“Don’t Like Sex SOOO MUCH GIRL!!!”

 

If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.

If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..

Is it?……….

NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!

Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.

If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,

giggle, blush, and keep it classy…

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Why would you do this?

To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.

AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..

That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.

The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.

 

In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,

he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.

And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.

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Art by Salkis Re for SalkisRe.com

Think delicate.

Think soft.

Think charm.

Think beauty.

RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO

IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.

It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.

I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.

But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.

And these are two entirely different things.

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So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .

Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,

because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…

Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..

What more help? Find my books and coaching services  here

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis

 

 

Closed Mouths DO Get Fed!!

 

“Closed Mouths DO Get Fed”
Written by Salkis Re

You should NEVER be totally open with your man. He is impersonating “friendship” with you, especially in the beginning. Leave the “real” details if your life for a “somewhere down the road” discussion or never at all.

We just chat-tup too much and women are under the impression that revealing your entire life is what brings closeness with your man.

He doesn’t care about all of that. He likes what get sees and he is doing what he does for access to your body: that’s it!

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Commitment isn’t a factor until YOU start talking about it unless you are the woman if his dreams: and most of may START off that way, then after SEX the dream diminishes because when your clothes are off and your mouth is around his peenus, it REVEALS how much you are really worth.

So you’d better resolve any moral conflict you have with running game so that you are prepared for the latter half if your life.

Men serve a purpose, just like a job, and they should only be a factor if they can better your life. THAT’S IT!!

Don’t listen to him talk about character and that “good woman” reverb while “beeches” he claims he wants nothing to do with and give him a hard time are the ones making his “peenus” hard as a rock as soon as she starts ranting.

Relax. Let Go of Guilt.
And Get Man to serve you…
“Life Coach”
“Dark Goddess”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

“What Relationships Really Are”

Written by Salkis Re

The conclusion of relationships is this: you are going to be lied too.
You ARE being lied too.
And the man telling lies is doing it for his benefit.
The man telling you to “build” with him is doing it for his benefit.
The man pumping and dumping you without a condom is doing it for his benefit.
The man who isn’t ready to marry you is doing it for his benefit.

So what is he doing for YOUR benefit?
Absolutely NOTHING more than YOU require him to do…
Love has nothing to do with honesty.
It has nothing to do with commitment.
It has nothing to do with fidelity.

It has EVERYTHING to do with how incentivized a man is to produce for YOU,

and that is based on your own AMBITION and CLEVERNESS.

Nothing is fair and square in love.. This is why are played over and over and over again…
This is why you are a single mother.
This is why you can’t find a “good” man.

The TRUTH??
EVERYTHING YOU DO WITH A MAN should be for a purpose and a quantifiable benefit to you…
It’s YOU that drives a man to produce.
It is you that gives a man incentive to wash his testicles, shave and get dressed to go conquer the world..

If you have no goals, then YOUR man has no reason to work, and no one to work for.
HE is responsible for your safety and wellbeing, and there is no other reasons for him being in your bed or your heart…
PERIOD..
PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT!!!
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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Love Who Loves You!

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Artist, Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

When we women realize that love is the manipulated emotion a human being with ever have??

I am talking about romantic love…

There is nothing NATURAL about it.

Two people come together hiding what they are ashamed of, making promises/DEALS for what they intend to give each other IF one or the other subscribes to the SALES PITCH…

Then after some time together, each person oozes out their darker side, their unreasonable side, the side that was being held back right until the perfect time to reveal the venom and the devilish tendencies to the other person…

 

Then after a few emotional events, many some good sex and a lot of time together, they decide to pair bond and cuff each other down for the duration…

That is what love amounts too..

But it is STILL an awesome deal, relationships that is…

It is still one of the most satisfying things a woman can do!

Children come from that deal, and if two people can find common ground,

they actually can make each other BETTER souls on this earth…

Its just not a fairytale is all…

Its work, struggle,  and a great deal of disappointment,

but its better than going through life alone and unchallenged.

My opinion…

 

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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“You’re not a HOE, but you are a WHORE”

Written by Salkis Re

What is a hoe? I’m sitting here at my computer desk this morning thinking of something inspiring to write and that question just popped up in my mind.
I am haunted by my hot pursuit of and relentless contemplations around being a woman, a SATISFIED woman.

So I am thinking about my past lovers, why chose them and if I’d do things differently. I admit to you that I made choices in lovers with a cloud of limiting beliefs over my head. I told myself that I can’t have this, Im not entitled to that, all men do this, so I’d better just do that sort of thing.

Always settling. Always “agreeable“.
Why? Because I was more concerned with “purity”, with keeping myself ‘honorable” and unsullied than satisfied and compensated….

My vagina’s “body count” was low; my mind insisted that I had to keep it low because I associated my self worth with ‘how many’ got to plow my wet flower pedals. I was more concerned about that than being sexually satisfied actually.
Awww, the self murder, the useless priorities, the posing…

Episode after episode of sexual “duty” with little to no sense of DUTY cycled back to me.

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And with every man I laid with, there was a “filthiness” left behind, not because of the act itself although I have come to conclusion that body fluids that are NOT yours are likened unto a noxious, petre dishes of frothing pus and bloody spores waiting to invade and hatch inside your yoni through his ejaculation.(I want to throw my phone away after rereading that last line)

The *filthy feeling was from being “duped” though. I thought it was the ACT OF SEX itself, but with further examination of my feelings the “humiliation” I felt was from the unkept “promises” from these men.
My stupidity was believing in “dreams” , and Acting like the things he expressed that HE wanted, were the things he wanted with ME. More times than not, my assumption was for naught.

So I had sex for broken promises.
I had sex for “Thank You, that was great”
I had sex to show that I was committed, a team player.
I had sex to prove my worth.

And got ‘nothing” in return…. nothing to brag about at least…

Hump….. shaking my head….
It took me a looooooooong time to come to a solid conclusion about the value o sex, its purpose in a woman life I mean…
It wasn’t the *body count* that was ‘dishonorable’ or reduced my self worth, it was these MOTHER SUCKIN BYTCHE MADE MEN WHO USED MY VAGINA FOR THEIR BENEFIT WITHOUT RECIPROCATING the benefits they received that TAINTED my soul and my perception of my own SELF worth!!!
Not getting what I was promised is WHAT BROUGHT ME GUILT, PAIN AND SHAME….

That’s a revelation, isn’t it? But if you give it some thought, you might share in my conclusions.

The gag is this: EVERY woman who is NOT a VIRGIN is a WHORE.

  • AND We ALL will wear these HATS

We are born the MAIDEN.
Become the WHORE/WIFE
Then The MOTHER
Then the WIDOW
The typical cycle of a woman life…

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Art by Salkis Re “Eyota and Her Thunderbird”

So being a whore is an inevitable consequence if you take one dkye in your mouth or 25.
Your goal isn’t to AVOID BECOMING A WHORE!! Your goal is to use your sexuality for the betterment of YOUR life through marriage/commitment/ AND MONEY!!!

If you are JUST looking for pleasure, if you are merely using your vagina as a n instrument for pleasure on your part or HIS, you are wasting your essential slime.
You are putting wear and tear on your body for NO JUST CAUSE.

Sex is GOOD, SEX IS OUTSTANDINGLY MAGNIFICENT in fact IF its accompanied with a PURPOSE and a goal that reaps benefits long after you’ve washed his slime from your cervix.

Mother’s Day is coming and some of you will open your knees in gratitude of the Roses and Roasted Chicken and Mash Potato dinner that you could have bought for yourself..

So what it the truth about your value?

You get to decide/enforce what it is.
No matter what ‘offer’ is put in front of you, YOU still get to say whether its acceptable or not.
And it’s your AGREEMENT with that offer that dictates what you are, NOT THE OFFER ITSELF!!!
The moment you say YES to anything given to you, your value is then etched in stone!

So the moral here is what?
That you are a whore.. And there is nothing in THAT to be ashamed about.

And the ONLY time should be ashamed about putting a penis in your vagina, whether WIFE or GIRLFRIEND is when no stable PROVISIONS accompany your vaginal lubrication.

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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“Single Mothers are a HUGE Liability?”

 

The discussion about single mothers as potential wives came up on my recent You Tube Video… My response is REALITY, not filled with idealism or optimism for that matter. My posting this dialog for YOUNG ladies who do NOT have children yet.
Take Heed…

Male Viewer Comment:
I think love and relationships are more complex. If my son married a woman with a child, i would be happy for him.
Perhaps HE could be the only hero in the child’s life.

Child or no child, the woman should be a loving person. I hope that she would be less Machiavellian…less jaded.
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My Response:
Every woman who HAS a past is “jaded” to some degree. And if she was left a single mother, she should be EXTREMELY cautious in safeguarding against a repeating choices that led her there in the first place.
A single mother comes with extra scars, but if her motivation is strong enough, she CAN compensate for the any emotional shortcomings by concentration on her what is virtuous about her. But the “jaded” part really applies to ANY woman who has had sperm inside of her.
It creates a touch of lunacy in us all to be honest..

 

 

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“Holding On To Love” Art by Salkis RE CLICK HERE

 

Male Viewer Comment:
Salkis Re Most women I know with one child say it is best thing that ever happened to them.
However, i understand what you are saying about exercising caution.

Do you think single men who have full custody of a child also lack a certain amount of character?
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My Response:
And why do you think women say that? I will tell you. It’s because for the FIRST time, they are experiencing TRUE love.

A man who has full custody of his children exemplifies compassion and emotional connect to his children even when he could have walked away. That is different, its “Noble” even.

Loving Single-motherS

WHY?
Because he is not expected to “want” to shoulder all the Responsibility like women. A woman’s value is in question because when “She” brings other mens children, she brings “bills”, she brings a “something must be wrong with you for him to walk from you and your children” UNLIKE the single father.

WHY?
Because she is looking to be cared for by a man. And because of this, for her, it is a FLAW, and a REDUCTION in her MARKETABILITY because she requires MORE output of his resources as well as the expectation to muster up some sort of LOVE and CARE for children that are not is own.

BIG Liability! Especially when men struggle to communicate and show interest/emotional concern for children that are biologically his.

Not what women want to hear and not what men would admit…..

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis RE

If you are looking for someone to talk to about your love life or anything you need help figuring out, please do not hesitate to contact me. Yo can reach me at salkis@iloveherart.com or book a session with me if your are ready to rock and roll!

Casting Spells

“Calling The Spirits to Work For You.”
Written by Salkis Re

Every woman should practice magic. We are a too reliant on others to steer outcomes for you.

Magic is simply focused energy and intent on a specific thing (or person) with the help of symbols

to narrow your attention and words to evoke emotion.

Witches

Prayer is a great way to start. And the best way to pray (in my opinion) is to create your own prayer

in the way that you naturally speak and with words that have an emotional impact on you.

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“This World is Yours” CLICK HERE

Pray to remove guilt.
GUILT is the killer of dreams, and SHAME puts them in the coffin.

But you wanna know the irony of guilt and shame?
The more you don’t get what you desire, the more they grow within you…

To start releasing yourself from GUILT, you have to “accept” that you entitled to what you want.

Just Accept it, or Surrender to it I should say. And KILL any thoughts in your head that try to tell you that it’s “no big deal to have” or that  “I Can Do Without This“.

 

Everything YOU want is a BIG deal. Everything you desire IS IMPORTANT to you.

As women, we easily give up and compromise and SETTLE in our minds before mustering up the first footstep towards something we want.

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That thinking that you can “make do” is going to keep you stuck,

it’s going to keep you broke, mediocre, out of shape, unaccomplished, unattractive etc etc...

Pull your mind into focus.
Face what you want be, experience head on.
Task it to move towards you so that you can give it life!

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING: “This World Is Yours”

What IS YOUR CULTURE?

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“Be An Eagle”
Written by Salkis Re

Your identity is yours to create, especially if no one wants to claim you. That’s the fate of copper skin tones who are born on Northern soil.
Maybe you are pretending not to know, but your mirror tell NO lies.


Ask your blood to whisper its secrets in your ear. Let the Sequoia trees secrete the tales of those who burned fires and sang songs under the shade of its leaves.
Heal your heart and your confusion by creating your own legends and hero’s.
What are you?
Who are you?


If you still do not know, then declare yourself an Eagle.
The Eagle NEVER asks what it is. It doesn’t cut through the clouds wondering if it is good enough to fly. She doesn’t perch upon a tree branch contemplating her worthiness to be there.


The Eagle does not spend its days jealous and fretful over not being able to run like those beautiful Lions are down below. The Eagle is just as it, unaware that there is anything better than being an Eagle..

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING: “FALA”

 

Men Shouldn’t Have to PAY???

Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:

“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
End Quote

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😼MY RESPONSE:
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.

We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
~Salkis Re

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Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re for www.iloveherart.com

Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.

Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.

Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.

These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.

There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until  inconvenience presents itself…

And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.

Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.

Do you know what that term  “BUILDING TOGETHER means?

It means I cannot afford to take care of you,

and I want you to understand that,

and I want you to work to help me provide for you,

because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have

Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?

But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.

Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.

They understand  that you have to pay for what you want.

Sounds transactional right?

Tell me when is it not transactional?

You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?

That is the cold, HARD truth!

Deal with it!!!!

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So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

Love Really is A Game..

Dark Skin Girls in Art
“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

 

Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

How to Not Give a F&*^k

 

1)Do what you fear doing, and do it often.

2) Accept people’s right to their own opinion, so that you can formulate yours without guilt.

3) Understand that trying to be Perfect for Imperfect people is a hamster wheel with no destination. Get off the wheel.

4) You are ugly to somebody. You are pretty to somebody.

You will win.

And you will lose.

And you cannot avoid it.  

Make peace with life’s inconsistencies and ride the wave.

5) You will not live forever, so you really cannot afford to waste another day trying to please people,

trying to make them see your worth, your beauty. Relax. And wow those that are already impressed with you.

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even If it seems like a lie because everything is a lie until you MAKE IT the truth…

 

So many of us feel that we have to be good at something in order to do it or love it even.

This is not the truth. Not at all.

Self esteem is not about hyper focused attention on only the things that are good about you,

but ALLLLLLLL of you.

Yes, even the silly, stupid unskilled parts of you .

True self esteem doesn’t crumble if things do not go well in your life.

Self esteem is more about the process mores than the outcome.

Living up to your values keeps you in a place of high regard for yourself.

I find that so many of us just do not take a chance because not doing good or

being better than someone else computes in your mind that you are not enough.

 

 

 

 

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You have to accept your flaws and while relaxing your drive for

praise and recognition over the good in your as well..

You just embrace ALL of you.
Be Luke warm as a Master Teacher once taught me…

Then a compliment or an insult become a consequence for the living without putting halt to your life…

 

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

I Told The Doctor He’s Full of Shyte

“Relationship Talk With my Doctor Friend”
Black American Women and Propaganda

So I have been in a back and forth with my new Doctor guy friend who watches my vids on you tube about relationships.

He is in the mist if writing a self help to save black Relationships and he wanted my
opinion on some of the points he’s making for his book about the makings of a successful black relationship.

Now some of his complaints are that women of today are dishonest, golddiggers unwilling to cooperate and build with men. He says that the value of a women’s looks isn’t as high as she makes it out to be and that her beauty usually isn’t worth the sacrifice men make to obtain it.

He stated that women stack there money and look for the man’s money too, and that there no hardly any reciprocity with these high maintenance girls.he gave stats on the marriage rate decline for the Black house hold. He gave remedies for couples to keep the spice up by having date nights, and taking turns catering to each other.
The government​/penile system keep a black man down narrative came up as well. Rates of incarcerated males and single mother stats came up too.

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MY RESPONSE:
Do you want to know why the divorce rate is high in general? Because women are independent.

They make their own money, they are educated and they do not need men. All across the board.

But men are also afraid of being exploited and robbed of their finances right?

So they make sure that they get a woman who has her own so she won’t need all if his resources.
And woman who marry across instead of up will pull 50 percent of the weight of every expense.
But then you cheat on her right, cause that is what usually takes people to divorce court if it isn’t about money and most women,
no matter how they look, will experience some sort of infidelity in the life of the Marriage. That is real too.
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So the woman who married a (roommate) instead of a real man is betrayed on every level.
Not only is she paying her own to have sex with you and accumulate debt with a man not incentivized to handle the whole load,
all her superwoman efforts are thwarted and irrelevant because he is thinking about his gratification as all men do (eventually).

And women who deserve the effort a man makes have been sold the lie that they actually have “careers”

so they piss around and piddle off all the good, fertile, sexually attractive years of her life because she’s been told that men will always be there.
And that is a lie!!!!

Not only is it a small percentage of people who actually have careers, most women toil at work as if they are designed to love a 60-80 hour work week, and if they manage to climb up upper management and want to change the rules of this “boys game” to accommodate her inability to negotiate, or withstand the pressure of high performance environments. And at some point she wants a baby and just to slow down enough to do “womanly things” to care for herself.

The independent woman is a farse. Every woman is designed to sustain her life and livelihood through the efforts of men because she does not have the aggression, the conscientiousness, the disagreeableness, the competitive inclination to beat the next man for sport. Men who are wealthy or even just well off require those traits to survive and thrive in the workplace.

You say that men are in the process of accepting that less attractive women make more ideal mates? Never seen any to date openly express that. And the notion that less attractive women require less is not only an insult to her, but speaks to what men’s motivations will ALWAYS be: a woman’s looks.


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You are looking women to think like you, then you would be will other men instead of women. That is really what this is. No it is not fair for her to take your money and save hers: it’s smart for her to do so, especially if he requires that she work to be with him.


You mentioned that men would gladly take care of a woman not for access to her vagina but to “honor her like that) Really?
So you would just create an expense account to honor her for no other reason than your giving heart? How? Where? And if that is the case, why are you men so scared of being used for your money? A giving heart doesn’t give on a condition, he gives Because it feels good to give according to your definition.

So what constitutes a good woman? One who will give back to you what you have given her? Is that the bottom line?

Or does she simply have to crank up her compassion and understanding for man who is incapable of carrying the load because he has researched Cointepro, and stats, and history of systemic oppression of the Black Man to justify his defeat all while, making babies with her that he cannot afford to front. Because it’s not his fault he cannot be the man of the house because your imperial DATA refutes any notion I may have that you can actually be the man I want you to be or that you say you are???

Ok so when she uses her understanding for your “struggle” and has sex and procreates with you, that creates more financial burden, and these women are not married of course because he tells her it’s another form of systemic oppression designed solely to destroy men.

So he’s convinced her to have the bastard children even though he’s barely tryna “make it” .
And when she’s out there working, he is doing “busy work” too and filling his time up looking for more “simps” to supplement/work for him too.

Child support keeps men honest when the hand agreement goes left. And it will always go left because the woman is “compassionate” and understanding when you can’t pay or come up short. The court system creates a buffer around her UNDERSTANDING and his WILLINGNESS to uphold his promise.

So a woman’s looks hold “inflated” value and she should be able to supplement for this deficit be pulling her own weight, agreed. And now that means that nothing differentiates you from other men as well, and there is no practical reason that she should consolidate her eggs into your basket because she has to do for herself and now she can choose men based on other attributes like attractiveness and sexual proficiency in bed.

MOST men are NOT attractive, wealthy/financially stable, sexually satisfying in bed, and wants to get married in one Complete package. Most women will not get a man who is all four of those traits. But we understand where the value really is, so we are prepared to sacrifice and make do. All women married to well off men are making do in one way or another..

Look at how love is so quantifiable🤔🤗. Look at how we prattle on about facts and figures and percents and inflation. You don’t mind paying, you just don’t want to pay more than she’s actually worth, but you want to be with a girl worth paying, but you don’t actually want to have to pay her.

You want to break bread for women you feel are worth the effort and the rest of us are charity cases not worth the effort you really don’t want to put in for the woman who is worth it, far less anyone else.
How about that???
You desire what you don’t think is worth the effort you have to put in your get it.🤔

That is what’s going on with men now. And that is ok.
All of it is ok. These are things I address to women who watch my channel too. To be careful that they are not used for easy opportunity with little to no reciprocation.

In a perfect world, poor people would not mate and have children together, nor would ugly people, sick people, stupid people. But people are entitled to make that decision whether they are capable of handling the circumstances or not. That’s what we are talking about here. The right for men to choose whether or not they are qualified to choose WHAT THEY WANT!!

Men with no adequate ability to care for a woman and potential offspring, should not be having sex. Women who are capable of being mothers should not be having sex either. No conspiracy there, just an absolute fact.
But we are Emotional, and emotions bring complexity and a whole lot of debate because emotions TRUMP logic every day of the week and twice on Sunday.

This is what it is ladies.. The future looks grim for many of us, so prepare..
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

 

You Can’t Think Like a Man!!

If we as women ask for this thing called **equality**, than the MEN who agree/give it to us still hold the power.
And what they give us is conjectured power for which they can mitigate and temper as they see fit.

Why do men have power?
Why will they always be more powerful than women?
**Because men do not CARE as must as we do.**
They are disagreeable hunters for acquisition AND SPORT.
They TAKE things for fun, to increase their self worth, you to simply outdo other men,

and these attributes are not in line with the natural inclinations

of most women no matter how much she thinks she thinks like a man.

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And this is why we will always need men. We need men to do the heavy lifting.

We need men to carry the load because we don’t want to step our anyone to get to the better life.

We want everyone to have a fair shot, and its because of feelings that

we will never reach the heights of material success

that the average man is biologically designed to reach.

This is why hypergamy exists.

This is why men lead.

And this is why a woman beauty is her biggest asset,

because successful men do not need us for much more than what we mostly are.

A Beautiful,  Charming Damsel becomes a queen and lives a life of minimal drudgery.

And that’s really what women want. 

 

Men hurt people, berate people, some even conn people to climb the ladder of  success.

We damsels have been sold a lot of lies about our values.

We believe that we can do what men do.

We can work and toil and sweat like men and we will gain the power they enjoy.

But the important point, the MOST important point is that no amount of money a woman has will NEVER make her more attractive.

Her value is not in her independence, it’s  in her ability to be a beautiful woman in need of rescuing.

But you PLAY the damsel, you act like you are innocent and vulnerable to get him to do his manly thing which is to protect and take care of you.

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Will you have to play dumb?

Yes.

Will you be a man who you may not find attractive?

More than likely YES…

But your future will be one where you are not struggling or working your fingers to the bone with no time for personal self care.

If you are not into being dependent  on a man because you feel that your ambitions will win you freedom,

the stats show that you will be working for less money than your male counterparts.

The stats show that women are being hired more than men because they are cheap labor.

Nothing glamorous about typical work my dear.

Creative work however, is something totally different and satisfying on a level that enhanced mental and physical health….

 

So what’s the moral of this story?

Go to the gym.

Eat right. 

Set goals that make you look, feel and be your best.

Read more about seduction.

Have a curiosity for life.

Learn to be charming.

Learn how to communicate without being intimidating and overbearing.

Be a girl again…

And you will get a man who is willing to work hard for you…

Peace and Love…

 

Who Am I?

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               “Artist/Life Coach”
                 ~Salkis Re

Do you need additional help to get started on your transformation goals?

Contact me by email at salkis@iloveherart.com 

And you can book a one on one phone session with me right HERE

 

 

MGTOW and the INSANITY OF MEN THESE DAYS!!

 

 

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“MGTOW Will Let the Devil Take Your Pussy”
Written by Salkis Re

Men are saying that they don’t need women in their lives and that women offer nothing.
And men who think like this absolutely do not gain from being with a woman,

AND a woman gains nothing being with you. That is what I call a fair exchange.!

 

 

The truth is that men are hitting a “wall” with or without grey hairs, limps penises and pot bellies.

And the problem is that your complaints about women are inspired by YOUR “wall”.

It is not beneficial for women to attempt to mate with men who aren’t interested in that, so guys actually being honest is sooo f’ing refreshing.
Examine your future as well though, because you have an expiration date too..

 

The men are advising young men towards MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) seem to be complaining about what women ought to be,

YET I fail to see images of a emotional euphoria or any high level of happiness because they are NOT caring for women.

Give me some well defined examples of a man’s happiness that is totally devoid of women in it…

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Nikola Tesla is the only man I know of who did, and ended up falling in love with a pigeon later on in life…

 

So listen up, The stats also state that across the board, women make up 70 percent of University graduates.

Black and Latino women outnumber black men in education, for every 100 men in school, there are 200 women in school as well.

And guess who the employers will hire: women.

Why?

Because it’s cheaper to keep her than having to pay more for hiring men.

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So very soon my phallus carrying friends, there will be nothing for women to GET from any man other than his penis,

and I going to get the pop corn ready to the mating game tournament into the greatest show on earth

when you guys are reduced to the proficiency of your penises and nothing more.

 

You men are be suckered in by propaganda and slowly, your relevance is being snatch from under your nose.

Fight for your ability to be self sufficient men!!

Public policy caters to women and you guys don’t have a MGTOW  programs that demand and services

and outreach for men in school and the going into the workplace.

What you’d rather do is complain about women wanting to be supported by men when that is the nature of things.
But your wish is coming like a freight train on fire. Be prepared to be happy, and irrelevant guys..
Peace

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
~Salkis Re

Women with locs

If you would like to speak with me for spiritual advisement as it pertains to love,

relationships, mentoring, wellness/weight management or anything troubling your heart,

You can contact me email: salkis@iloveherart.com or Book a session here 

 

Ok, sigh…

I have been getting so much comments from males about their perception of what black women choose for dating /Marriage etc. The repetitive talk is this “Black women ONLY want Attractive/Rich men”.
Where these men get these notions from, I have no idea but I’m going to clear it up today.

MOST women are with unattractive men. This could mean unattractive as in literally *ugly or unattractive as in SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN HE DOES. Most women are falling into one of either of those catergories.

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

And why is this? Because ALL men seek out women who are attractive whether they themselves posses handsomeness or not; this is how men are wired to choose.
And for women, a man’s looks generally comes in second place to the size of his wallet(security) so the emotional needs of men and women actually compliment each other.

Look around you… How many brothers do you come across in your day that look like a 10?? Even a 7??? There are NOT that many “really attractive”, and there are not too many above average men out here either.

And the gag is that men who make bank, who gather REAL BAGS are VERY “average” looking. But God bless the suit and tie because they can easily bring a man up 2-3 notches in the looks department.

Most women are or will be with men who are “odd looking” disporportion noses and lips, big ears with a little mouth, etc. But generally, his face doesn’t have perfect symmetry. But she loves him anyway.

Most women will not be with men who match her beauty, but that is ok cause it really works in our favor in end.

The moral is this: Men want women that look better than them, and women want men to earn more than them.

And everybody is looking for somebody who is better than themselves, so nobody hardly ever gets everything they want. We are all “SETTLING” at the end of the day…

AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
Salkis Re

Pain is GIFT!!!

Women with locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it.

You will run from it.

You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings.

Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.

You worry about how you look: Daily.

You worry about him not loving you: Daily.

You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.

But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.

You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexy  you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.

 

Will you change?
The truth?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.

Why?
Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.

Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.

But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.

What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…

The Black Hat Society”
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

Need to talk? Got challenges that require the guidance of someone who has SIGHT? Call Me!

You Will Pick The Wrong Man Again!

“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re

You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.

But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??

He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.

Why?
Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.

Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔

If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.

The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.

You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..

Women with Locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

“The Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

African American Female Artist, Salkis Re captivates your eyes and your heart with her retro art pieces
“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Getting Rid of Your Fear and Self Doubt!

“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re

You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.

You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,

that you are nothing in this world.

How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.

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Art by Salkis RE Painting “Love You Anyway”

“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..

“Fear”
Written by Salkis Re

I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.

Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.

When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because

you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re