Why Evil is Stronger Than Good

And nothing you think about yourself will stick unless its backed by HEAT.

What do I mean by heat?
When you are angry, you are hot! Your heart beats fast and your body literally raises in temperature.

Reality T.V. HAS Made Us FAKE!

I think of Nina Simon and Lauryn Hill for instance.

Very multidimensional women.

Hard to love or should I say hard to contain… 

Loving someone requires respect. And it requires space.

Sanaa Says Marriage Ain’t That Important!

 

 

 

Sanaa Lathan And marriage
Taylor Rooks and Sanaa Lathan at CultureCon event,

 

A WEIRD obsession that black women have to get married??

Why is a woman wanting to get married now classified as a weird obsession??

Sanaa goes on to say that the divorce rate is over 50% and she doesn’t invest in anything that has such low odds..

She went on to say that black women are being pressured into marriage as well.

 

So we are pressured to get married and have a weird obsession with it as well.

Hmmm…

 

Well I will say this. With 72% of all black births from 2015 were from non married black women, how successful is this pressure on black women to get married???

 

Only 25% of Black Are Married??

Among currently married adults between the ages of 15 to 44 only 26 percent of black women were married, 45 percent of Hispanic women were married and 51 percent of white women were married (Goodwin, Mosher, and Chandra 2010

 

Over the life course, Blacks are the least likely of all racial groups to ever marry (Parker and Wang 2014).

 

We cannot subscribe to this feminism agenda.. Sanaa comes from a privileged background.

 

She is financially independent, childless and almost 50 years old. Good genetics has afforded her steady marketability with her industry BUT in real life, she would be considered a woman who has HIT A WALL.

 

Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese
Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese

Putting Marriage Last?

Putting yourself first is fabulous, and I support that 100%, but if you are unable

to have found and experienced a life partnership at almost 50 years old,

there is a probability that there is some mental instability or just narcissistic or extreme selfishness at play here.

 

There are no men dragging black women down the isle and the girlfriends of

black women are supporters, accomplices, providers of alibis

for black women who find it a more attainable goal to f*CK for money and fun and babies instead of marriage.

 

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“Women want POWER not Equality or Responsibility”~ DR Phil Valentine

That’s a problem.

To insinuate that a black woman is emotionally unstable because she earnestly wants a life partner is parasitic

in scope and an enemy to the structure of the family and our race in general.

 

The Problem With Our Black MEN

The problem we are having now is a lack of warriors and men to reset the order of society and men in general are not problem solvers. Men offer no solutions, no protection and no provisions for the black woman.

 

Therefore, black women have become their own protectors, their own providers, they educate their children on their own which leaves a residue of low self worth, hopelessness and suspiciousness of the intentions and the efficiency of black men altogether.

 

So This post is about becoming clear about what our collective aim is as black women. And we don’t need black women who have “given Up” on the goal of sacred unions to be the voice for the young black women coming up who SHAMED now  for even wanting to be marriage from women who can’t get a man to stay with them long enough to ask!

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Sexual Energy: How to Get An Abundance of it!

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Sexual energy is about -energy- not so much about intentionally looking sexy. And the truth that some of are trying so hard to look sexy that it reads like desperation instead of attractiveness.

Eye contact can transmit sexual energy, so can your scent, how you walk and how you talk..

Does proper hip to waist ratio help: of course.

But if you do not posses this it does not mean you are out the game.

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You are only out the game when you are ashamed of yourself, when you’ve given in to excuses and vices to distract you from the reality that you need to change..

A few things that will boost your sex appeal:

Less Makeup.

Ditch the -beat face- for a fresh face look.. When you wear excessive amounts of makeup you hide your natural beauty which is your fertility.

Beautiful natural black women

Workout.

Working out will change your body composition but more importantly it will regulate your hormones. It helps to keep you emotionally grounded and it should be seen as a self honoring ritual rather than torture.

Ditch the Sugar.

Eating process sugar causes cellular death. It dries out the skin and causes it to thin and sag. It dries out the vagina too. Depression and food are linked and sugar causes you to lose mental focus and invites hallucinations like depression and boredom when your blood sugar crashes after the high.

Wash your Vagina:

A stink vagina can cause a lack of confidence too.👀 If you open your legs and it smells like tilapia and hot blue cheese, you need to douche that playground and go on a dik diet. Diks make the vagina itch and smell, so if you are fuccing several men at the same time, I know your puwsy smells like a butcher’s box. Stop believing these hoes who tell you that you are “winning” when you can get a nut from men who don’t even really like you. ISSA LIE!

Don’t be Afraid of Men!

Corny Black Men
STOP taking men so seriously too. Men are scared of being hurt and wished they didn’t have that bell pepper nose or that dark skin just like you.👀
Some wish they had more money or bigger diks but they manage to still feel entitled even with the shyte load of flaws they posses.
Understand that they want something from you, and work out what your exchange rate is- i.e. marriage/money/girlfriend/lover etc..

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

And I need for you to resist the conditioning of “pricing” yourself as a supposed negative concept.

Everyone around you is judging your worth.

It may be based on how you look, or you talents and intelligence, but everybody is “adding you up”.

From your employer to your boyfriend, everyone is quantifying and making assessments about your value.

SO you need to have a number in your head  that you’ve reached through introspection and self evaluation.

If you feed people nourishing food from scratch, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are extremely efficient and conscientious, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are a healer and generous, that is worth SUMthing.

What is your worth black woman?

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Love Does Not Exist!

I know I know…

WTF Salkis! You’re just a bitter Dark skin woman who’s been beaten down by life and you want to bring every else down with you! Blah blah blah…..

 

HaHa! I can hear you through the computer screen..

But it’s true..

You can be accommodating.

You can be attractive.

You can be selfless.

You can be Beautiful.

 

 

African Abstract art painting by Salkis Re
“The Sun” Original Art by Salkis Re

And love… can/will/does flutter away….

Why is it so hard to love?

Because LOVE is a fool game!

It for the ignorant people who are first getting to know each other.

The excitement of the first kiss.

The discovery of hidden talents.

The wonderment around not knowing what a person is capable of..

That is LOVE in a nutshell!

Love is infatuation.

Love happens when you DO NOT KNOW A PERSON.

Why?

Because its your imaginings of them that seduce you into having feelings of clinginess and attachment.

Then once you get to know them. And you realize that they are not as perfect as you imagined..

The LOVE for them goes away..

And you are left with reality..

The reality that they have perversions and dirty habits and that they are not as self assured and all knowing as you perceived them to be..

You see them get frustrated and doubtful when paying bills or interacting with others..

Reality crushes the illusion/LOVE and what was an escape at the beginning of the relationship is now a sink hole pulling you into the miasma of everyday life.

BORING..

Boredom kills love.

And boredom is inevitable as you become familiar with another person.

So prepare to be dissapointed.

Prepare to be turned off.

Prepare for them scorn you when they sell your first Bowel Movement because you mistakenly didn’t flush to toilet before you left the bathroom..

 

Prepare for what relationship really are: a journey in forgiveness and understanding of someone who gets on your nerves most of the time..

 

 

 

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Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

How to Handle Manipulators

So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of  these labels like
Narcissist,
Manipulators,
Passive Aggressive,
Pathological Liars
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
Pathological liars
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2.  They use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….

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“I Understand” Original Art by Salkis RE

All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming a FELINE!! 

Be a Pussy Kat!

You are wondering how to be?

You want to know what you need to do and say and be to get the things you want in life.

And it is really as simple as adopting the nature of a feline..

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“Ms Kitty Says” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here


The magic that is a Cat is something so majestic, so mysterious, so gentle and fierce and it really cannot be compared to anything thing else in this world.

Your nature should be congruent with your expectations. You can’t act one way (that you realize is ineffective) and expect to get the results you want.

Most of reasons why we suffer as women is through in indoctrination of guilt.

 

Guilt is a powerful persuasive technique because it creates self doubt and weakness within the mind.

 

Cats are superior opportunists and do not linger around past your usefulness.

They get their food and leave.

They come and demand your attention and then leave again.

They rub up against your leg and prrrrr for a while and the leave.

They’ll even bring you a freshly killed mouse as a gift of generosity….

and then the leave.

You can be loved and completely ignored by that same cat which makes you love the cat even more.

 

 

If someone can make you feel guilt and shame, THEY OWN YOU! PERIODT!

So you my dear, you must become like the feline, ever on her purpose, not easily impressed to care or not.

She is a watcher,

quiet,

yet you feel her presence when she is in the room…

BE A KAT!!! Prrrrrrr

 

She will not “cum” to you until SHE wants too……
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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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How Not to Influence People

You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

Why You Can’t Get a Man: And It’s Not Because of How You Look!

You don’t have love and you think it’s because you are an unattractive black woman with a:

dark skin,

big nose,

overweight,

uneducated,

no curves etc…
It’s not because of ANY of those reasons!!
Yes.

People you who are apart of this society will come to you with their “programmed” perceptions of your worth.

So WHAT!!!

Who can use you without your participation?
Who can lie to without your belief in them?
Who can string you along without your patience?

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You don’t get what you want because you let “them” beat the PASSION out of you!
You don’t get what you want because you are “The Walking Dead”.
Soulless.
An Inanimate mass of flesh waiting for “them” to “Turn You On”!


This why YOU don’t have what you want.
Being “Nice” or “Good” doesn’t translate into PASSION.
And you have to ask yourself this: What am I willing to lose to show who I truly am?

Can you bear the criticism?
Can you stomach looking like you are crazy?
Can you come to terms with your unconventional looks and the skin suit you wear?

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If you are unattractive AND boring, there is no hope for you. Just jump off the next bridge to put yourself out of your own misery!


But if you don’t want to end it all: THEN RISK IT ALL.
Put yourself on blast!
Speak what’s on your mind!
Do what your God has assigned for you.
And let the chips fall where they got damn may!!
.
“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

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“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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