Why Aren’t You Winning in Life?

African Abstract Art
“To Be Brown” Oil Painting BY Salkis Re

Why Cant You Win?

Little Black Girl, why do you feel like you can’t win?

Was it your mommy who told you that you were no intelligent enough to win?

Was it your father’s indifference about soending time with you?

Was it your pretended to be your friend just to play with your toys?

Was it the teacher who was to impatient to help you understand the math equations so you could pass the test?


Was It Your First Love?

Was it your first love who only held your hand when no one was looking because he only want to give you attention to have access to your body?

Was it the employer at work who berates you in front of your colleagues even though you work harder than the rest?

Justification for divesting from life is abundant for you, but will it serve a purpose that benefits you in the end?


Can I Love On You?

Can I say that I love you since your Momma didn’t say it?

Can I tell you that i will protect you since your Father didn’t do it?

Can I say that I care about you since your Boyfriend never meant it?

Can I say that you have my loyalty since your Friends have never been it?


I need you to come play with me
Let’s dance and dream again.
Let’s create our reality like we did with mud pies and tea parties and catching fireflies…

Recreate Yourself today!

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Paintong: “To Be Brown”

Beautiful Black Women

Why Does Attractiveness Destroy US

This is what chasing VANITY does.

It causes mental senility and physical neglect!
Why?
Cause you won’t go to the gym if you can’t get a bubble butt.
You won’t eat the salad if your friend doesn’t eat it too.

Class and Status Are ILLUSIONS

We are lied to about pedigree and class you know. We’ve been conditioned to think that looking good, tailored clothing and speaking in the Queen’s English is a measure of status and even God’s favor.

Ask a maid next time you really want to know about “CLASS. I’ve had a few in my family, and they can tell you what goes on in these deluxe apartments in the sky.

How The High Status Front!

How the babies don’t get bathed or their hair combed until the nanny’s arrive even if it’s 3 days until her shift starts again.

How these privileged employers constantly short their checks and “miscalculate” their wages.

How their elderly people are alone with no one to talk to until the maid comes to clean the house and change the Depends the elders sat in all day. How they “reused” dirty panties and the wife is on some drug to keep her mania at functional levels.

How the men suggest “favors” for salary increases or for the “help” to stay past shift hours and not get compensated for it.

We’ve won every pageant but it doesn’t matter!

You mimic what you don’t truly understand and you don’t respect your own value.
We even have a Miss Teen USA, a Miss USA, a Miss America AND a Miss Universe who’s from Africa. THEY gave you a full court press win across the board, so Do we love ourselves and our likeness any more today because of it?
Is the stock market value of cake soap and skin bleaching creams dropping?

No.
Because the image of social status and even the lie about our economic power is still transfixed in our minds. And pageants nothing more than validation farms just all bureaus and judging panels: Whomever crowns you is STILL KING!!

Class and Status Are Games

You are intimidated by the STAGE PLAY called SOCIETY and the GAME called LIFE because you aren’t fully aware that this is nothing more than smoke and mirrors that holding up the appearance of “class and status”.

Waiting On Their Trophies

They claimed who “They” are and you have the power by your birthright to do the same, but you want to wait for them to knight you so that it’s more “Official”. You seek authentication from those who feel that a dog’s life is worth fighting for more than yours, but rationalize your mimicry of them as a choice instead of insanity?
It’s time to align yourself with YOUR CREATOR.

GET UP!!

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of “The Ugly Girls Club”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Need a mentor? Email me at info@salkisre.com

Ugly Is As Ugly Does

We are under the assumption that the results we get in life are from how we feel about ourselves.

Energy is EVERYTHING!

ENERGY alters our perception of reality, of possibilities, of opportunities.

The wrong energy will inspire destructive behavior.

The right energy can facilitate healing of the body.

You are Energy and Matter

How you THINK creates your energetic body and influences the dysfunction or efficiency of your internal organs.

You feeling ugly is what makes you appear that way to yourself and other people.

You thinking that you are valueless is the reason for all your failed relationships.

Be on guard for the thoughts you allow to reside in your mind

When you begin to understand how influential your thoughts are to the outcomes you are experiencing, you will begin to be more careful in what you allow into your mind.

Listening to stories of defeat, create the environment of defeat within your mind which in turn, plays out in real life.

What you think about is what you become.

What to be attractive? Then you have to think of yourself as such AND perform the actions that are in alignment with what YOU perceive is a character trait of attractive people.

Thought and deed must align themselves for you to manifest the results you want..

Xoxo

~Salkis Re

Need a mentor?

Email me at: info@salkisre.com

How Control Your Thoughts

Evil People, Control Others

You can’t control people unless you are a psychopath with a low threshold of shame and remorse, or a fallen angel like the Devil who has access to unlimited funds to con people through Hollywood style sorcery.

Since you aren’t either of these, your control mechanism is limited to your person. You get to regulate YOU at any time, 24 hours a day.

African American Art
“Claudine’s Hotcomb Blue”

You Thoughts Are Powerful

And that’s nothing to dimiss here. It’s very powerful, especially when you start realizing the scale in which you can exercise your right to think for yourself.

  • You feel devalued because of : the opinions of other people.
  • You feel unattractive because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you ARE pretty because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you are special because of: the opinions of other people.

Kind Words Are Always Snatched Back

And what people will do is twist their view points of you to serve the purpose at hand.
If you need to be controlled, your self worth will be challenged by taking away what was once a trusted opinion of your grandiosity.

If your trust is needed to acquire something, he will offer you an “opinion” about your looks or encourage you to be confident so that your perception of his intent goes unchallenged .

And when it serves him to do so, he or she can snatch that opinion away,, and drop you right back off at the place where you were questioning your value to begin with.

How do you feel about what people think of you?

And I bet you whisper that they are wrong about you, yet you continue to live like you believe them.

You Feel a Bit Foolish

You know that there’s something off about how much reassurance you need from others.

That attention you seek makes you feel a bit foolish, especially as you wash the makeup off your face and place your wig on the nightstand.

You Check Your Sanity By Looking at Other Women

You feel trapped.
Literally.
But you look around to other women to check your sanity, and since every other woman you see acts the same way, you that decide your suspicions about your sanity are just you over thinking things..

Trust yourself.
Ask yourself what you want or how you feel about your worth.
Fix what is broken, but don’t tinker with nature cause she will kick your arse for trying.

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of: “The Ugly Girls Club ”
~Salkis Re
Painting: “Claudine’s Hotcomb Blues”

2020 New Year for Manifesting!

Are you gonna REALLY be about Black Girl Magic for 2020?
I believe that the forces of nature will help you now more than ever before.

I also believe that the price to pay for what you want will be the greatest its ever been.
You will have to bleed for it, but it WILL come.
You will have be disciplined for it, but it will come.
You’re gonna be uncomfortable,
unsure,
maybe even a little afraid: BUT it will come.

“Colored Girl” Original Art by Salkis Re

Yes.

Whatever you focus on WILL come!.
But the key is to relax.
Your BREATH determines outcomes.
They make you think it’s luck or pedigree that dictates your fate, but no little dove, it’s your BREATH.

Breathing Regulates EVERYTHING!

What do you mean Salkis?
The breath holds the key to how you process food,

stress,

energy,

ecstasy,

perception,

fear,

depression,

anxiety,

insecurities etc..

Beautiful Black women

What are you doing right now?
You are breathing shallow..

Why?
Because you are bracing yourself.

Why?
Because you dont want to get hurt.

๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฟYou breathe like you are in pain.
And this causes a depletion of oxygenated blood, which inhibits proper nervous system function.
๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฟYou breathe like you are scared.
And this is why you fail at love, at weight loss, at abundance, and creativity..

Dark Skin women
Babies breath correctly..

BABIES CAN TEACH YOU TO MANIFEST

Watch how babies breathe.
They take full diaphragmatic breaths.
Why?
Because they haven’t learned to brace themselves for the “anticipation” of pain..

๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฟYou want to manifest?
It’s not about a vision board or a better business plan if you are creating these while holding your breath in fear.
Breathe through your self doubt.
Breathe through the physical pain.
Breathe through your low self worth.

The year of BEING is upon us.

You will have to stop all the excuses and being ruled by your fears now.. You have to become a woman who lives in the realm of certainty.

And your certainty get’s its nourishment from our daily activities.

You need to be careful what you absorb. This means, what you eat, what you hear, what you see, what you think, who you screw and what you say..

ALL of this plays a role in outcomes that show up as fate in your life.

Never again presume that you can write a vision and not FEEL IT, TALK ABOUT IT, LEARN IT and ACCEPT IT!

Yogic Breathing

What makes You A LIVING SOUL?

Give yourself the breath of life!
Were you not told that the breath made you a “Living Soul”?

Inhale completely, pause, then empty your lungs completely.
20x every day.
Then sit still.
Close your eyes and enjoy tingling as your body experiences

full nourishment for the first time since you were a youngling…

Do your breath ritual before you meditate,

eat food,

make love,

pray or anything requiring your full attention and you will become more confident,

efficient and stronger physically and mentally too.

Breathe.
Then you will MANIFEST.

Dark Skin Women
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting” Colored Girl”

ย Questions? Need Private Consulting? email me at: info@salkisre.com

Being a Hoe Is Better

You “love” or accept love based on how you perceive your own worth. Deciding NOT to identify with a culture or a race or dating outside your race is a irreality because when you look at your reflection, you are reminded of WHO YOU ARE.

Abandoning identity is something EASY to propagated to low value people or poor people to mitigate the internal struggle and shame about who they are.

A black man can date white women and still claim identity

A black man can date whomever he wants and still position himself as a voice for “his” people. He can rally people around eloquent speeches of racial injustice while enjoying a white wife and biracial offspring and his “brothers” will overlook it and won’t bat an eye.

He isn’t seen as trauma based dating like the black woman. But he also isn’t compelled to “act” different in any way because his choice to love is simply a “choice” independent of how he feels about himself.

๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฟYeah Right.

But how and why we choose mates isn’t seperate from our culture, our fears, our self image and trauma. You choose partners by the sum total of your experiences, good, bad, easy, tough etc..

We are sold on the virtue of emotional dependency

Women are always sold on the virtue of displaying a “personality” instead of who they are because our value is not in how secure we are,
it’s in how emotionally dependent (feminine) we can pretend to be while simultaneously pulling off an image of value/beauty ..

But The Mother represents customs and culture and morality of society. How and who you choose to reproduce with is a bank deposit into the quality of future generations. You pass that on to her children, and if the FEmale/M-Other abandons her scientific role as decision maker for who gets to pass on their genetics, the quality of offspring will diminish within our society as a WHOLE!

Women get caught up in the salesmanship of men

Women get caught up in the salesmanship of men because we need men to see us and DESIRE us in order to EXPERIENCE value and an identity.
This is why a woman can/does feel worthless when rejected by MEN.

But there was a time when this was NOT so, when vanity did not make YOU an emotional prisoner, when you were not underneath MEN.
And this isn’t a feminist “I hate men ” rant!

This is a Ringing of THE ALARM!!

  1. It’s the need to be desired that lands us in bed with men who do not care.
  2. It’s the need to be seen as valued that lands us in these labor and delivery rooms by ourselves.
  3. It’s the need to be identified through the eyes of men that has us casting our pearls to swine.

We have a responsibility that’s bigger than burden of being beautiful for men!

We have a responsibility that’s bigger than burden of being beautiful for men! And when you release yourself from FEARING men, from seeking their lust, you will begin to bloom as you will finally utilize the sun and rain that M-other Nature AS ALWAYS provided you!

GET UP!
“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

The Ugly Girlfriend

Ugly Women are objectified by everybody

Ugly Women are objectified by everybody including lovers but especially your nothing ass friends who encourage you to wear shyte that don’t fit and funk for coins so that you can buy them free liquor.

2020 is the start of accepting the wissom and knowledge you’ve accumulated throughout your life.
No more second guessing intent when someone blatantly disrespects you under the guise of constructive criticism or “love“.

Only Value the Opinions You Ask For

The only opinion you should ever consider is the one you actually “ask” for or “PAY” for,
then take the rest as banter with 3 grains of salt.

2020 Is the year I’m dedicating to decreasing my hesitation with educating black, unattractive women about your pathologies and that of the women you are jealous of, intimidated by or fearful of.

A New Focus For 2020

I’m expanding my coaching skills for a SPECIFIC class of women, so GET READY for THE BLACK PILL.

Why?

Because objectification isn’t going to cure your self esteem. Neither is wearing a dress nor talking in a whisper going to make you look more feminine.

Sure, acting more feminine will assure you a “Stepford Wife” result, but intrinsic self worth, a relaxed mind, and self actualization won’t ever be realized when you are forking ACTING 24 hours a day..

You Won’t Marry A Millionaire

The truth is that You/we/us will mostly likely have to create your own millions before you find a millionaire who wants to participate in anything more than fetish Mami Sex with you, and I’m NOT just talking about white men here either!๐Ÿ‘€

I’m moving FULL COURT PRESS with The Ugly Girl’s Club for 2020!
GET UP!!!

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T.I Says That Black Women Are Happier Alone!

What black women have to keep in mind, especially those of us who want marriage with black men’s to ditch the badge of honor over your need to do what you need to do to survive.

Don’t ever allow your sacrifice to be center of your value when it comes to black men.

Why Evil is Stronger Than Good

And nothing you think about yourself will stick unless its backed by HEAT.

What do I mean by heat?
When you are angry, you are hot! Your heart beats fast and your body literally raises in temperature.