You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
Men are curious creatures ready to play.
The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.
Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.
That’s all courtship is really.
Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.
His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,
to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..
So what’s the true tea here?
DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.
But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good
because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..
Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!
And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.
They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”
which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.
But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.
So what should you do?
Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,
heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,
throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?
I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.
You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.
You want be kind, but not compromising.
You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.
You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,
and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!
Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.
And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.
Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.
All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”
is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.
So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!
This means that you trust your instincts;
you move only when you are comfortable;
you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind
ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!
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If you act desperate, you will be used and abused: plain and simple.
Because desperation denotes powerlessness, and perception that you don’t have another option.
I don’t give a shit if you are a live-in girlfriend or a long time wife,
you can and had better maintain emotional control over your environment by decimating urges to share your vulnerability.
Do not allow any man to propagate to you that he is your ONLY option; he’ll just use your cosign to justify abusing you.
If you maintain an ABUNDANCE mindset, his propaganda can/will be cut at his jugular vein.
Do not give concern, do not be an audience member for his “tear you down show”
Leave him to talk to HIMSELF about what he feels about YOU.
Your display of CONCERN is what gives his glibness meaning. And you get nothing but half-ass pity for showing your foibles too.
He acts a fool, you smirk, give a shrug, and walk away as if you are unconditionally unbothered!
To recap this transmission, I will say that the only reason you are being controlled
is because you allowed him to create *neediness and *insecurity within your mind.
How should you think?
You should think that he is in your life because you WANT/ED him there, not because you
NEED/ED him there. And you have to act like that even if you actually do need him.
NEVER acknowledge your weaknesses to him,
but always just be thankful and gracious for his *contributions and let that be that…
Remember that you are the gift. You are the prize. He should be the one fighting for your love, not the other way around!
Stop with the equality nonsense and understand your position as a woman is ALWAYS better than that of a man.
We are both cursed you know. Man being the beast of burden, cursed to work by the sweat of his brow, and we…
well are cursed by needing to submit to him…
There is no way around misfortune, unfairness, hardships,
but you make life harder for yourself when you spend it trying to be something that men do not respect, admire, or love…
YOU ARE A WOMAN!! That brings with it a treasure desperately imitated by so many pay bring money to mimic.
You walk around with your GOLD and your value is always present, always with and within you!
Don’t give that up to toil the earth like men. A man’s purpose is to protect you and provide for you;
there is no other need for him in your life besides that.
And when you narrow down the innuendo,
when you cut the ambiguity and misinterpretations that come with emotional feelings, that’s all you have left to surmise.
PROTECT AND PROVIDE!
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It’s HARD work. But the reward is that I get to call my own shots and for me, that position is priceless.
The road of self sufficiency is for lunatics!!
Yeah, I admit it!
You have to be crazy to actually try to salvage your freedom by working for yourself when it’s so much easier to work someone else’s 9-5.
DO your 8 hours and clock out, then rest of it is for someone else to worry about cause you are off the clock!
I have come to the conclusion that most of us do not want freedom.
Yep! Sad but true.
Most people just want to be comfortable, not FREE.
Just a little more paid vacation time. 5 dollars more an hour would feel like a life changing event for most.
And they’d take it willingly too.
That is all your time is worth?
A dollar or two more an hour plus “overtime” and you’d grind until your knuckles bleed for the bottom line of someone else you NEVER even see.
The listen to what someone ( who is barely more qualified than you) tell when to take a lunch or when you can leave. Grrrrrrrrrrrr!
Get’s me hot just typing this!
I’m doing this post to jolt you!
A lot of you women I coach want to be entrepreneurs, but you’re too scared to make the start.
You are thinking about failure before you even try.
You think that ship has sailed and that you missed your boat of opportunity and correct timing.
There is nothing more precious than time: NOTHING!!
And the time you spend toiling for someone else, working all that overtime hours for the Uncle Sam to take half of,
could be spent planting seeds for your personal growth and development.
You could be creating the next million dollar idea on those night and weekends.
You could be perfecting that invention instead of looking for an escape from the thought of going back to work come Monday morning..
TODAY IS A NEW PAGE OF YOUR LIFE
Will your story be boring, repetitious, filled with horrors?
Your actions are you pen… so write a story you’d be proud to tell…
“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???
So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.
That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.
She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.
And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.
So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.
You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!
So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.
She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..
She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in
Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!
It was an uncle here, a stepfather there, an older cousin here,
I remember when I was it the 4th grade, I got dragged behind a tree by this boy that I actually had a crush on.
I started crying. Then he laughed, backed off, and ran away…
I stood there picking bits of tree trunk off my face, shaken, feeling ashamed and really confused like what the fuck just happened here!
But he laughing so I wasn’t sure if what he’d just done was even wrong.
So I thought that maybe I was perceiving it wrong…
Isn’t that what we always do?
Second guess ourselves and our feelings because HE won’t own up to his actions…
No penetration physically happened, but a disruption of my self worth and confidence sure did!
Because I secretly LIKED that boy.
Which means I looked up to him.
And because I liked him and he didn’t like me:
it meant that HE was BETTER than me…..
This is the typical pattern that starts after you’ve been physically violated.
And every relationship you seek, only aids in solidifying your false sense of low worth…
Wives aren’t exempt from this either, in fact, a lot of them are simply “under contract” to be abused because you have taken the “I’m powerless’ position..
So he gets to tell you he doesn’t like your body while he’s fucking you because he pays the mortgage. He gets to tell you that he thinks you are stupid while he rides your back to relieve his stress. He gets to blame you for his dik not being able to hold an erection, but as the “good wife” you swallow and wallow quietly in degradation because that ring says you have NO voice.
But you can repair your heart and mind..
So The Maxims For Today Are:
Do NOT second guess YOURSELF anymore…
What you SEE IS what you GET…
There is NO BENEFIT IN A DOUBT,
So DON’T give the BENEFIT OF A DOUBT.
DISMISS ANY talk that calls to question your perception of reality…
And remember, you CANNOT have SELF CONFIDENCE when you Do Not trust YOUR feelings…
“Sex is a Return on His Investment, Not an Act of Good Faith!”
Sex is NOT important. It should really be the last thing on your list of must-haves.
Because you can maintain your advantage and the upper hand.
What do you think he is chasing you for? Cause he likes to tell you his problems?
You think he is tracking you cause you’re an excellent cook?
Is that what keeps him thinking about you all day?
Its your snatch my dear.
That slime box shaped like a flower pedal between your legs.
That is what the game is about. So if you give it to him without a commitment, the GAME IS OVER.
Quite Frankly, the game is over the moment you give him sex no matter when you do it,
but if you give it to him AFTER he’s made an investment of time and ANNNNNNNNNDDDD MONEY,
it will be a challenge to just abandon the relationship.
The key word here is “LOSS”.
If he has already spent money on you, then he is INVESTED. He has paid into the relationship and wants to recoup a “return”.
Any women still requiring love to be at the top of her list for commitment is going to be a lonely fool…
“TAKE THE BLACK PILL”
“The Black Hat Society”