The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

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“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Soft Porn Everywhere!

“Soft Porn”
Written by Salkis Re
 

Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously

about how we should look and feel about ourselves and 
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
 
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You are being programed to feel insecure.

You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
 
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They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain

 
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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No Reward!

You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..

And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…  

Wake Up “Mummy”


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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Pretty But You Sick???

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If your goal is to truly love yourself

 

If your goal is to truly love yourself and you are not adding

what you eat into your transformation cocktail, then you are

playing games and fooling yourself at the same time too.

Holistic living requires that your diet be in line with nature.

 

Triggered to Eat Junk Food

This is a very emotional thing for us because

EVERYTHING we do is triggered by our emotions.

I don’t know anyone who eats for nutrition purposes.

 

Food Porn

We have to dress the food, lay it out really nicely,

make it look attractive and appetizing in order to want to eat it.

Ad this food porn only further makes us emotionally

dependent on the soothing that we think we are getting for food.

 

If you are eating for nutrition then salt would not be apart of your dish.

I know I know, food tastes like shit without salt,

, or so our tastes buds have been trained to believe.

 

 

You may not being doing crack, but the food you are eating a daily

basis is just as much of am addictive drug as any line of cocaine.

Salt is a chemical, it is not a food.

Sugar is a chemical. It is not a food.

Cooking oil is a chemical, it is not a food

 All manner of imbalances happen when you consume these chemicals, from colds to cancer.

 

If A baby Can’t Eat, Neither Should You!

The general rule here is if you can’t feed it to a baby or eat a bowl of it, or feed it to an elderly person,

THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE EATING IT!!

The journey to self love REALLY BEGINS NOW.

Are you ready??

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

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The Ugly Girls Club!!

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The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

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Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

The Ugly Girls Club.com” COMING SOON!

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals

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Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!

Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.

Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….

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It might feel icky to be a fraud,

but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling

you the truth while being themselves.

You are being humored every DAY.

People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,

some even pretend to be impressed

and attracted to you.

And here you are,

afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,

to get you results that could make you better.

So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?

How do you grow while staying the same?

How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?

I’ll answer the answer: It cannot be done!!

Continue reading “1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals”

We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”

“We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”
Transit time January 25, 2019 3:45 a.m.
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Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

👉Men: Give Love /
Women: React

👉Men: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

👉Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /
Women: Are vulnerable Physically

👉Men: Are Impersonal /
Women: Take Everything Personally

👉Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/
Women: Bored and find Reasoning exhausting

👉Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

👉Men: Invent/  Women: Imitate

I am NOT pointing out these thing as a suggestion that we try to act like men, the goal here is for you to start learning about yourself so that you can be a more effective communicator with men AND you will also being to understand why you say/do the thing YOU do.

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results in our lives as women. We need men to balance us, but women are so broken by numerous failed relationships that every character trait you posses is now pathological in scope.

We fake like we are unicorns flowing through life unbothered, yet it’s part of our disposition to be pretentious and critical of everything EXCEPT ourselves.

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers are and how to shift away from a behavior that doesn’t give you the results you’re looking for.

We need to be seen, we NEED to be acknowledged and this need is easily exploitable by men people they have the upper hand of logic and analysis.

You THINK with your body

THINK with your body. You filter your world through a sense of what’s hot or cold, not wrong or right.
So walking with the awareness of this truth allows you to step back a bit because you are giving your body time to settle down so that you can THINK instead of REACT.

A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets

Take your first tiny little step towards happiness by simply acknowledging that you don’t think things through in the way that you should, and vow to only make a decisions after thinking them through first. A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets and WILL change your entire life!😉

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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So You Wanna be a Sister Wife???

A viewer came to me expressing her desire to be a sister-wife..
Here’s what I shared with her:

I have not seen any long term success with it anyone really.

Not sure what it is but it seems like that relationship dynamic has a high

turnover rate and the lifespan is usually 2 years no more than 5 years if you are lucky. 

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With your Host, Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

The ones that have babies will be motivated to stick it out as longer

but not with heavy indoctrination from the husband.

He will tell you that you are “smarter” than other women for accepting

this way of life, that you are intelligent and pragmatic and in tune

with nature, that you lack selfishness and material greed like those other women out there (who get his d^&k hard)

and your title of Queen is repetitively used to stroke your ego and to assure you of your special place (that none of his other women have) in his life.

Inserts sarcasm right about now!

Self esteem Coach, Salkis Re

You want to know the truth?

Only Unattractive Women Fall for this!!

Most women that do this or get picked for this sort of relationship style are usually unattractive or insecure women.

Well not “or” because women you are one are usually the other too.

I don’t know what you don’t like about yourself.

Maybe it’s your age or your gap teeth, or the cellulite on your thighs thats got you settling for this rank and file lifestyle.

Maybe this is all you can really get in the grand scope of things

But what I want to know, all I want to know is if you are doing it because HE told you that this is what you are worth,

or because you have given yourself a brutally honest evaluation and this is what you feel will bring you peace and some semblance of joy…

The clock is ticking my dear..

No more time for bluffing yourself. What do YOU want?

Your Self esteem Coach, Salkis Re

TALK TO ME!

“Assertiveness Training for So-Called Unattractive Women”


January 18, 2019

Let me tell you unattractive women

and the rest of you unattractive women that pretend

like you DON’T think you are Unattractive. 
It’s not about your looks you know..
That’s not why you are mistreated and disregarded by men. 


This has more to do with your “agreeableness” and proclivity to “comply” as a WOMAN and in particular as an unattractive woman..

If you were born with a face that’s only your mother thinks is beautiful

If you were born with a face that’s only

your mother thinks is beautiful or that people

assume easy advantage over, then you have to put aside your virtue

and that “turn the other cheek” mentality to unearth your “INNER BITCH”. 

Yes, I said inner bitch! That part of you that

you’ve repressed in hopes that people look pass your

face to find something likeable about you.

Agreeableness is not an effective strategy for getting people to like you, ESPECIALLY when you are dealing with men!

You can’t distract men from your face!!

You can’t distract men from your face by “acting” kind and sweet: you have to DEFEND yourself as an unattractive woman!!

And this mean that you allow your spine to grow, that you show people that you are unafraid and unbothered by what they think,

and you are not EASY to befriend or have sex with!!

See a lot you cowering in a corner.

You never have anything of substance to share,

you never tell a joke, or say you are proud of yourself.

You never voice a thought or string opinion about anything…

Cause you’re trying to stay invisible so sees you as a target to ridicule.


GET UP! And show the world who you are, what YOU feel about things, share your intellect, your ability to create and medicine woman ways.

Stop trying to be liked when people are offended by your looks.

You have to walk another route so that your life becomes a fantastic ride!
TAKE THE BLACK PILL

Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman: Salkis Re

If you need help with self improvement and/or relationships challenges, please contact me via email at salkis @iloveherart.com


To Know You Is To Control you!

“I Wanna Know You” Written by Salkis Re 

I want to know

if YOU MEAN what you say,

if YOU ACT like you say,

if YOU DO what you say…

This is the goal of anyone who wants to get to know you.

And they will find out, just as YOU WILL for them,

that they don’t entirely mean what they say or do what they say.

We call it being cordial or having manners, or establishing rapport.

The goal in any courtship, in any “I want to get to know you”

session is to simply to establish that you are EQUALLY YOKED

The, (I’m just like you, and that’s why you should like me) thing.

It’s all a feast of selling yourself until one of you is no longer

afraid of how you are perceived by the other.

When he is no longer afraid of LOSING you, then he

will start to show you who he really is…

Carry On

Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

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