Sexual Energy: How to Get An Abundance of it!

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Sexual energy is about -energy- not so much about intentionally looking sexy. And the truth that some of are trying so hard to look sexy that it reads like desperation instead of attractiveness.

Eye contact can transmit sexual energy, so can your scent, how you walk and how you talk..

Does proper hip to waist ratio help: of course.

But if you do not posses this it does not mean you are out the game.

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You are only out the game when you are ashamed of yourself, when you’ve given in to excuses and vices to distract you from the reality that you need to change..

A few things that will boost your sex appeal:

Less Makeup.

Ditch the -beat face- for a fresh face look.. When you wear excessive amounts of makeup you hide your natural beauty which is your fertility.

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Workout.

Working out will change your body composition but more importantly it will regulate your hormones. It helps to keep you emotionally grounded and it should be seen as a self honoring ritual rather than torture.

Ditch the Sugar.

Eating process sugar causes cellular death. It dries out the skin and causes it to thin and sag. It dries out the vagina too. Depression and food are linked and sugar causes you to lose mental focus and invites hallucinations like depression and boredom when your blood sugar crashes after the high.

Wash your Vagina:

A stink vagina can cause a lack of confidence too.ūüĎÄ If you open your legs and it smells like tilapia and hot blue cheese, you need to douche that playground and go on a dik diet. Diks make the vagina itch and smell, so if you are fuccing several men at the same time, I know your puwsy smells like a butcher’s box. Stop believing these hoes who tell you that you are “winning” when you can get a nut from men who don’t even really like you. ISSA LIE!

Don’t be Afraid of Men!

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STOP taking men so seriously too. Men are scared of being hurt and wished they didn’t have that bell pepper nose or that dark skin just like you.ūüĎÄ
Some wish they had more money or bigger diks but they manage to still feel entitled even with the shyte load of flaws they posses.
Understand that they want something from you, and work out what your exchange rate is- i.e. marriage/money/girlfriend/lover etc..

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

And I need for you to resist the conditioning of “pricing” yourself as a supposed negative concept.

Everyone around you is judging your worth.

It may be based on how you look, or you talents and intelligence, but everybody is “adding you up”.

From your employer to your boyfriend, everyone is quantifying and making assessments about your value.

SO you need to have a number in your head  that you’ve reached through introspection and self evaluation.

If you feed people nourishing food from scratch, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are extremely efficient and conscientious, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are a healer and generous, that is worth SUMthing.

What is your worth black woman?

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Love Does Not Exist!

I know I know…

WTF Salkis! You’re just a bitter Dark skin woman who’s been beaten down by life and you want to bring every else down with you! Blah blah blah…..

 

HaHa! I can hear you through the computer screen..

But it’s true..

You can be accommodating.

You can be attractive.

You can be selfless.

You can be Beautiful.

 

 

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“The Sun” Original Art by Salkis Re

And love… can/will/does flutter away….

Why is it so hard to love?

Because LOVE is a fool game!

It for the ignorant people who are first getting to know each other.

The excitement of the first kiss.

The discovery of hidden talents.

The wonderment around not knowing what a person is capable of..

That is LOVE in a nutshell!

Love is infatuation.

Love happens when you DO NOT KNOW A PERSON.

Why?

Because its your imaginings of them that seduce you into having feelings of clinginess and attachment.

Then once you get to know them. And you realize that they are not as perfect as you imagined..

The LOVE for them goes away..

And you are left with reality..

The reality that they have perversions and dirty habits and that they are not as self assured and all knowing as you perceived them to be..

You see them get frustrated and doubtful when paying bills or interacting with others..

Reality crushes the illusion/LOVE and what was an escape at the beginning of the relationship is now a sink hole pulling you into the miasma of everyday life.

BORING..

Boredom kills love.

And boredom is inevitable as you become familiar with another person.

So prepare to be dissapointed.

Prepare to be turned off.

Prepare for them scorn you when they sell your first Bowel Movement because you mistakenly didn’t flush to toilet before you left the bathroom..

 

Prepare for what relationship really are: a journey in forgiveness and understanding of someone who gets on your nerves most of the time..

 

 

 

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Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Taking Back Control of Your Mind

It’s a harsh but liberating reality when you’ve reached the conclusion that everything in this society is based on a lie..

It should relieve you actually.

The lie, I mean.

Why?

Because you are fearful because you believe the marketing campaigns and the propaganda of narcissists and psychopaths and the machine called “Our Society” ¬†when their ONE GOAL is to convince you that you aren’t good enough.

People spend a lot of money to manufacture your low self esteem.

A lot of what appears to be God’s Chosen are afforded to opportunity to find out the best ways in which to control your ¬†behavior, your thoughts, your creativity, your income, your style, your morals etc…

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“WE Played” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

No stone is left unturned..

The Mark of the Beast is already on every persons head..

You thought it would be a cattle brand when its the phone in your hand, when its you job, when its the food you eat and who you marry..

You take back control by taking control of your emotions. You get a hold of your mind by examining your choices and what is inspiring you to make them.

Full examination of who and what you are..

 

 

 

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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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How to Handle Manipulators

So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of  these labels like
Narcissist,
Manipulators,
Passive Aggressive,
Pathological Liars
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
Pathological liars
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2.  They use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….
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“I Understand” Original Art by Salkis RE
All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming¬†a FELINE!!¬†

Be a Pussy Kat!

You are wondering how to be?

You want to know what you need to do and say and be to get the things you want in life.

And it is really as simple as adopting the nature of a feline..

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“Ms Kitty Says” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here


The magic that is a Cat is something so majestic, so mysterious, so gentle and fierce and it really cannot be compared to anything thing else in this world.

Your nature should be congruent with your expectations. You can’t act one way (that you realize is ineffective) and expect to get the results you want.

Most of reasons why we suffer as women is through in indoctrination of guilt.

 

Guilt is a powerful persuasive technique because it creates self doubt and weakness within the mind.

 

Cats are superior opportunists and do not linger around past your usefulness.

They get their food and leave.

They come and demand your attention and then leave again.

They rub up against your leg and prrrrr for a while and the leave.

They’ll even bring you a freshly killed mouse as a gift of generosity….

and then the leave.

You can be loved and completely ignored by that same cat which makes you love the cat even more.

 

 

If someone can make you feel guilt and shame, THEY OWN YOU! PERIODT!

So you my dear, you must become like the feline, ever on her purpose, not easily impressed to care or not.

She is a watcher,

quiet,

yet you feel her presence when she is in the room…

BE A KAT!!! Prrrrrrr

 

She will not “cum” to you until SHE wants too……
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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

info@theuglygirlsclub.com

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How Not to Influence People

How NOT To Influence People

You Cannot Influence ANYONE

if you do it from a position powerlessness.

This is why I do not engage in conversations about

why black men don’t like dark skin girls or whether “Light Skin Privilege

( fair skin women enjoy real relationships and happy lives)

is an actual thing for us to worry about, or even why

black men are going to white women or traveling

outside the U.S. to find exotic women to marry…

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What other¬†woman experience¬†is NOT¬†a measure of what you can’t get or what you will¬†experience¬†yourself!

The only way you could have¬†similar resultsis if you mirror how that¬†other woman¬†thinks, And I’m not interested (nor¬†should you be)¬†in believing that YOU¬†cannot have what YOU¬†DESERVE TO HAVE!

Why are you parroting off talking points from anyone who tells you that you don’t have a chance in hell to get what you want?

Do You value freedom?

Don’t you want to feel free??

Well what is freedom?

FREEDOM Doing what you want

when you want

with who you want!

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Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis RE

Freedom To Me Means HAVING A CHOICE!

And your first step to being able to choose what you want, is to OWN WHAT YOU WANT!

Meaning, don’t ever again feel ashamed¬†for wanting something

whether that be a millionaire husband, having a lots of your own money,

having a child, being attractive, or living your life purpose!

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You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that¬†Life is¬†Journey***

Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

You have to live on purpose just like you did when you went to

school everyday to get your degree, or go to the gym workout..

You do things to get a forking RESULT, not for a journey!!

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

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“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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Why You Can’t Get a Man: And It’s Not Because of How You Look!

You don’t have love and you think it’s because you are an unattractive black woman with a:

dark skin,

big nose,

overweight,

uneducated,

no curves etc…
It’s not because of ANY of those reasons!!
Yes.

People you who are apart of this society will come to you with their “programmed” perceptions of your worth.

So WHAT!!!

Who can use you without your participation?
Who can lie to without your belief in them?
Who can string you along without your patience?

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You don’t get what you want because you let “them” beat the PASSION out of you!
You don’t get what you want because you are “The Walking Dead”.
Soulless.
An Inanimate mass of flesh waiting for “them” to “Turn You On”!


This why YOU don’t have what you want.
Being “Nice” or “Good” doesn’t translate into PASSION.
And you have to ask yourself this: What am I willing to lose to show who I truly am?

Can you bear the criticism?
Can you stomach looking like you are crazy?
Can you come to terms with your unconventional looks and the skin suit you wear?

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If you are unattractive AND boring, there is no hope for you. Just jump off the next bridge to put yourself out of your own misery!


But if you don’t want to end it all: THEN RISK IT ALL.
Put yourself on blast!
Speak what’s on your mind!
Do what your God has assigned for you.
And let the chips fall where they got damn may!!
.
“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

 

If you enjoy these emails packed with nuggets of wisdom,

please do share them, and leave a comment to let me know

how you feel about what I’ve said..

‚ÄúLife¬†Coach‚ÄĚ

‚ÄúArtist‚ÄĚ

‚ÄúAuthor‚ÄĚ

‚ÄúPoet‚ÄĚ
~Salkis Re

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Why Women Stay With Bad Men!

Someone “made” you feel ugly?
Some “made” you feel insecure?
Someone “made” your worthless?
All he did was express how he felt about you..
He gave you his perspective and packaged it with a sales pitch.

He habitually stated that pitch until your resistance withered away.

Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Why didn’t YOU walk away?
You Want the TRUTH?

Because he never told you a “lie”!!
He told you everything you ALREADY believed about yourself!
And though his words hurt to hear, it made you feel comfortable and

even “Closer” to him because you shared the same feelings about yourself…

FACTS!

Don’t blame him for holding up the mirror.
The question to ask is:
How do you feel about you?
If you Answer that honestly, your healing can begin…

So what do we want to do here exactly.

What you want to do is start clearing up misconceptions and opinions and “Truths”

that do not support the narrative you WANT to believe in!

I have said it before, and I will say it yet again.

Everything you think that you are is “Make Believe”,

it starts off as a feeling,

then from that feeling inspires an action

then from the action, you create a habit.

Then before long,

you’ve done or thought ¬†whatever it is for so long that it moves as a truth in your life,

dictating and altering your perception of your reality..

We want to rewire our brains.

This is how you heal from ANYTHING. I don’t care what it is.

The depression, the disease, the lack ALL stem from your beliefs.

And your beliefs are NOTHING BUT DECISIONS MADE OVER AND OVER AGAIN..

You can start to change by become “AWARE” of everything you feel.

“Becoming aware means that you start catching yourself in the mist of doing something habitual.¬†


That negative self talk, or going for that piece of cake you don’t need,

you see what you are doing and from there you will want to start to questioning your behavior.

Why am I saying this about myself?

Why am I grabbing the chocolate cake when I know it makes me feel unstable?

What is it that I am looking to feel?

Am I trying to relieve my anxiety?

Am I trying to distract myself from pain?

What you want to start doing in begin to FEEL everything so

that you have to opportunity to question everything that you feel.


To pose a question breaks the script!

It breaks your confidence in your “Truth”.

It requires you to THINK!

THINKING is what will strengthen you!

Why?

Because thinking requires that you find TRUE answers…

THINKING brings the gift of resolution.

THINKING means that you get to change the narrative

when you figured out that what you believe is bull s%Jt!

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

‚ÄúYour Self Esteem Coach‚ÄĚ
~Salkis Re

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Soft Porn Everywhere!

“Soft Porn”
Written by Salkis Re
 

Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously

about how we should look and feel about ourselves and 
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
 
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You are being programed to feel insecure.

You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
 
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They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain

 
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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No Reward!

You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..

And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion… ¬†

Wake Up “Mummy”


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I‚Äôm CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

‚ÄúYour Self Esteem Coach‚ÄĚ
~Salkis Re

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Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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