It’s a harsh but liberating reality when you’ve reached the conclusion that everything in this society is based on a lie..
It should relieve you actually.
The lie, I mean.
Because you are fearful because you believe the marketing campaigns and the propaganda of narcissists and psychopaths and the machine called “Our Society” when their ONE GOAL is to convince you that you aren’t good enough.
People spend a lot of money to manufacture your low self esteem.
A lot of what appears to be God’s Chosen are afforded to opportunity to find out the best ways in which to control your behavior, your thoughts, your creativity, your income, your style, your morals etc…
No stone is left unturned..
The Mark of the Beast is already on every persons head..
You thought it would be a cattle brand when its the phone in your hand, when its you job, when its the food you eat and who you marry..
You take back control by taking control of your emotions. You get a hold of your mind by examining your choices and what is inspiring you to make them.
Full examination of who and what you are..
Who AM I?
I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves
So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of these labels like
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
They know how to detect your weaknesses.
They use your weaknesses against you.
Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….
All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming a FELINE!!
How you “show up” in this world is how you will allow people to treat you.
I tell many of my sisters that displaying self pity is not way to win friends
or foster good relationships but you are so used to expressing your self deprecation,
that you have lost awareness that you are even doing it.
You sound more like a defeatist, than a woman who is ready for love.
You write these exhaustive dissertations about what you are looking
for in a man as if making known what you are wanting will
thwart off any snakes from coming to bite you.
The problem is NOT in the way you look!
The problem is that you are hollow and you lack substance because
you want to be sexy and desired instead of healthy, competent and virtuous.
The very things that will set you apart from other women, are the very
things you disregard as having no intrinsic value.
There are things you are here to do, and being a sex object is NOT one of them…
You Are You?
“Self Love Coach”
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about anything but complaining that nobody wants you.
You as an “Ugly Girl” have resolved to a life of mediocrity and self pity,
and you’ve killed your dreams simply because you don’t look a certain way.
The Ugly Girls Club is a coalition of women who are
not cowering down because society has placed our looks in a negative category.
We are defining ourselves by how we look.
That game is a losing game for most women, and we have accepted it as such.
SO now that we’ve let that nightmare go, we’ve got all this room to learn
and grow and express how we feel about our lives and the things
we want to do or become to live our fullest lives.
Now as for these dating sites like OkCUPID, Plenty of Fish, E Harmony etc.. I want you to treat these sites like just another form of social media, because is what they are.
Don’t go thinking that you’ll win cool points for putting all your business on the street, for being transparent and term I think I hate most of all “OPEN MINDED”
You can’t vet a person effectively through a dating app or a profile.
And what you should do is just keep it light enough to spark interest and curiosity.
Yes you are going to get crazy nut jobs coming to you to solicit you for fun, and your success rate is shit on these sites.
You should assume that you’ll need to go thru 30 -50 contacts to get one that is decent enough to give a shot.
And Im going to add this as well, leave the booty pics, the cleavage pics and lease for God sake, close your mouth if you are not smiling.
You don’t want to send messages to these perverts that they can ask you for Netflix and Chill! OK!
Now back to the point of it all…..
The Ugly Girl SHOWS THE WORLD WHAT SHE CAN DO!
And her goal is not too be anybody’s reject version of a Video Vixen.
She is not waiting for men to have mercy on her and that her as a charity case.
She walks with her head up and DOES EVERYTHING to nature her body,
mind and soul.. GET UP UGLY GIRL!!
“The Ugly Girls Club” Coming Soon! Would you like to join this coalition so you can learn
how to transform yourself and develop real self love? Write to info@salkisRe .com
It is time to step your game up!
NOT FOR MEN!! For yourself… If I could shake the degradation out of you, I would gladly do it. But this is something you have to feel inside of you. You have to be tired of being lied to, tired of being led to create frivolous personas based on pageantry and not any real substance.
Men are craving this actually. To be turned on in an untypical way.
Everything about you should be UNTYPICAL if you are an ugly girl!
Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously
about how we should look and feel about ourselves and
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
You are being programed to feel insecure.
You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..
And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…
Wake Up “Mummy”
Why should you listen to me?
Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!
So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry
and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.
I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.
I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..
And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.
Nothing aesthetically I mean…
I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.
So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.
I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,
I made women beautiful for a living.
And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought
that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,
then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..
Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!
But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.
It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.
I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.
Same pain different face.
Same worry, pretty face.
Same rejection, nice body..
What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..
I was hooked!
I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.
Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to
do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.
Maybe you need someone to talk too..
Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..
This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..
I need your attention.
I need for you to understand the messages I convey.
because I truly believe, with all my heart,
that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can
change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..
“Tune In” Written by Salkis Re Nobody has a problem rating others until it is time to rate themselves. Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.
Mistress of Words
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”
“Everybody Wants to Look Better Than They Actually Are” January 24, 2019 8:04 a.m.
Women wear WIGS to be more attractive, and Men wear 👉WOMEN to be more attractive..
Everbody trying to look better than they actually are out here..
Shaming You is a Subjugation Tactic
I’ll tell you why Shaming women is so effective, it’s effective because we WANT to subjugated, we WANT to comply, we WANT to help, we WANT fairness.
And because we are by nature inclined to comply, these campaigns to make us feel worthless and nonsensical work because women are NOTnegotiators.
I have never met a man yet who felt “shame” about what he liked have , be or do!! But women are put on blast accused of being unreasonable, impractical, delusional and emotionally unstable at every turn.
This is because men know that more times than not, we want give in, we’d rather have fairness than GET WHAT WE WANT..
Please stop taking men seriously
Please stop taking men seriously. It’s all a game, chess moves if you will. The way to get you to become a team player is by “leading” you and to lead you he has to show you that he knows what’s best for you.
He has to establish that his goals should be yours (this is what get you to open your legs for him before it safe or profitable to do so).
This is also why “showing” that you are smarter than him or 👉aggressively noncompliant is makes you unattractive in general to men..
Have your convictions and your boundaries set in STONE..
When you realize that you could’ve done what you didn’t do. Then you come back around to vow that you’ll follow through. Then you wait cause it’s not the perfect time, but then you wait so long that again you change your mind. Then your mind reminds yourself of it again, but you still do nothing for fear you cannot win. And then when you’ve reached the end of your road you regret that you’ve listened to what you were told. And then you feel it’s too late to make amends but your dreams could care less, for they come to your mind again..