Sexual Energy: How to Get An Abundance of it!

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Sexual energy is about -energy- not so much about intentionally looking sexy. And the truth that some of are trying so hard to look sexy that it reads like desperation instead of attractiveness.

Eye contact can transmit sexual energy, so can your scent, how you walk and how you talk..

Does proper hip to waist ratio help: of course.

But if you do not posses this it does not mean you are out the game.

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You are only out the game when you are ashamed of yourself, when you’ve given in to excuses and vices to distract you from the reality that you need to change..

A few things that will boost your sex appeal:

Less Makeup.

Ditch the -beat face- for a fresh face look.. When you wear excessive amounts of makeup you hide your natural beauty which is your fertility.

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Workout.

Working out will change your body composition but more importantly it will regulate your hormones. It helps to keep you emotionally grounded and it should be seen as a self honoring ritual rather than torture.

Ditch the Sugar.

Eating process sugar causes cellular death. It dries out the skin and causes it to thin and sag. It dries out the vagina too. Depression and food are linked and sugar causes you to lose mental focus and invites hallucinations like depression and boredom when your blood sugar crashes after the high.

Wash your Vagina:

A stink vagina can cause a lack of confidence too.👀 If you open your legs and it smells like tilapia and hot blue cheese, you need to douche that playground and go on a dik diet. Diks make the vagina itch and smell, so if you are fuccing several men at the same time, I know your puwsy smells like a butcher’s box. Stop believing these hoes who tell you that you are “winning” when you can get a nut from men who don’t even really like you. ISSA LIE!

Don’t be Afraid of Men!

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STOP taking men so seriously too. Men are scared of being hurt and wished they didn’t have that bell pepper nose or that dark skin just like you.👀
Some wish they had more money or bigger diks but they manage to still feel entitled even with the shyte load of flaws they posses.
Understand that they want something from you, and work out what your exchange rate is- i.e. marriage/money/girlfriend/lover etc..

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

And I need for you to resist the conditioning of “pricing” yourself as a supposed negative concept.

Everyone around you is judging your worth.

It may be based on how you look, or you talents and intelligence, but everybody is “adding you up”.

From your employer to your boyfriend, everyone is quantifying and making assessments about your value.

SO you need to have a number in your head  that you’ve reached through introspection and self evaluation.

If you feed people nourishing food from scratch, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are extremely efficient and conscientious, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are a healer and generous, that is worth SUMthing.

What is your worth black woman?

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Taking Back Control of Your Mind

It’s a harsh but liberating reality when you’ve reached the conclusion that everything in this society is based on a lie..

It should relieve you actually.

The lie, I mean.

Why?

Because you are fearful because you believe the marketing campaigns and the propaganda of narcissists and psychopaths and the machine called “Our Society”  when their ONE GOAL is to convince you that you aren’t good enough.

People spend a lot of money to manufacture your low self esteem.

A lot of what appears to be God’s Chosen are afforded to opportunity to find out the best ways in which to control your  behavior, your thoughts, your creativity, your income, your style, your morals etc…

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“WE Played” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

No stone is left unturned..

The Mark of the Beast is already on every persons head..

You thought it would be a cattle brand when its the phone in your hand, when its you job, when its the food you eat and who you marry..

You take back control by taking control of your emotions. You get a hold of your mind by examining your choices and what is inspiring you to make them.

Full examination of who and what you are..

 

 

 

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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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How to Handle Manipulators

So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of  these labels like
Narcissist,
Manipulators,
Passive Aggressive,
Pathological Liars
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
Pathological liars
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2.  They use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….
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“I Understand” Original Art by Salkis RE
All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming a FELINE!! 

The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

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“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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“Ugly Girls Need Discipline”

“Self Love Coach”, Salkis RE

How you “show up” in this world is how you will allow people to treat you.
I tell many of my sisters that displaying self pity is not way to win friends

or foster good relationships but you are so used to expressing your self deprecation,

that you have lost awareness that you are even doing it.

You sound more like a defeatist, than a woman who is ready for love.
You write these exhaustive dissertations about what you are looking

for in a man as if making known what you are wanting will

thwart off any snakes from coming to bite you.
The problem is NOT in the way you look!

The problem is that you are hollow and you lack substance because

you want to be sexy and desired instead of healthy, competent and virtuous.
The very things that will set you apart from other women, are the very

things you disregard as having no intrinsic value.
There are things you are here to do, and being a sex object is NOT one of them…
You Are You?

“Self Love Coach”
~Salkis Re
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Some of you will be single and lonely forever.

You will be alone because you are not passionate

about anything but complaining that nobody wants you.

You as an “Ugly Girl” have resolved to a life of mediocrity and self pity,

and you’ve killed your dreams simply because you don’t look a certain way.

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

The Ugly Girls Club is a coalition of women who are

not cowering down because society has placed our looks in a negative category.

We are defining ourselves by how we look.

That game is a losing game for most women, and we have accepted it as such.

SO now that we’ve let that nightmare go, we’ve got all this room to learn

and grow and express how we feel about our lives and the things

we want to do or become to live our fullest lives.

Now as for these dating sites like OkCUPID, Plenty of Fish, E Harmony etc.. I want you to treat these sites like just another form of social media, because is what they are.

Don’t go thinking that you’ll win cool points for putting all your business on the street, for being transparent and term I think I hate most of all “OPEN MINDED”

You can’t vet a person effectively through a dating app or a profile.

And what you should do is just keep it light enough to spark interest and curiosity.

Yes you are going to get crazy nut jobs coming to you to solicit you for fun, and your success rate is shit on these sites.

You should assume that you’ll need to go thru 30 -50 contacts to get one that is decent enough to give a shot.

And Im going to add this as well, leave the booty pics, the cleavage pics and lease for God sake, close your mouth if you are not smiling.

You don’t want to send messages to these perverts that they can ask you for Netflix and Chill! OK!

Now back to the point of it all…..


The Ugly Girl SHOWS THE WORLD WHAT SHE CAN DO!

And her goal is not too be anybody’s reject version of a Video Vixen.

She is not waiting for men to have mercy on her and that her as a charity case.

She walks with her head up and DOES EVERYTHING to nature her body,

mind and soul..
GET UP UGLY GIRL!!


“The Ugly Girls Club” Coming Soon!
Would you like to join this coalition so you can learn

how to transform yourself and develop real self love?
Write to info@salkisRe .com

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It is time to step your game up!

NOT FOR MEN!! For yourself… If I could shake the degradation out of you, I would gladly do it. But this is something you have to feel inside of you. You have to be tired of being lied to, tired of being led to create frivolous personas based on pageantry and not any real substance.

Men are craving this actually. To be turned on in an untypical way.

Everything about you should be UNTYPICAL if you are an ugly girl!

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Soft Porn Everywhere!

“Soft Porn”
Written by Salkis Re
 

Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously

about how we should look and feel about ourselves and 
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
 
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You are being programed to feel insecure.

You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
 
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They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain

 
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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No Reward!

You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..

And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…  

Wake Up “Mummy”


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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Should We Stop Wearing Weaves?

“Everybody Wants to Look Better Than They Actually Are”
January 24, 2019 8:04 a.m.

Women wear WIGS to be more attractive, and Men wear 👉WOMEN to be more attractive..

Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re


Everbody trying to look better than they actually are out here..

Shaming You is a Subjugation Tactic

I’ll tell you why Shaming women is so effective, it’s effective because we WANT to subjugated, we WANT to comply, we WANT to help, we WANT fairness.

And because we are by nature inclined to comply, these campaigns to make us feel worthless and nonsensical work because women are NOT negotiators.

I have never met a man yet who felt “shame” about what he liked have , be or do!! But women are put on blast accused of being unreasonable, impractical, delusional and emotionally unstable at every turn.

This is because men know that more times than not, we want give in, we’d rather have fairness than GET WHAT WE WANT..

Please stop taking men seriously


How Sway?

Please stop taking men seriously. It’s all a game, chess moves if you will. The way to get you to become a team player is by “leading” you and to lead you he has to show you that he knows what’s best for you.

He has to establish that his goals should be yours (this is what get you to open your legs for him before it safe or profitable to do so).

This is also why “showing” that you are smarter than him or 👉aggressively noncompliant is makes you unattractive in general to men..


Have your convictions and your boundaries set in STONE..

Your “Self Esteem Coach”

~Salkis Re

What Self Esteem NEVER IS!!

“What They See is NOT What You Are!”
Transmitted on January 23, 2019 7:43 a.m.

Self esteem has NOTHING to do with how you look!

You planned your look in the bathroom,
You rehearsed in your head people’s reactions and responses to how you look .


You’ve spent money to create an image in hopes that you can effectively make people think a certain way about you.

Your presentation is about MARKETING NOT SELF ESTEEM.

Look around you.


I know you know plenty of women who look attractive AND YET they have low self esteem.

You scratch your head and remain confused and maybe even resentful that a woman with all that beauty still find a herself inadequate or depressed.

You’d kill for her body, her pretty teeth and long natural hair..

Because you just can’t understand why she feels that way while looking so freaking gorgeous.
Lies…

Self image is the holy grail of all self help programs catering to Black women.

Change your hair and you’ll raise your self esteem.

Lose weight and you’ll increase your self esteem.

👉Date more men at the same time and you’ll feel less desperate so you can increase your self esteem.(Yes.. Who you date is about self image too)

Self image is NOT SELF Love!!!

Self image is an idea you create in your head, then you project outwardly for others to see so that they think a certain way about you…

👉👉👉Self image is all about who you want people to think you are, NOT what you think about about yourself!!


Your self esteem resides in the TOTAL acceptance what you NOT in how people see you…


“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet: Salkis Re