Someone “made” you feel ugly? Some “made” you feel insecure? Someone “made” your worthless? All he did was express how he felt about you.. He gave you his perspective and packaged it with a sales pitch.
He habitually stated that pitch until your resistance withered away.
Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Why didn’t YOU walk away?
You Want the TRUTH?
Because he never told you a “lie”!!
He told you everything you ALREADY believed about yourself!
And though his words hurt to hear, it made you feel comfortable and
even “Closer” to him because you shared the same feelings about yourself…
Don’t blame him for holding up the mirror.
The question to ask is:
How do you feel about you?
If you Answer that honestly, your healing can begin…
So what do we want to do here exactly.
What you want to do is start clearing up misconceptions and opinions and “Truths”
that do not support the narrative you WANT to believe in!
I have said it before, and I will say it yet again.
Everything you think that you are is “Make Believe”,
it starts off as a feeling,
then from that feeling inspires an action
then from the action, you create a habit.
Then before long,
you’ve done or thought whatever it is for so long that it moves as a truth in your life,
dictating and altering your perception of your reality..
We want to rewire our brains.
This is how you heal from ANYTHING. I don’t care what it is.
The depression, the disease, the lack ALL stem from your beliefs.
And your beliefs are NOTHING BUT DECISIONS MADE OVER AND OVER AGAIN..
You can start to change by become “AWARE” of everything you feel.
“Becoming aware means that you start catching yourself in the mist of doing something habitual.
That negative self talk, or going for that piece of cake you don’t need,
you see what you are doing and from there you will want to start to questioning your behavior.
Why am I saying this about myself?
Why am I grabbing the chocolate cake when I know it makes me feel unstable?
What is it that I am looking to feel?
Am I trying to relieve my anxiety?
Am I trying to distract myself from pain?
What you want to start doing in begin to FEEL everything so
that you have to opportunity to question everything that you feel.
To pose a question breaks the script!
It breaks your confidence in your “Truth”.
It requires you to THINK!
THINKING is what will strengthen you!
Because thinking requires that you find TRUE answers…
THINKING brings the gift of resolution.
THINKING means that you get to change the narrative
when you figured out that what you believe is bull s%Jt!
Why Should You Heed My Advice?
Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,
AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities
and throw that bitch in the closet so
I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!
Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously
about how we should look and feel about ourselves and
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
You are being programed to feel insecure.
You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..
And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…
Wake Up “Mummy”
Why should you listen to me?
Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!
So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry
and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.
I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.
I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..
And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.
Nothing aesthetically I mean…
I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.
So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.
I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,
I made women beautiful for a living.
And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought
that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,
then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..
Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!
But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.
It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.
I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.
Same pain different face.
Same worry, pretty face.
Same rejection, nice body..
What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..
I was hooked!
I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.
Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to
do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.
Maybe you need someone to talk too..
Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..
This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..
I need your attention.
I need for you to understand the messages I convey.
because I truly believe, with all my heart,
that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can
change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..
“Tune In” Written by Salkis Re Nobody has a problem rating others until it is time to rate themselves. Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.
Mistress of Words
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”
Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!
Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.
Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….
It might feel icky to be a fraud,
but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling
you the truth while being themselves.
You are being humored every DAY.
People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,
some even pretend to be impressed
and attracted to you.
And here you are,
afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,
to get you results that could make you better.
So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?
How do you grow while staying the same?
How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?
“We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”
Transit time January 25, 2019 3:45 a.m.
👉Men: Give Love /
👉Men: Say What They Have Knowledge In/ Women: Say What you Want to hear.
👉Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /
Women: Are vulnerable Physically
👉Men: Are Impersonal /
Women: Take Everything Personally
👉Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/
Women: Bored and find Reasoning exhausting
👉Men: Praise/ Women: Criticize
👉Men: Invent/ Women: Imitate
I am NOT pointing out these thing as a suggestion that we try to act like men, the goal here is for you to start learning about yourself so that you can be a more effective communicator with men AND you will also being to understand why you say/do the thing YOU do.
And this is why we get repetitiously limited results
And this is why we get repetitiously limited results in our lives as women. We need men to balance us, but women are so broken by numerous failed relationships that every character trait you posses is now pathological in scope.
We fake like we are unicorns flowing through life unbothered, yet it’s part of our disposition to be pretentious and critical of everything EXCEPT ourselves.
KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers
KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers are and how to shift away from a behavior that doesn’t give you the results you’re looking for.
We need to be seen, we NEED to be acknowledged and this need is easily exploitable by men people they have the upper hand of logic and analysis.
You THINK with your body
THINK with your body. You filter your world through a sense of what’s hot or cold, not wrong or right.
So walking with the awareness of this truth allows you to step back a bit because you are giving your body time to settle down so that you can THINK instead of REACT.
A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets
Take your first tiny little step towards happiness by simply acknowledging that you don’t think things through in the way that you should, and vow to only make a decisions after thinking them through first. A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets and WILL change your entire life!😉
“Your Self Esteem Coach”
Do you want me to help figure out what to do? Drop me a quick email at firstname.lastname@example.org
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