You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
Men are curious creatures ready to play.
The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.
Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.
That’s all courtship is really.
Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.
His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,
to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..
So what’s the true tea here?
DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.
But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good
because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..
Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!
And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.
They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”
which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.
But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.
So what should you do?
Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,
heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,
throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?
I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.
You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.
You want be kind, but not compromising.
You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.
You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,
and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!
Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.
And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.
Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.
All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”
is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.
So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!
This means that you trust your instincts;
you move only when you are comfortable;
you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind
ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!
If you need to talk, I’m HERE
“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???
So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.
That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.
She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.
And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.
So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.
You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!
So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.
She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..
She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in
Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!
It was an uncle here, a stepfather there, an older cousin here,
I remember when I was it the 4th grade, I got dragged behind a tree by this boy that I actually had a crush on.
I started crying. Then he laughed, backed off, and ran away…
I stood there picking bits of tree trunk off my face, shaken, feeling ashamed and really confused like what the fuck just happened here!
But he laughing so I wasn’t sure if what he’d just done was even wrong.
So I thought that maybe I was perceiving it wrong…
Isn’t that what we always do?
Second guess ourselves and our feelings because HE won’t own up to his actions…
No penetration physically happened, but a disruption of my self worth and confidence sure did!
Because I secretly LIKED that boy.
Which means I looked up to him.
And because I liked him and he didn’t like me:
it meant that HE was BETTER than me…..
This is the typical pattern that starts after you’ve been physically violated.
And every relationship you seek, only aids in solidifying your false sense of low worth…
Wives aren’t exempt from this either, in fact, a lot of them are simply “under contract” to be abused because you have taken the “I’m powerless’ position..
So he gets to tell you he doesn’t like your body while he’s fucking you because he pays the mortgage. He gets to tell you that he thinks you are stupid while he rides your back to relieve his stress. He gets to blame you for his dik not being able to hold an erection, but as the “good wife” you swallow and wallow quietly in degradation because that ring says you have NO voice.
But you can repair your heart and mind..
So The Maxims For Today Are:
Do NOT second guess YOURSELF anymore…
What you SEE IS what you GET…
There is NO BENEFIT IN A DOUBT,
So DON’T give the BENEFIT OF A DOUBT.
DISMISS ANY talk that calls to question your perception of reality…
And remember, you CANNOT have SELF CONFIDENCE when you Do Not trust YOUR feelings…
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“Hitting The WALL at 40🤔???”
Ok so apparently, these MGTOW men are learning terms to shame and devalue women. One in particular is “women over 40 hitting a wall”, and it means that she is “stuck” because her sexual market value is on the decline.
Let me tell you ladies something, you are going to have to burst these men’s bubbles in a “ladylike” manner.
Too many of them feel they have the right to berate your value/looks and take pleasure in doing so.
And you have remained tactful and sensitive to their feelings your entire life just for these fools to call you old and worthless??
I’m sure in your love life, you’ve given ugly men a chance,I’m almost sure that the majority of men you’ve slept with were NOT better looking than YOU!
I’m sure that many of your sexual encounters were only worth anything because YOU knew how to bring YOURSELF to orgasm.
And you let these second rate, fifth rate mudducks set the stage for you to question your worth???
You’d better thing again!.
You better scan them for flaws IMMEDIATELY when a man pursues you. And tell him that he’s too short; or his nose is to big for his face; or that his hands are smaller than yours; or that his mother should have made his slew-footed ass wear corrective shoes as a kid; or ask him how it feels to be able to see his peenus cause his gut is in the way; or that he needs more testosterone for that “struggle beard” to grow; or that his “peenus” is “just average” or below average in size AT BEST.
Long gone are the days for which you could “gingerly imply” dissatisfaction. These men nowadays are be coached by disgruntled, miserable, blue pill popping, lonely ass men to treat women like shyte because we are looking to “level up”. You have get over or should I say “cure yourself” of any idealism you have around romantic relationships and the ACTUAL value that a man can bring to your life.
Do NOT entertain emotional manipulation AT ALL!!!!
And that usually starts with them expressing what they feel about how you look, then he will call you insecure if you reject his sexual advances and cautious nature, and all this is done for you to doubt your VALUE, arrest your MORALS so that you can OPEN you legs to HIM..
These men have to know from day one that you are unbothered, relaxed, USE to *excellent treatment and hard to impress! Whether it’s a lie or not is FORKING irrelevant! You have to show “privilege”, mentally, physically and emotionally.
When you are over 40 the dream is OVER: Let the GAMES begin..
When we women realize that love is the manipulated emotion a human being with ever have??
I am talking about romantic love…
There is nothing NATURAL about it.
Two people come together hiding what they are ashamed of, making promises/DEALS for what they intend to give each other IF one or the other subscribes to the SALES PITCH…
Then after some time together, each person oozes out their darker side, their unreasonable side, the side that was being held back right until the perfect time to reveal the venom and the devilish tendencies to the other person…
Then after a few emotional events, many some good sex and a lot of time together, they decide to pair bond and cuff each other down for the duration…
That is what love amounts too..
But it is STILL an awesome deal, relationships that is…
It is still one of the most satisfying things a woman can do!
Children come from that deal, and if two people can find common ground,
they actually can make each other BETTER souls on this earth…
Its just not a fairytale is all…
Its work, struggle, and a great deal of disappointment,
but its better than going through life alone and unchallenged.
“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
Art by Salkis Re
So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.
Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.
While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.
They didn’t with me, BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..
Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!
The discussion about single mothers as potential wives came up on my recent You Tube Video… My response is REALITY, not filled with idealism or optimism for that matter. My posting this dialog for YOUNG ladies who do NOT have children yet.
Male Viewer Comment:
I think love and relationships are more complex. If my son married a woman with a child, i would be happy for him.
Perhaps HE could be the only hero in the child’s life.
Child or no child, the woman should be a loving person. I hope that she would be less Machiavellian…less jaded.
Every woman who HAS a past is “jaded” to some degree. And if she was left a single mother, she should be EXTREMELY cautious in safeguarding against a repeating choices that led her there in the first place.
A single mother comes with extra scars, but if her motivation is strong enough, she CAN compensate for the any emotional shortcomings by concentration on her what is virtuous about her. But the “jaded” part really applies to ANY woman who has had sperm inside of her.
It creates a touch of lunacy in us all to be honest..
Male Viewer Comment:
Salkis Re Most women I know with one child say it is best thing that ever happened to them.
However, i understand what you are saying about exercising caution.
Do you think single men who have full custody of a child also lack a certain amount of character?
And why do you think women say that? I will tell you. It’s because for the FIRST time, they are experiencing TRUE love.
A man who has full custody of his children exemplifies compassion and emotional connect to his children even when he could have walked away. That is different, its “Noble” even.
Because he is not expected to “want” to shoulder all the Responsibility like women. A woman’s value is in question because when “She” brings other mens children, she brings “bills”, she brings a “something must be wrong with you for him to walk from you and your children” UNLIKE the single father.
Because she is looking to be cared for by a man. And because of this, for her, it is a FLAW, and a REDUCTION in her MARKETABILITY because she requires MORE output of his resources as well as the expectation to muster up some sort of LOVE and CARE for children that are not is own.
BIG Liability! Especially when men struggle to communicate and show interest/emotional concern for children that are biologically his.
Not what women want to hear and not what men would admit…..
“Black Hat Wisdom”
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Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re
A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.
And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…
The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.
It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.
And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.
How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.
Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…
So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….
So Who Am I?
Well, Im a black woman.
A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.
I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.
I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy. And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.
It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.
In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.
A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.
I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.
If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: email@example.com
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