Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Don’t Believe What They Say

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Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

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When We Were Kings

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Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Why?
Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

Lllllol
~Salkis Re

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

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Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach

 

I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Why?
Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,

honesty,

goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.

 

Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

 

Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

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Art by Salkis Re

I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

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You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

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                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

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So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Wishing You Were Someone Else?

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Art by Salkis Re

When you start every day and end every day thinking about the grass being greener on the other side, what is your body supposed to do with that?

You think your thoughts just dissipates after you forget what you’ve thought?

How?

How can is dissolve when your actions and the words coming out of your mouth are all carefully crafted to be in congruence with what you feel?!

Words are food just like a piece of broccoli or an apple.

Words get ingested just like any meal that touches your lips, and it can, like any food, either nourish your body or poison it.

You have to understand that you are casting spells continuously with your thoughts, and the knowledge of that fact should invite you to take inventory of what you are saying to yourself on an ongoing basis.

You wanting to be other than you are, is a result of self neglect. You thinking that you are not enough means that you have too much time on your hands.

Too much time to think about the wrong thing.

And that thinking will cripple you eventually.

It is time to consider you tonque to be your personal draftsman, the Grand Architect if you will.

Why?

Because it’s your mouth that solidifies the thoughts of your mind, for it pulls your thought out of the ethers and into the physical realm.

And once it’s made a word, YOU WILL RESPOND to it.

That’s how prayer works doesn’t it?

Do you not believe in an insult?

Have you not been hurt by the arrangement of words accompanied by strong emotion before.

What you say to others can hurt or heal them, and so it be with you also my darling..

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~Salkis Re

 

How To Become What You Need to Be to Get What You Want?!

 

 

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Aren’t you tired of being used?
Aren’t you tired of falling for the con game?
Aren’t you tired of giving till your hands bleed with no reciprocity in sight?
I know you are tired, but apparently not tired enough to switch your style.
You still believe in things that tell lies to your face.

You still doubt what it is that you know.
And now it’s even worse because you have access granted into Social Media Relationships. Perfect lighting, Rosy filters, and exotics locals make you fume like warm shit as you eat yourself into a drunken woe-is-me stupor.

Fussing over illusions and staged photos of people pretending to be madly in love, has now become your portion to eat..
Evaluating your life against that of women whom you’ve no clue as to the price they’ve paid for the appearance of luxury they enjoy.

Why can’t that be you is what you ask..
So what’s the answer here?
The answer is that your tongue is your sword and your word is your bond, AND whatever you desire AND EXPECT, you will get.
So am I saying that you can have the fairytale?

Absolutely!! You can have it, if, and only if, you are willing to pay the price!!

Go back to Instagram and your Facebook feeds. Take a closer look at those girls you are jealous of. What are their habits, their daily regimen? If they live in the gym, or walk around the grocery aisles with faces beat for the Gods, are you willing to do that in order to be ranked worthy of her kind of relationship?

Look again.
Are you willing to live in a van and eat berries off trees while teaching yoga classes to bum enough money for an evening meal of beans and rice? (I love those yoga couples by the way, I imagine their sex game is outstanding!!?🙈).
Sexy passion without the want/need for material things sound like a great life to you?

Or maybe it’s a 6 bedroom house with chefs and nannies with lots of shopping more your tune?
Or maybe you are one of those “Independent” girls and your dream is just to go Dutch on the dinner, half on the mortgage and the car note?
Which ever one you decide on, has its own UNIFORM, its own protocol, its rules and regulations in order to execute it successfully.
There is a mentality you have to adopt in order to affix yourself into the role you want to star in.
The point of it all is that ALL of them require WORK on your part if you plan to have some semblance of happiness within the experience.

Listen darling, you can even be a combination of all the choices I’ve listed and Hallelujah, the Saints will be marching in on your behalf for sure!

Once you decide what position you want to play, it’s then time to start working on a personality conducive to the outcome you hope to achieve.
An artist paints.
A writer, writes.
A chef, cooks.
And so on, and so on.
A wish with out work is like faith without work : DEAD!
You assignment today is to ACT as if!
You want to appear beautiful?
Then ACT like beautiful women act!!
Yesssss damn it! ACT LIKE IT!
Well what about the “Just Be YOURSELF” thing Salkis?

I call BULLSHIT on that right now!!!!!

Why?
Because you DON’T have what you want right now because you are yourself.

So this means you can’t achieve what you by being yourself!

Create the personality that YOUR mind feels is synonymous with beauty and abundance and you will train your brain to respond in that way. Even more importantly, you will be sending out feelers into the atmosphere to attract that energy back to you.
It is as simple as that.

You have to rinse and repeat..

Then rinse and repeat again

until it doesn’t feel like a lie anymore.

You have to put hand gestures into it.

You have to get excited about it because creating anything should fucking excite you!!!

You are the magician over your life, and acting AS-If is what turns ANYTHING you say into the mother sucking TRUTH!!
Doing anything long enough and loud enough, you will make you FORGET that it’s a lie, and it will STOP being a lie too!

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Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

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You Got That Hotep-itis?

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“Spiritual Advisor and Artist”: Salkis Re

 

“Eeeeewhew, You Got That Hotep-itis ”
Written by Salkis Re

I would like to say something about love in your image and after your likeness. Sisters are still getting baited in by this “love my black sister shyte” All a black man has to tell you is that he loves your hair and your skin tone, and 90 percent of his “show and prove” to get into your crotch is complete??
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I hear that shit all the time: “I love you hair Queen” And this is what I say: Oh! Is that right!
Because it’s of no consequence me if they love it or not, but they make it a point because they feel we need validation and “upliftment” and their emotional support to feel good about ourselves.
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And the trap begins…

 

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“Is This What You Want?” Art by Salkis Re

Superficial matters(how things LOOK) will ALWAYS be contrary to what they really are. And you should NOT judge a book by it’s cover! Nappy hair and dark skin = low maintenance and low expectations.
You can romanticize about how these men revere you because you LOOK like you are more connected to Mother Earth, but the fact is that you are (to them) 🤔Low Hanging Fruit my dear, and by low hanging fruit, I mean EASY pickings. You want out of the white man’s system to sleep in a tent and apples all day? That’s the dream these hoteps are selling you while they have YOU begging for TAX PAYER money from your family members and others who have jobs??

So better for you to be a naked beggar than use your ability to prosper?

And when your ambition is taken away, so is your expectations and your boundaries fall away too then BAM! All you are made for is to fuck and Suck all day all.

 

His NUT is coming sure and strong because you let him psycho babble you out your fucking panties.

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Get over this need to direction from men who want to fuck you!! You can read just like he can, and if you don’t understand something, you don’t need to fuck him to get understanding!! Follow?

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“Haul and Pull Up” like Dem Jamaicans does say!
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Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

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🌼”ARTIST”
~Salkis Re
🌼Website: www.iloveherart.com

 

I am a Life Coach who happens to be an artist, who happens to be a poet, who happens to be a wordsmith and a practictioner of magic priniciples for every day living… Get off your apprehensiveness in seeking guidance and just call me. You gamble with love, money, friendships and many things that require participation and a willingness from others to cooperate with you. What I will show you doesn’t require their agreements from others. All you need is your WILL.

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A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

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Where Are Your Balls?

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“Self Esteem Coach”
Salk is Re

Look at the world today!

The people who are getting along splendid in this world are the ballsy people. The people who don’t give a shyte what anyone thinks are the ones who live opulent lives.

But all the “good folk” seem to live the entirety of their days conflicted between their morals and desires, between manners and their secret desires to exercise conceit.

  • The good folk get used,
  • have low self esteem,
  • and are too scared of fire and brimstone to make a real move.

You got to be a little bad.

Yeah…

I said it.

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“Clementine”
Art by Salkis Re

A little scoundrel is what you need to incorporate into your personality so you can build a back bone and some conviction.

Watch my New Video about Fear. IT’S TIME TO END YOUR FEAR

 

How To Smash Jealousy of Other Women

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Me and my girl: “I’m Beautiful?”

 

So I did a video today addressing this thing called jealousy that kicks our assessment as women. We see a stunning woman and poof! We turn back into Cinderella BEFORE she wore the glass slippers.

But have no fear, your Self Esteem Coach is here to rescue you from the your own self loathe.

You must know that you are fabulous and you can be even more fabulous when you “nuture” and water the grass under your feet. We cannot not be what we weren’t born as nor what we are too lazy to become.

  1. Watch the Video to see me and hear me give you the tips to finally smack the shyte out of jealousy.

 

Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!

 

Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.

 

I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

Naked in Stilettoes

If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.

DO YOU!!

“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

Fie Art by Salkis Re

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Love Tender, Love Me True…

Never had a real shot at this love thing. I’m either caught begging or regretting. I’m either settling or chasing. They love me and I don’t love them, or I love them and they could care less about me. Been looking for the circle of reciprocity for as long as penises have entered my vagina. I hurt and supplied hurt. I sit at the window of my thoughts hoping that my karma has finally burned out for a fresh start at this romance game. Looking for someone I could be proud to call my own. Will it come? I’m not sure. I hope so. I can only settle my mind, body and soul in preparation for receiving it. But I got a million stories out the heartbreak deal, and my willingness to share has made for new friends. I would rather they not try to exploit my transparency cause its as if they think I expose myself in order to be used again.. Lol I laugh when they come trying to put band aids on old wounds.

I’m bored with their attempts to console me. Don’t play me for a victim because I have exposed myself to you. Those things you know of me have been worked out already, so its time to tell me about you. Can you reveal the things that make you look less put together? Can you show vulnerability? Will you show concern for me more than proper manners of “how are you”? How deep will you go to have me in your world? That is the question. Stop trying to figure out how you can get something out of me without risk or loss. You will have to give up something to be with me, your job is simply to decide how much of a risk im worth you taking. Its as simple as that. I win however the dice may role. There are plenty of ‘sure bets’ out here so don’t try to guilt me into offering you the opportunity to receive the results you are used to getting for those girls who are not goal oriented. I am not a manipulator: what I am however, is an “Uncoverer”, and by the time I’m finished finding out all you try to hide we both will be giggling as we relax into friendshipping each other.

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~Salkis RE

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Damsels Make Distress

My mother always said “Even if yuh dun need, yuh need!” Translation: Make a man useful by needing him to do things for you. Now my mom is like me. She is soft and non aggressive, but she definitely gets what ever she wants by being her sweet feminine self. I have been talking a great deal about feminine charm, and us as women need to take another look at the most receptive way to posture in order to have a peaceful and fulfilling relationship.

There is too much blame and vindictiveness going on among us as women. Too many pity party’s and rants about our disappointments in men and not enough effective introspection and behavioral modification. They treat us bad and we respond in kind. Then they treat us bad some more and we rebut with more revenge. The cycle just spins out of control with no end in site.

I really believe that femininity is power. Submissiveness doesn’t have to be jail time if done with a mission to achieve and receive the things you want and desire. Real men are not compelled to care for women who act like men. Having an attitude invites contempt and defensiveness ,not respect. Speak what you want gently yet firmly as if you expect to get it. Ditch the loud, abrasive tone and stand your ground by expectation, not fights.

And if you don’t get what you want, then you pull back quietly. No announcement please!! Just do more of you to fill the space of whatever you were doing for him. BUT, I must say that you should ALWAYS be busy being and doing you. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you give up your interests and passions. If you start falling off your program, you will become a bore quickly. Be busy with life. ALWAYS. And with sweetness make your demands so he can be the man he is designed to be: a problem solver!

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Growing Pains

Some pretty jacked up stuff has been going down in my life lately. Like major life changing ish! But I feel a little confused because I feel relieved for some strange reason. It’s like I don’t have to pretend anymore. I don’t have to be unsure of what I have to do. I’m devastated yet free at the same time. I’m emotionally ready to move back to GA or Florida. I’m still trying to decided but I definitely know its time to be back on the east coast.

I didn’t realize until recently that I’d been holding my breath for a few years. Waiting for the other shoe to drop.. And it finally did. I’m not ready to talk about the specifics of things until all my affairs are finalized, and even then, I may not tell. I have to keep a little grain of my honor I guess. But I will say this: to be a woman is a special special gift to me, one that I am appreciating more and more everyday. I am ready for peace, I am ready for romance. I want my soul mate and I want him now… I never said that out loud…*giggles but it feels good to admit it.

Let see what the heavens can muster up for me. In the mean time, I will keep on creating art pieces for you to connect with. My ‘girls” are more therapeutic to me now than ever before.. Get some love and hang it on your wall is all I can say… Hugs

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Your Only As Sick As Your Secrets

 

I love my paid hoes and poor sluts…

I have a few unmentionables. Things that have caused me shame in my life. Things that a few people know and maybe more than I think know because you just never know if your secrets are held sacred after you utter them. I wish I could go back in time, I wish it so badly. But I can’t. The ‘damage’ is done and I have to live on. But this thing called shame is paralyzing. Its like you walk one egg shells hoping you won’t be found out, like living while looking over your shoulder everyday. I can’t do that anymore. I won’t. There is no power in pretense. There is no glory in being discreet if your deeds haunt you, if you can’t forgive yourself. I’m for women. ALL of us. I love my prayer warriors and my jump off’s, and my paid hoes and poor sluts. I have been them all, unwillingly perhaps, led by fear most probably, trying to survive mostly. 20150402_071924

The fat gene won a few times but…

I know what its like to feel the thrust of man’s third leg inside me that didn’t care about me. I know what its like to “pretend” not to care while I let him do it too! I know what its like to latch on to someone because I thought this was the last train for me, that this was the best I’d ever get. I know what its like to pretend not to want anything so I’d be free feeling what I thought was inevitable disappointment. I know what its like to have a baby to keep the peace and get rid of one to keep “my peace”. I have been homeless. I have slept in my car. I know what a grocery store run feels like when you only have 5 dollars in your pocket for peanut butter and bread, but I also know what its like to give my savings away to my man’s next big business venture only to have nothing but a garage full of  novelty trash that wouldn’t sell. I fought the fat gene, won a few times, lost a few and Im winning right now and have a deeper understanding to stay here too.

Dear God, it’s me Salkis!

I spent a lot of time trying figure out what I wanted to do, what I wanted to be good at.. But that voice in my head was always nagging at me, telling me this ain’t gonna work or that ain’t gonna work. I even thought that being dark skin was a curse. I think I was 11 or 12 years old when I’d have frequent ‘talks’ with God about my complexion and I’d make deals with him I’d pass all my math tests and stop stealing the Fig Newtons out the cookie jar if he just would make me lighter skinned. Every morning, I ran to the mirror believing something changed, but there I was, just the same as the night before.

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Daddy, Mommy and Me

I’d say: “You don’t love me God, if you did, you’d answer my prayers….”

Sex and donuts…

This is why I speak of self esteem and self awareness so much. I can see in the eyes of many women, the anguish, the confusion, the fear and dissatisfaction within their existence. I know it well. Even the psychics and the oracles can’t hide that look from me.  I know what they are feeling too. Bravado means nothing. The “I can do what I want to do” doesn’t mean a hill of beans. Its like one rice grain to a hungry belly. Only the strong will survive? No. Not true. Only the people who make the right decisions at the right time survive, only those who exercise purposeful discipline will survive. Much of our bumps in the road is do to lack of discipline, laziness, gluttony, focus. These things make one sick, broke, unhealthy etc.. Good sex is pleasurable, and I don’t know about you but glazed donut makes me hum my favorite tune. But are they good for us just because they bring us pleasure? That is what we have to reason out with the decisions we make.

So I decided that my goal, what I wanted to center myself around was love, self love in particular, but all aspects of it because it shapes and influences every part of our lives. I want love to be simple. I want the me that I was before I thought I needing fixing, the me that I was before the need to repair.. Before I was 11 years old I suppose….

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