STORY TIME: DODGING WRONG MEN!

African American Art
“Colored Girl” #4 Original Art by Salkis Re

I remember that time when this guy I really liked had chosen another girl who was really really young and cute.
I was going through quiet rage as most Scorpios do, wondering how I got passed up for some immature girl with a shape that was waiting on her first childbirth to ruin…

I thought about him day and night: ONLY him…

And that was new for me because I just never care enough about any guy for him to be on my mind like an infectious fever…

It was weird.
I felt so vulnerable, yet so satisfied within my feelings for him.
Even when there were other attractive men around, not even a second thought came to my head about the value of the man I loved…

I was saving up money to surprise him  because he had mentioned needing investors for some entrepreneurial endeavors..
I was thinking about giving him his first child even though I didn’t want any more kids.

But that ditzy broad swooped in with her immature giggle and womanly hips, and she left with my man..
MY MAN!!!
Sigh…


He let me down with a smile though.. Insinuating that he never made anything official promises, and he was correct. Looking back on it now, the conversations we had were nothing more than very convincing “possibilities” of us being together.
He gave me the gesture equivalent to a “chin up” baby girl and gave me a pat on back to coax me out of my delusion…

And the bounce back took a little time, but payback came like an exacto knife’s cut, for I did get the pleasure of watching  him argue with that giggly chic who became the bytch baby mama to his two kids who grew in desperate need of a gym membership and major dental work..

A man’s Rejection has always been a dodged bullet for me..
And I learned to never  look a gift horse in the mouth anymore ….

Need to get pver a breakup or heal your body from past emotional truama?

Contact me at: info@salkisre.com

Master The Self

I’m a little girl at heart, so I have to protect her with the big in me too.
There isn’t a woman that I’ve ever met who didn’t want someone to give her a reason to blush or to care for someone besides herself.

This is what we are designed for.
But you have to learn what I had to learn, which was that Self Love is the blueprint that your goals are achieved from.

“Can I Play With You?”

Build a relationship with yourself.

Are you interesting to you?
Can you make yourself laugh?
Do you listen to your own voice?

If not, then you need to fix this TODAY!

And we get what we want

And we get what we want when we master our emotions.

You can’t negotiate for what you want unless you’ve mastered your emotions.
You can’t beat your low self esteem and depression without mastering your emotions
You can’t even maintain physical health without mastering your emotions.

If you don’t like what being you has given you, then become someone else!

Beautiful black women
“Self Esteem Coach” ~Salkis Re

Self Esteem Coach “
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Painting on Sale Now:

Can I Play With You”

How Control Your Thoughts

Evil People, Control Others

You can’t control people unless you are a psychopath with a low threshold of shame and remorse, or a fallen angel like the Devil who has access to unlimited funds to con people through Hollywood style sorcery.

Since you aren’t either of these, your control mechanism is limited to your person. You get to regulate YOU at any time, 24 hours a day.

African American Art
“Claudine’s Hotcomb Blue”

You Thoughts Are Powerful

And that’s nothing to dimiss here. It’s very powerful, especially when you start realizing the scale in which you can exercise your right to think for yourself.

  • You feel devalued because of : the opinions of other people.
  • You feel unattractive because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you ARE pretty because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you are special because of: the opinions of other people.

Kind Words Are Always Snatched Back

And what people will do is twist their view points of you to serve the purpose at hand.
If you need to be controlled, your self worth will be challenged by taking away what was once a trusted opinion of your grandiosity.

If your trust is needed to acquire something, he will offer you an “opinion” about your looks or encourage you to be confident so that your perception of his intent goes unchallenged .

And when it serves him to do so, he or she can snatch that opinion away,, and drop you right back off at the place where you were questioning your value to begin with.

How do you feel about what people think of you?

And I bet you whisper that they are wrong about you, yet you continue to live like you believe them.

You Feel a Bit Foolish

You know that there’s something off about how much reassurance you need from others.

That attention you seek makes you feel a bit foolish, especially as you wash the makeup off your face and place your wig on the nightstand.

You Check Your Sanity By Looking at Other Women

You feel trapped.
Literally.
But you look around to other women to check your sanity, and since every other woman you see acts the same way, you that decide your suspicions about your sanity are just you over thinking things..

Trust yourself.
Ask yourself what you want or how you feel about your worth.
Fix what is broken, but don’t tinker with nature cause she will kick your arse for trying.

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of: “The Ugly Girls Club ”
~Salkis Re
Painting: “Claudine’s Hotcomb Blues”

So You Wanna be a Sister Wife???

A viewer came to me expressing her desire to be a sister-wife..
Here’s what I shared with her:

I have not seen any long term success with it anyone really.

Not sure what it is but it seems like that relationship dynamic has a high

turnover rate and the lifespan is usually 2 years no more than 5 years if you are lucky. 

black women sister wives
With your Host, Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

The ones that have babies will be motivated to stick it out as longer

but not with heavy indoctrination from the husband.

He will tell you that you are “smarter” than other women for accepting

this way of life, that you are intelligent and pragmatic and in tune

with nature, that you lack selfishness and material greed like those other women out there (who get his d^&k hard)

and your title of Queen is repetitively used to stroke your ego and to assure you of your special place (that none of his other women have) in his life.

Inserts sarcasm right about now!

Self esteem Coach, Salkis Re

You want to know the truth?

Only Unattractive Women Fall for this!!

Most women that do this or get picked for this sort of relationship style are usually unattractive or insecure women.

Well not “or” because women you are one are usually the other too.

I don’t know what you don’t like about yourself.

Maybe it’s your age or your gap teeth, or the cellulite on your thighs thats got you settling for this rank and file lifestyle.

Maybe this is all you can really get in the grand scope of things

But what I want to know, all I want to know is if you are doing it because HE told you that this is what you are worth,

or because you have given yourself a brutally honest evaluation and this is what you feel will bring you peace and some semblance of joy…

The clock is ticking my dear..

No more time for bluffing yourself. What do YOU want?

Your Self esteem Coach, Salkis Re

TALK TO ME!

Single Mothers Be AWARE!

you cannot afford to believe in any fairytales, or allow your positive thinking to make decision on your behalf when the majority of men you reveal your “situation” to will have pseudo psycho analyzed you as a woman with little to NO OPTIONS…