Pain is GIFT!!!

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it.

You will run from it.

You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings.

Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.

You worry about how you look: Daily.

You worry about him not loving you: Daily.

You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.

But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.

You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexyย  you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.

 

Will you change?
The truth?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.

Why?
Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.

Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.

But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.

What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…

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“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

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Nappy-Headed “Spiritual” Hoes

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“Men Who Want Natural Sisters be like”
A man who has no aspirations for “worldly” things has nothing to lose. And a man who has nothing to lose ALSO has no incentive to commit nor sacrifice for HIMSELF or YOU.

Statistically they earn less, do not get married, have no formal education, and have fatherless children. A Relationship (while on the physical plane) IS a material act.

From your first date that you dress up for, to the gas you put in your car to meet her at the “park to talk”, to the penis that goes into the vagina, to the babies that are birthed as a result of sex. All material.

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Only men with little ambition ride the “Spirituality” wave because they assume that “natural sistahs” only want a tub of Shea butter from the street vendor and a meat-free gravy and brown rice on a styrofoam plate to make us happy.

Meanwhile, he is out here heckling BUT secretly lusting after those “material girls” for whom his pockets aren’t deep enough to get. It’s a game to exploit your compassion and steal your “understanding” and your “agreeableness” for “duty-free”, “effortless pussy” nothing more.

 

When the talk of Spirituality comes up in a conversation about relationships and this conversation is directed towards any “nappy-headed sista (and I this term with endearment) I gonna need for you to understand that a net is being cast out to your vagina FREE PUSSY.

And what is the truth here?

The truth is that you are MORE SPIRITUAL WITHOUT DIK than with it so his job is to bring MATERIAL things to your feet to PAY for the “blessings” he is hoping to receive from YOUUUUU.

~Salkis Re

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Love Attachments

“Holding On”
Written by Salkis Re
I love you so much, and this is why I keep holding onto you.
We’ve been through too much,
and you’ve done things I never thought you’d do.

But there is not much else that can actually hurt me
cause I’m not focused on your mistakes, only how I feel.

They told me to get rid of you
one million and a thousand times,
but they offer nothing to replace
the space you hold in my heart.

And I know it ain’t all you,
cause you were my emotional prisoner
and had all manner of reasons to run.
But know this baby, that my love is reformed.

And I realize that to love you,
I can’t be afraid to let you go.
All I can do now is simply is care,
and hope that my love is strong enough
to reignite the love we once shared.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“Holding On” Art by Salkis Re

 

Sometimes, we have to take the blame for running people we love away from us.

Sometimes the love is just overbearing and people feel imprisoned by your excessive compulsion to express one’s feelings.

Saying “I love You” everyday isn’t as powerful as saying it when you TRULY feel it.

When you hold on too tight, people start to build resentment

and disregard for what you are desperately trying to convey.

Sometimes saying nothing is all you need to create a longing…

Sometime giving someone their space is the elixir for appreciation.

And then….

When they need to be held, hold them tight. Rock him in your arms so close that you leave your scent on him.

But allow him to WANT you.

This is key to love…

The KEY is to LET GO!!!

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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How to Use Men!!

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Art by Salkis Re

“I want to get to know you.”
That’s the first thing that he says..
And you get all giddy.
Thinking that you are being honored because a man wants to “know” you.
Well you should abhor it or at least be cautious.
No. Funk that!
I’m not going to coddle you.
You Should be against familiarity of any kind!
His knowledge of YOU is not beneficial for YOU.
“You’re Two-faced.”
I think that’s what it’s called.
A phrase meant to insult and defame you,
yet it be a character trait that keeps your protective fence electrified!
I told you that authenticity is overrated.
You expose every wound to bloody hounds,
and then cry when they bite you.
This is the residue of “knowledge“, of “knowing” Alllll about you.
So what should you do?
Stop blending and mixing and stirring and kneading every part of you together.
Gather up the council in your head and assign them duties that do not cross pollinate each other.
Be a total bitch when the circumstances call for it.
Be a mother when it it she required.
Be a lover when you want passion.
Be a wife to be secure your future.
Be a healer to protect your interests.
Be what is necessary for the appropriate time,
for the appropriate situation, and most importantly,
for the appropriate recipient… .
๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ
“The Black Hat Society”
“Mistress of Words”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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You Got That Hotep-itis?

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“Spiritual Advisor and Artist”: Salkis Re

 

“Eeeeewhew, You Got That Hotep-itis ”
Written by Salkis Re

I would like to say something about love in your image and after your likeness. Sisters are still getting baited in by this “love my black sister shyte” All a black man has to tell you is that he loves your hair and your skin tone, and 90 percent of his “show and prove” to get into your crotch is complete??
๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ
I hear that shit all the time: “I love you hair Queen” And this is what I say: Oh! Is that right!
Because it’s of no consequence me if they love it or not, but they make it a point because they feel we need validation and “upliftment” and their emotional support to feel good about ourselves.
๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ

And the trap begins…

 

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“Is This What You Want?” Art by Salkis Re

Superficial matters(how things LOOK) will ALWAYS be contrary to what they really are. And you should NOT judge a book by it’s cover! Nappy hair and dark skin = low maintenance and low expectations.
You can romanticize about how these men revere you because you LOOK like you are more connected to Mother Earth, but the fact is that you are (to them) ๐Ÿค”Low Hanging Fruit my dear, and by low hanging fruit, I mean EASY pickings. You want out of the white man’s system to sleep in a tent and apples all day? That’s the dream these hoteps are selling you while they have YOU begging for TAX PAYER money from your family members and others who have jobs??

So better for you to be a naked beggar than use your ability to prosper?

And when your ambition is taken away, so is your expectations and your boundaries fall away too then BAM! All you are made for is to fuck and Suck all day all.

 

His NUT is coming sure and strong because you let him psycho babble you out your fucking panties.

๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ

Get over this need to direction from men who want to fuck you!! You can read just like he can, and if you don’t understand something, you don’t need to fuck him to get understanding!! Follow?

๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ
“Haul and Pull Up” like Dem Jamaicans does say!
๐ŸŒผ”Black Hat Society”

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

๐ŸŒผ”Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
๐ŸŒผ”Medicine Woman for Healing”
๐ŸŒผ”Mistress of Words for Spells”
๐ŸŒผ”Black Girl Magic for Life”
๐ŸŒผ”ARTIST”
~Salkis Re
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Black Girl Blues: I Tried to Straighten My Nose With a Cloths Pin

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Clothes Pins on My Nose”

I remember when I would put clothes pin on my nose to try to make my nose less ‘African’. I’d steal one from the clothes line and after I said my prayers, I’d put it on my nose to try to sleep with it on through the night.

Almost made it through the night
I tossed and turned under sheets trying to console myself through the discomfort, and of course I never actually made it through the night: My record for the longest time spent with that forking clothes pin on my nose was whopping two hours though.

I know it you know

That feeling like you wish you born another way, as someone else. I would look at my mother and secretly be angry with her for mating with my dad because if she picked a lighter man, then I would have turned out prettier instead of this black and ugly that my peers called me everyday.

I thought I was Ugly

Now, my father was a handsome man. Hands down ‘Sagga Boy‘ as they say in Trinidad. I loved my father dearly, I was a ‘daddy’s girl’ through and through.

  • But I was tall like him,
  • But I had big lips like him,
  • But I had his nose
  • But I was dark like him,

so I thought I looked ugly because I looked like him and to like him meant I looked like a boy. And to top of that notion,( in my child mind) I also thought that boys should be dark and girls should be light-skin cause that’s all I saw in the media, my community etc.
It took years to get over my suppositions about beauty; It took years of allowing myself to be used, believing the biases of society and being played by the people I loved and respected for me to realize the lies.

You have to ‘decide’ to have self esteem. And in your decision to value yourself comes the responsibility of how you ‘act’ and what you do to support that. People are more concerned with themselves than you, so the approval you are seeking from others is never going to come. And They can’t give you approval because are in search of it for themselves too!

 

Your notions of yourself, if based solely on the reaction or response from other people, will be false and that’s whether they give you a compliment or a dis! Be careful with kind words too. You could become a slave to ‘positive reinforcement’ also. I’ve met gorgeous women who are used to hearing that they are gorgeous, and still get in a panic attack if the ‘aggrandizing’ from others is nonexistent or comes in a little slow.

And those early thoughts of myself is a major reason behind my artistry. I see the power of imagery.

You either Create who you want to be, or let others tell you what you are.
Which will you choose?

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