How do you get love?
Is it by being beautiful?
By speaking softly?
By being skilled at sex?
By learning how to cook?
By doing pretty hair styles?
By paying have the rent?
How do win the heart of a man?
He Kept Running Behind Her Ass
I was perplexed about this because I saw many women who couldn’t cook, but had a man who loved them to pieces. I know many women who are average looking, questionable hygiene, spastic, aggressive personalities, beautiful “bitches” who had men hearts on life support, but he KEPT running behind her ass!
She Took His Veterans Check!!
I remember when I had my salon, I had a client who would come in only on the 1st and the 15th of the month to look cute for her “visits” to some of Veteran companions.
She would doll herself up to go sit on their laps and if they broke off enough money, she’d play with their balls for an hour or two. These gentle would give her portions of their Social Security check as compensation for the “happy hour” Now, she wasn’t particularly spectacular looking, a some of her teeth were noticably gone whenever she smiled really wide, and she was fat but her fat was nicely distributed with a good hip to waist ratio.
Her Personality was larger than life!!
Her personality??? OMG her personality was truly larger than life. She would shut the entire salon down because we could stop laughing at her stories, and she orated with bravo and self confidence. She assumed what she did with the old men as “Good Samaritan” work, and I fell out my chair with roaring laughter at her comedic convictions..
Crippled Midgets and Ugly Husbands
What was more astonishing to me was that her main man knew about these seniors “Breaking Bread” with his girl. I asked her how she kept Harmony in her household with her man knowing what she does, and she simply said to him “I’m Going to Get OUR MONEY BOO”. Well, I flat lined again laughing so hard that I couldn’t breathe.
But I was examining her quietly too. I assumed that her man must have been an unattractive, crippled midget (no offensive to any cripple midgets reading this) but when we walked to PAY for her hairdo and gas for her car and brought her lunch, I was flabbergasted. He was cute!!! He was VERY attractive and well built too.
Who’s Your Daddy?
I Flat Lined Again!!!!
So what is the lesson she can teach us as women about love?
She is an example of a woman who is NOT conflicted AT ALL about her value.
And her value was not predicated upon how she looked. Whether her hair was done or makeup on or not,
she commanded a room, she was the center of attention because her value wasn’t determined by your judgement of her.
She knew what to say, and more importantly, she knew HOW to say it.
Those that needed to feel in control (like her man), were allowed to think they were so that she could extract what she needed.
And her mouth was like Cannon FIRE,
she could cus on an executive level,
but she didn’t unsheathe her tongue gun unless it was necessary.
So the conclusion is this: be what you need to be for the situation at hand.
Play up your strengths and give ZERO energy to your weaknesses
unless they are something you’re incentivized to change.
Understand that your self worth is not a community event and
true self worth doesn’t fluctuate in accordance with how good you look.
And lastly, being congruent with your wants and needs is essential to the manifestation of them.
If you feel ashamed about what you want, you will not get it,
and if you manage to get it, you won’t be able to hold it for long…
That is what my darling client taught me about being a woman…
Now lets be what we need to be, to get what we want to have…
So Who Am I?
“Artist/ Life Coach”
Art by Salkis Re
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