Pain is GIFT!!!

Women with locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it. You will run from it. You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings. Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.

You worry about how you look: Daily.

You worry about him not loving you: Daily.

You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.

But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.

You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexy  you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.

Will you change?
The truth?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.

Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.

Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.

But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.

What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…

The Black Hat Society”
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

Safe Sex??? There Is NO Such Thing!

Life Coach, Salkis Re

I do not understand the logic of “safe sex” using condoms. How can you enjoy sex with a man you think by chance he could be caring a disease. You make him wear a condom, but he can eat your vagina raw. You swallow his sweat and his saliva.

You suck his dick raw too, but you make sure you use a condom to practice “safe sex”???

Listen, there is NOTHING safe about sex, nothing AT ALL.
Sex is  a physical risk,

an emotional risk

and afinancial risk too.

If a man is putting his mouth on vagina raw, licking your asshole raw, and you have his scrotum in your mouth raw, then you are not “Safe Sex” anything!!

He’s got your cum juice, your urine, fecal matter and your sweat in his mouth and probably that of OTHER women too.

Unless your mouth and your vagina secrete BLEACH, you should be VERY fucking scared to feel the NEED to use a condom….

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

African American Female Artist, Salkis Re captivates your eyes and your heart with her retro art pieces
“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.


And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Getting Rid of Your Fear and Self Doubt!

“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re

You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.

You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,

that you are nothing in this world.

How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.

abstract portrait painting
Art by Salkis RE Painting “Love You Anyway”

“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..

Written by Salkis Re

I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.

Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.

When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because

you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…


Abstract Portait Painting
Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.


Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re



Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Love Attachments

“Holding On”
Written by Salkis Re
I love you so much, and this is why I keep holding onto you.
We’ve been through too much,
and you’ve done things I never thought you’d do.

But there is not much else that can actually hurt me
cause I’m not focused on your mistakes, only how I feel.

They told me to get rid of you
one million and a thousand times,
but they offer nothing to replace
the space you hold in my heart.

And I know it ain’t all you,
cause you were my emotional prisoner
and had all manner of reasons to run.
But know this baby, that my love is reformed.

And I realize that to love you,
I can’t be afraid to let you go.
All I can do now is simply is care,
and hope that my love is strong enough
to reignite the love we once shared.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re


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“Holding On” Art by Salkis Re


Sometimes, we have to take the blame for running people we love away from us.

Sometimes the love is just overbearing and people feel imprisoned by your excessive compulsion to express one’s feelings.

Saying “I love You” everyday isn’t as powerful as saying it when you TRULY feel it.

When you hold on too tight, people start to build resentment

and disregard for what you are desperately trying to convey.

Sometimes saying nothing is all you need to create a longing…

Sometime giving someone their space is the elixir for appreciation.

And then….

When they need to be held, hold them tight. Rock him in your arms so close that you leave your scent on him.

But allow him to WANT you.

This is key to love…

The KEY is to LET GO!!!



African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Being A Real Woman is Like Having an Infection!!





Abstract portrait painting
“I Want This Dress” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

“Attack on Womanhood”
Written by Salkis Re


So I got cussed out after lending my opinion to a young woman’s post (by the way, she said she doesn’t consider herself a woman)

were she’s expressing that she didn’t want to have a family and that she “hated” children.

She said that there is more to life than “just” having babies and a husband.
I get it, and yes there is more to life than any single thing you are doing.

There is more to life than your job, there is more to life than your education,

there is more to life than the dik you ride, there is more to like than eating eggs for breakfast or talking shyte on the SOCIAL MEDIA too.


We are living in a time when everything that represents womanhood is being viewed as some sort of miasma,

like an infection “weak minded” women are catch. Like motherhood and marriage is a virus that women who lack ambition catch.

And, these “Career Minded Women will see what their decisions lead too like we all will.
Now, we all can have happiness the way that we want it.

BUuuuuuuuuuuut please understand that what you WANT and what you DO leads you somewhere.

How many of us know MANY single, older women with no children who are *truly Happy?

What are the statistics, what are the numbers?
You are on a path to SOMEWHERE,

so while you are defending your right to choose,

I need for you to project yourself into the FUTURE RESULT of your choices, cause boo-boo,

your Future is coming like a cyclone,

like a whirlwind, and this time right now,

the choices you enjoy right now,

WILL diminish 20 years from now!!

This is not speculation, it is a natural fact of LIFE!
So prepare for your future by making strategic decisions NOW…
You want to be alone and you are NOT wealthy? Where they do that at???
Your vagina is an INVESTMENT, not a forking playground!!!!
Sound Off!!!!

African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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The Other Side of Your Good Side…


Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re
Abstract Art Series by Salkis Re

Love isn’t what you think it is

Young women, I implore you to consider what you’ve already been through in order to absorb what I’m about to say.

I ask you to examine your past or even current relationship to find the congruency between your experience and my advice.

The love you want is called “passion”. It is a feeling of intense desire and longing for another person.

Passion itself is brought on by the building up of anxiety/suffering over what you do not posses.

Before you engage in sex with a man, he LOVES you.

By loves definition here, I mean that he has PASSION=love in his heart for you because he wants/desires to have your body.

So what will he do to quell and satisfy his desire for you?

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.


He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.
The constant sweet nothings in your ear, the display of concern( calling after work or when you’ve arrived back home from a date).

If he is really attracted to you, you will get little gifts, nice dinners, all of which are INVESTMENTS towards swift SALE of your vagina.

The dates are to make you excited, to make you want him even more because of the joyous experiences he’s providing you with.

And the hours of cell phone talk and his attentiveness and interest in

what you have to say leaves you with the impression that guys have this thing you call a “Connection”.

And though you are a little unsure. Though you suspect it might be too soon to open your legs,

you let your emotions override your mental reasoning.


Oh because you don’t trust your own mind;

you think you are over thinking this and that you’re gonna miss an opportunity to be with a great man…

And then you open your thighs to him because he wined and dined you,

and you talked with him for hours, and enticing yet “Deferred” promises to you for month or more,

so you think he is THE ONE.
And the love making was fantastic, or average, or not so good at all.

But it doesn’t matter if it was good or not to you because you are “open” now.

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.


You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

His thirst is quenched, and HIS anxiety over you has turned back into self confidence.

The job is complete; the eagle has landed; the ejaculation has happened and now he can relax again.

The first thing you will notice is that your phone conversations shorten,

or that when you do talk, he seems distracted and not as enthralled with your conversation.

Then calls become less frequent because he is suddenly too “busy” to make time to talk.

Dates begin to cancel or begin to cheapen in quality.

The connection you swore you felt in the beginning,

now starts to dwindle down to begging for his time.

Why is this? Because after sex, women begin to smother,

cling, and display insecurity, couple this with having already tasted

your “sauce” and he has absolutely no incentive to DESIRE/LOVE you anymore.

So what do you do to avoid this?

The truth?

Some of you can’t avoid it because you are entrenched in insecurity and low self esteem.

Your heart will be broken again this year because your focus is the hot button tips and tricks on how to ensnare a man,

and the Snake Oil Conjurers will gladly exchange HOPE for your money.

A woman who Puts on her BLACK HAT understands that to fix this,

she must bring forth her inner BITCH!!!

YOUR “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.


Her “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

She doesn’t think in CONJECTURE. She understands human nature.

She isn’t conflicted about her worth or the outcome she wants her lover to provide.

It IS, what F’ing IS!!!!!!!

Compassion and agreeableness is what women are hardwired to be,

but can your compassion protect you from Manipulation

that you will face whether HE IS GENUINELY INTERESTED OR NOT????
No. It won’t…
What YOU want comes FIRST, and what he wants is SECONDARY..

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here:

P.S> I want to give you something free for your time here because I really want you to start your healing journey. If you are experiencing a difficult relationship read this free ebook of PRICELESS wisdom to reset your resolve and position your for emotional recovery and balance so you can regain enjoyment of life and find the love you want!
Get Your FREE E-BOOK HERE: How To Be The Object of Desire


“Women Want Real Men”

Women want men who can lead

African American Artist
Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
Women want men who can lead. We want to be with men who competent, capable and purposeful, resourceful and protective.

Relationships usually fall apart because the woman realizes that she was sold the
“Snake Oil” of “Sexual Compatibility” and “Emotional Connection“.
She now buys into his “future claims” that he cleverly

defers long enough to get her emotionally vested.

And when he is in a comfortable space and no longer holds anxiety of losing you,

he begins to feel safe enough to reveal himself.

And in actuality, he is a weak man, a beta male acting out what he assumes is an alpha male persona.

She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness

She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness and
kicks herself because she knows she “emotionally trapped”,
but she is ironically addicted to the “suffering” he provides

 because its familiar and comforting like an old pair of slippers.

Understand that “change” comes from the pain brought on by a person’s

realization of his inadequacies, not from YOU making threats and handing out ultimatums.

And for the most part, people do not change unless they experience trauma level suffering.

We as women must not translate our wants and needs as weaknesses.

We are not designed to think like or be men,
though they express desires in having a women who can “hold their own” financially.

We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair”

We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair” and “agreeable”

African American Art
Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
while men are designed “take” and “conquer”.

We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us

We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us because
it takes a level of selfishness and self-centered behavior to achieve things.
We can offer support in a sexual way, a nurturing way, a creative way, a beautiful way and so on…
Be a woman so you can “see” a real man…
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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You Deserve the Best From Men!!

“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re


Listen, when it comes to relationships with men, this thing is really simple.

Relationships, whether it’s for romantic or for business purposes,

the RESULT should  ADVANCE you…


There is no reason to commit yourself to a man who does not provide an opportunity

to improve and enhance your physical experience. ~Salkis Re


This thing is not about empty promises.

And in my opinion, this notion that you have to have this thing called

LOVE to accompany the agreement to commit to someone,

more often than not, it causes blurred lines, confusion and,

misinterpretations of material and emotional unfairness.


What is the purpose of having a MAN?

Don’t answer so quick.

I want you think about this deeply.

I want you to consider the value that love has as a sentiment.

And value love has as an ACTION.

Because a great many women that I work with, hold equal merit for love as a statement and love as an action.


Protect, and Provide…

That should be the foundation of a relationship with any man….

Forget the fucking lists.

Forget all this complicated variables.

Forget what your FEELINGS tell you because they lie too!

Simplify your life WOMAN.

Don’t allow THEM to confuse you into paralysis and passivity  because you will end up giving in

and giving up without proper negotiation for a more secure standing.

Nothing is free in life, Not even LOVE!


African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Don’t Quit!!

“Master Your Craft!
Written by Salkis Re

How you gonna quit when you’ve already started? 
Don’t stop till use your body 
moves the finish line tape aparted!

You will only hate yourself if you stop,
and you will sabotage the rest of your life 
if you don’t ride this thing till your efforts make it pop.

What else will you do other than this?
You gonna go back to dreaming
like your other loser friends?

There’s more grind left for you to do 
and it’s not over until you have
to mastered what you like to call YOU.

So you tryna quit the game?

To do what exactly?

Oh it’s hard?


Anything you worked for, had a bit of challenge

that came with it.

And guess what you did?

You trotted on anyway, wiped the

blood off your knuckles ,and kept the pace until

your chest broke that finish line tape!

African Art
The Art Process and all my Mistakes.. Salkis Re

You have to ride your purpose until the wheels fall off

so that by the end of your time on this earth, your soul has no reason to

wrestle with the anguish of unfinished business.

Empty yourself! Don’t hold back anything.

Don’t be afraid of anyone!!

You will fall, so laugh when you fall.

You will be unsure, so chuckle at your confusion.

You will feel pain, so eat your pain and keep going.

Stop looking back!!!

There is nothing BACK THERE that can help you.

because the promise land is in your windshield not your rear view mirror.

Come on girl!! GET UP!!

 “Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

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African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

African Art Eyes
“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,




 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Love Ya!

The Critics Love You!



What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

She Sees Everything

    abstract OwlShe Sees Art by Salkis Re

Written by Salkis Re

You want fish out the ghost and goblins hiding in your mind,
They make you self sabotage with innoquous words to rewind.

They make you feel things
that make you unsure,
and to second guess yourself.
and even when you know they’re lying,
you still let them make you a mess.

You better bee like the Owl, so you can see the angles from all sides.
Then you’ll have 360 degrees of knowledge to help you see what is right..
“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Listen, I know we as women prefer to be heard over actually solving problems. I know we want a shoulder to cry on rather than face the truth of things.

We are nurturers after all, so we are not designed to condemn but to comfort.

But the time we waste chasing the “feel good” stuff over the solution stuff leads us down a path of time wasted into Oblivion..

Time should be important to you..


Because you are being judged by it, that’s why.

The first thing anyone who talks to you wants know is how OLD you are. They want to know where to catergorize your worth. You calculate the birth of your children.

You look in the mirror and asses how well you are doing by comparing your cronalogical age and the age you appear to be.

You are in constant assessment of time.


You let men waste yours.

You let them waste it like they can give it back to you when they’ve had enough of you.

Once time is gone, it’s gone into the forever good night.

To see things as they are saves time. And saving time means that you get to have more years of what you want.

You get to have more years of joy, accomplishments, and progressiveness.


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What Will You Do?

🌼What makes life worth living? I had to ask myself this to gain some clarity and perspective. And I realized that having “challenges” was a key component for my growth.

🌼I realized that I didn’t want to “suffer”. I need accomplishments and joy in my journey, still,
I came to the conclusion that the journey of champions is not filled with a lot of people.

🌼And I’ve come know, as you will also, that most people feel powerless, and in their daily grind, they simply look to others who can soothe their anxiety within the reality they’ve come to accept.

🌼You can’t let people abuse your time, your body, or your spirit because there is no “lesson” to be had if the outcome has given you a repeated result.

So what will you do?
🌼I know what I’m here to do! I am here to activate your memory, to creatively disseminate wisdom to women, to encourage you to come out of your mental prison and fly.. It’s more than wearing vintage garments and crazy hair styles; those are expressions of your “look at me” button, and hardly has anything to do with freedom of the mind.

🌼There are plenty of intellectual fools out here. There’s a plethora of well dressed manic depressives. There are cashiers with bachelors degrees. Choices, genetics, habits, environment try to script out your life, BUT you have the last say in how your world plays out..

🌼”Black Hat Society”

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

🌼”Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
🌼”Medicine Woman for Healing”
🌼”Mistress of Words for Spells”
🌼”Black Girl Magic for Life”
~Salkis Re

Stitching Up the Cut!



Sketch by Salkis Re

“People want trust, they want a guarantee. But they don’t keep their word to themselves. They do not honor personal commitment but quickly cite it as a character flaw in people they are expecting to produce for them. How can you trust anyone when you do have trust in yourself? You break vows you’ve made to treat your *own self better, yet you assert harsh criticism and disappointment in others who failed in keeping their pledge to treat you better. Better than what? How you treat yourself?¿

abstract portrait
Art by Salkis Re

To heal, you don’t “Ignore”, you “Expose” it. You have to acknowledge and face your own corruption and the graveyard of broken promises you’ve made to yourself. Don’t expect people to bandaid you. Stop expecting people to treat you better than you treat yourself. All a relationship amounts to is an outward extension of how you feel about you. The bandaid is not enough; you need clean out the wound and stitch it up so that it/you can heal.
Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
☆Art by Salkis Re

He Called Me a Monkey!!


So I was doing my usual check in on my social media accounts and got a troll that called me a black “bitch” and an f’ing monkey. 

Not sure what got this man all ruffled up to say such a thing to me, but unfortunately it’s not new and most definitely not reserved to a particular ethnic group.

I have gotten comments like this from my own “kind”.

And it got me to thinking about the assumptions people place on the value of others by how one looks.

Do I really look like a monkey?

Of course not!

But why the anger and the association with a monkey?

I do think people have a right to feel the way they feel about me, I’m just not inclined to know what that feeling is unless I have to deal with you for business or pleasure.

Yeah, there is most definitely a problem with the notions of beauty in this society and colorism abounds , and to me, it’s really here to stay.

With my features unchanged, would I still be referenced with that of a monkey if I were lighter in skin tone? Not likely.

But to be darkskin, is somehow synonymous with being primitive, simple minded, ugly, and slavish.

That comment got me into thinking deeply about what I am presenting with my work and if my voice is being made clear enough for people to get my message.

It stoked the fire within me to continue my portrayal of “us” dark skin women 

as sensitive and sweet, and not the savage imaginings of the propaganda machine that people swear they are uninfluenced by.


I got a job to do.

I got to put my two ‘sense’ in and neutralize some of the spells cast over us by members of this society.

I never wanted my art to be political, but slowly, it has become that it’s it’s own little way.

My poetry as reached the level of importance that my art has always had for me. The monkey jab touched me deeply, so much so that I had to write a poem to organize and unpack my thoughts.

To the person who called me a monkey this morning… Thank you..


“This Monkey” Written by Salkis Re(c) 2017

People assume the so called pretty amongst us

are the only ones entitled to hugs.

They also assume that esthetic deficits

means that I was born deserving of love.

They think that simple faces equates to simple minds, and that we somehow are easier to fool.

But they don’t know that their overconfidence

can be a tool used to get what we want too.

Real power comes from letting people think that they’re still in charge of their decisions.

We watch you rule with an iron fist,

and just sit back for a time and play the victim.

You will show your hand

and everything you feel

which happens to include

the weakness in your heart.

And you’ve trained this  “monkey”

to sit back and learn your patterns

and play vulnerable to get what I want.

So be self assured, I want you that way,

to reveal all the things that you front.

And I’m itching for the day when you’ve learned you made a colossal mistake

because didn’t know “This Monkey” could talk.

“Mistress of Words” ~Salkis Re


Sometimes inspiration and fuel to catapult you to the next level, can come out from very nasty places.

Yet, friction sharpens the blade doesn’t it?

I’m more grateful for who I am now than ever before, and if you are going through a storm right now, this is your opportunity to become better than you were before.

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Salkis Re


Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!


Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.


I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

Naked in Stilettoes

If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.


“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

Fie Art by Salkis Re

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Future Plans Or The Here and Now!


Women get caught up in ill-fated relationships because you believe in

“future plans” instead of “right now” actions.

We like dreaming. We love about reading romance and passion and we loving “hearing” nice things. But all that you have to base your decision on is right now, is in what you’ve experienced so far.

For some of you, that may equate to 10 years of shyte, and for others maybe a couple of months. Some of you have decided that “struggle love” gives some sort of extra respect, like ur a real woman cause you endured suffering imposed upon you. Sigh… That has more to do with low self worth than anything else. I know it very well.

You have been prepped to expect less and it sounds logical because you internally feel that its all you deserve. What are you dreams? What do you wish ur life to be? No! Don’t give me what you’ve been conditioned to say by other weak women! What do YOU need to live secure and comfortable?

And is what you have gotten, (im talk about looking at FACTS now not dreams) remotely close to the life you planned for yourself? Then start writing down your life as you want to be. Clear your mind, and design your day on paper and look at, study it. And take a step towards that reality.

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Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”