you are, running from your acute ability to make poor decisions
by seeking refuge in the arms of men who do not share your genetic makeup.
You are fascinated with the “novelty” of it all. You get to even be “blacker” with him than you are
with your own brothers as you show and tell stories about what means to be a black woman in America.
And all well until you notice that he likes you a bit too much,
almost like you are trinket or an object of a fetish he has for black fresh.
And here you were thinking he is crazy about you…
Yeah he is krazy* about you…
You dismiss it though, still on somewhat of a high that a
man from another race considers you as beautiful.
 
But the truth is that you are that same woman who made agreements with men whom,
you knew were not to be trusted, not to be fucced, not to be husband or a father to your children.
Moving to another race doesn’t remove how your process and filter out your world and more importantly what you think of yourself.
You cannot run from you.
The respect and love that you desire comes when you become intimate with YOU.
It will come from black men when you have a love for your wellbeing that cannot be bought or bargained with.
Carry On…
Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
~Salkis Re
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