2020 New Year for Manifesting!

Are you gonna REALLY be about Black Girl Magic for 2020?
I believe that the forces of nature will help you now more than ever before.

I also believe that the price to pay for what you want will be the greatest its ever been.
You will have to bleed for it, but it WILL come.
You will have be disciplined for it, but it will come.
You’re gonna be uncomfortable,
unsure,
maybe even a little afraid: BUT it will come.

“Colored Girl” Original Art by Salkis Re

Yes.

Whatever you focus on WILL come!.
But the key is to relax.
Your BREATH determines outcomes.
They make you think it’s luck or pedigree that dictates your fate, but no little dove, it’s your BREATH.

Breathing Regulates EVERYTHING!

What do you mean Salkis?
The breath holds the key to how you process food,

stress,

energy,

ecstasy,

perception,

fear,

depression,

anxiety,

insecurities etc..

Beautiful Black women

What are you doing right now?
You are breathing shallow..

Why?
Because you are bracing yourself.

Why?
Because you dont want to get hurt.

ūüĎČūüŹŅYou breathe like you are in pain.
And this causes a depletion of oxygenated blood, which inhibits proper nervous system function.
ūüĎČūüŹŅYou breathe like you are scared.
And this is why you fail at love, at weight loss, at abundance, and creativity..

Dark Skin women
Babies breath correctly..

BABIES CAN TEACH YOU TO MANIFEST

Watch how babies breathe.
They take full diaphragmatic breaths.
Why?
Because they haven’t learned to brace themselves for the “anticipation” of pain..

ūüĎČūüŹŅYou want to manifest?
It’s not about a vision board or a better business plan if you are creating these while holding your breath in fear.
Breathe through your self doubt.
Breathe through the physical pain.
Breathe through your low self worth.

The year of BEING is upon us.

You will have to stop all the excuses and being ruled by your fears now.. You have to become a woman who lives in the realm of certainty.

And your certainty get’s its nourishment from our daily activities.

You need to be careful what you absorb. This means, what you eat, what you hear, what you see, what you think, who you screw and what you say..

ALL of this plays a role in outcomes that show up as fate in your life.

Never again presume that you can write a vision and not FEEL IT, TALK ABOUT IT, LEARN IT and ACCEPT IT!

Yogic Breathing

What makes You A LIVING SOUL?

Give yourself the breath of life!
Were you not told that the breath made you a “Living Soul”?

Inhale completely, pause, then empty your lungs completely.
20x every day.
Then sit still.
Close your eyes and enjoy tingling as your body experiences

full nourishment for the first time since you were a youngling…

Do your breath ritual before you meditate,

eat food,

make love,

pray or anything requiring your full attention and you will become more confident,

efficient and stronger physically and mentally too.

Breathe.
Then you will MANIFEST.

Dark Skin Women
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting” Colored Girl”

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Why Evil is Stronger Than Good

And nothing you think about yourself will stick unless its backed by HEAT.

What do I mean by heat?
When you are angry, you are hot! Your heart beats fast and your body literally raises in temperature.

Are You Clowning Yourself?

African Art by Salkis Re; Clowns
Salkis Re, Artist, Author, Poet

Are You A Clown?

I was one for most of my life. Trying hard to make people laugh and smile and like me.

Masking how I truly felt for fear of experiencing rejection and loneliness.

The more I tried, the more invisible I felt as I never got what I wanted.

Some of us are used for the entertainment of others who never seem to feel an inclination to reciprocate the generosity and care they’ve received.

I came to the conclusion that being kind wasn’t the way to get love. I figured out that being selfless wasn’t the way to want he hearts of others..

What would give me a quality experience when interacting with other souls is to LOVE MYSELF.

Joaquin Phoenix

Are you playing the Clown in real life?

Are you doing things for laughs and cheers at the expense of your ideals and self esteem?

Are you afraid to ask for what you need from those whom you give too?

Then you are playing a clown, and it’s time to stop entertaining people at the cost of your identity.

 

Energy is EVERYTHING..

The respect you want to enjoy requires ENERGY.

The love you want to experience requires energy.

What signal are you sending out into the world?

What are you eating to support your cells and organs?

What are you thinking in order to change the way your genes express themselves?

Joker Abstract Art , African Art, Cowns, Scary Clown, Sad Clown
“Joker” Original Art by Salkis Re

Feeling good about who you are requires new thought patterns and a new environment to support a new thought.

You ever rearrange the furniture in your bedroom and feel like its a brand new room? That the same concept needed to change the results you get in your life. Rearrange your thoughts by manipulating your environment.

The game of life and abundance and wellness is about about changing your perception of your reality.

feel love permeate through your body. When you go out the door, breathe deeply and think positively about yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

How to Handle Manipulators

So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of  these labels like
Narcissist,
Manipulators,
Passive Aggressive,
Pathological Liars
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
Pathological liars
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2.  They use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….

abstract potrait painting
“I Understand” Original Art by Salkis RE

All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming¬†a FELINE!!¬†

Be a Pussy Kat!

You are wondering how to be?

You want to know what you need to do and say and be to get the things you want in life.

And it is really as simple as adopting the nature of a feline..

African Art  by Salkis Re
“Ms Kitty Says” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here


The magic that is a Cat is something so majestic, so mysterious, so gentle and fierce and it really cannot be compared to anything thing else in this world.

Your nature should be congruent with your expectations. You can’t act one way (that you realize is ineffective) and expect to get the results you want.

Most of reasons why we suffer as women is through in indoctrination of guilt.

 

Guilt is a powerful persuasive technique because it creates self doubt and weakness within the mind.

 

Cats are superior opportunists and do not linger around past your usefulness.

They get their food and leave.

They come and demand your attention and then leave again.

They rub up against your leg and prrrrr for a while and the leave.

They’ll even bring you a freshly killed mouse as a gift of generosity….

and then the leave.

You can be loved and completely ignored by that same cat which makes you love the cat even more.

 

 

If someone can make you feel guilt and shame, THEY OWN YOU! PERIODT!

So you my dear, you must become like the feline, ever on her purpose, not easily impressed to care or not.

She is a watcher,

quiet,

yet you feel her presence when she is in the room…

BE A KAT!!! Prrrrrrr

 

She will not “cum” to you until SHE wants too……
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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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How Not to Influence People

You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that¬†Life is¬†Journey***Only poor,¬†undisciplined, insecure¬†people talk that¬†nonsense about a journey!

You Are Leaving Him Because You Are Bored???

As I coach women lately, I’m finding that many

of you are considering ending stable

relationships because the man is “boring”

and seems to be unable to stimulate you emotionally.

 

He pays the bills

He pays the bills, you don’t have to wonder where food and shelter will come from.

You get what ever you wants BUT you’re bored..

 

Exciting Men Will LEAVE!

These men with “community deicks” bring a lot of excitement.

They are undisciplined, unpredictable, care-free and purpose driven for fun,

and can offer that feeling of being “wanted” that you prize so much.

 

Intellectual Men Are Manipulators

Those “Intellectual” prophets can tell you something you never heard before,

wow you with recitations of cosmic theory and speculations

of our origins of man while he ‘experiences you instead of claiming you’: just like Nipsy did to Lauren….

On SALE NOW ” “DO You Still Love Me?”

STOP BEING A FOOL!

Don’t let your emotions make a fool out of you.

A regimented man can fianc√© your need for “stimulation”

He can provide the resources you need to get out

of your dissatisfaction with what you are.

BE the stimulator.
Be the catalyst.
Be the fantasy.
Be the PURPOSE for your own life and stop being a brat

for attention and go find something constructive to do…

Thick LocsWhy Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who

had to bind her insecurities and throw that b#tch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

‚ÄúYour Self Esteem Coach‚ÄĚ
~Salkis Re

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Why Women Stay With Bad Men!

Someone “made” you feel ugly?
Some “made” you feel insecure?
Someone “made” your worthless?
All he did was express how he felt about you..
He gave you his perspective and packaged it with a sales pitch.

He habitually stated that pitch until your resistance withered away.

Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Why didn’t YOU walk away?
You Want the TRUTH?

Because he never told you a “lie”!!
He told you everything you ALREADY believed about yourself!
And though his words hurt to hear, it made you feel comfortable and

even “Closer” to him because you shared the same feelings about yourself…

FACTS!

Don’t blame him for holding up the mirror.
The question to ask is:
How do you feel about you?
If you Answer that honestly, your healing can begin…

So what do we want to do here exactly.

What you want to do is start clearing up misconceptions and opinions and “Truths”

that do not support the narrative you WANT to believe in!

I have said it before, and I will say it yet again.

Everything you think that you are is “Make Believe”,

it starts off as a feeling,

then from that feeling inspires an action

then from the action, you create a habit.

Then before long,

you’ve done or thought ¬†whatever it is for so long that it moves as a truth in your life,

dictating and altering your perception of your reality..

We want to rewire our brains.

This is how you heal from ANYTHING. I don’t care what it is.

The depression, the disease, the lack ALL stem from your beliefs.

And your beliefs are NOTHING BUT DECISIONS MADE OVER AND OVER AGAIN..

You can start to change by become “AWARE” of everything you feel.

“Becoming aware means that you start catching yourself in the mist of doing something habitual.¬†


That negative self talk, or going for that piece of cake you don’t need,

you see what you are doing and from there you will want to start to questioning your behavior.

Why am I saying this about myself?

Why am I grabbing the chocolate cake when I know it makes me feel unstable?

What is it that I am looking to feel?

Am I trying to relieve my anxiety?

Am I trying to distract myself from pain?

What you want to start doing in begin to FEEL everything so

that you have to opportunity to question everything that you feel.


To pose a question breaks the script!

It breaks your confidence in your “Truth”.

It requires you to THINK!

THINKING is what will strengthen you!

Why?

Because thinking requires that you find TRUE answers…

THINKING brings the gift of resolution.

THINKING means that you get to change the narrative

when you figured out that what you believe is bull s%Jt!

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

‚ÄúYour Self Esteem Coach‚ÄĚ
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some

badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

African American Art
“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I‚Äôm CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

‚ÄúYour Self Esteem Coach‚ÄĚ
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals

African Art

Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!

Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.

Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….

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It might feel icky to be a fraud,

but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling

you the truth while being themselves.

You are being humored every DAY.

People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,

some even pretend to be impressed

and attracted to you.

And here you are,

afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,

to get you results that could make you better.

So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?

How do you grow while staying the same?

How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?

I’ll answer the answer: It cannot be done!!

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