Are You Clowning Yourself?

African Art by Salkis Re; Clowns
Salkis Re, Artist, Author, Poet

Are You A Clown?

I was one for most of my life. Trying hard to make people laugh and smile and like me.

Masking how I truly felt for fear of experiencing rejection and loneliness.

The more I tried, the more invisible I felt as I never got what I wanted.

Some of us are used for the entertainment of others who never seem to feel an inclination to reciprocate the generosity and care they’ve received.

I came to the conclusion that being kind wasn’t the way to get love. I figured out that being selfless wasn’t the way to want he hearts of others..

What would give me a quality experience when interacting with other souls is to LOVE MYSELF.

Joaquin Phoenix

Are you playing the Clown in real life?

Are you doing things for laughs and cheers at the expense of your ideals and self esteem?

Are you afraid to ask for what you need from those whom you give too?

Then you are playing a clown, and it’s time to stop entertaining people at the cost of your identity.

 

Energy is EVERYTHING..

The respect you want to enjoy requires ENERGY.

The love you want to experience requires energy.

What signal are you sending out into the world?

What are you eating to support your cells and organs?

What are you thinking in order to change the way your genes express themselves?

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“Joker” Original Art by Salkis Re

Feeling good about who you are requires new thought patterns and a new environment to support a new thought.

You ever rearrange the furniture in your bedroom and feel like its a brand new room? That the same concept needed to change the results you get in your life. Rearrange your thoughts by manipulating your environment.

The game of life and abundance and wellness is about about changing your perception of your reality.

feel love permeate through your body. When you go out the door, breathe deeply and think positively about yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Sexual Energy: How to Get An Abundance of it!

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Sexual energy is about -energy- not so much about intentionally looking sexy. And the truth that some of are trying so hard to look sexy that it reads like desperation instead of attractiveness.

Eye contact can transmit sexual energy, so can your scent, how you walk and how you talk..

Does proper hip to waist ratio help: of course.

But if you do not posses this it does not mean you are out the game.

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You are only out the game when you are ashamed of yourself, when you’ve given in to excuses and vices to distract you from the reality that you need to change..

A few things that will boost your sex appeal:

Less Makeup.

Ditch the -beat face- for a fresh face look.. When you wear excessive amounts of makeup you hide your natural beauty which is your fertility.

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Workout.

Working out will change your body composition but more importantly it will regulate your hormones. It helps to keep you emotionally grounded and it should be seen as a self honoring ritual rather than torture.

Ditch the Sugar.

Eating process sugar causes cellular death. It dries out the skin and causes it to thin and sag. It dries out the vagina too. Depression and food are linked and sugar causes you to lose mental focus and invites hallucinations like depression and boredom when your blood sugar crashes after the high.

Wash your Vagina:

A stink vagina can cause a lack of confidence too.👀 If you open your legs and it smells like tilapia and hot blue cheese, you need to douche that playground and go on a dik diet. Diks make the vagina itch and smell, so if you are fuccing several men at the same time, I know your puwsy smells like a butcher’s box. Stop believing these hoes who tell you that you are “winning” when you can get a nut from men who don’t even really like you. ISSA LIE!

Don’t be Afraid of Men!

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STOP taking men so seriously too. Men are scared of being hurt and wished they didn’t have that bell pepper nose or that dark skin just like you.👀
Some wish they had more money or bigger diks but they manage to still feel entitled even with the shyte load of flaws they posses.
Understand that they want something from you, and work out what your exchange rate is- i.e. marriage/money/girlfriend/lover etc..

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

And I need for you to resist the conditioning of “pricing” yourself as a supposed negative concept.

Everyone around you is judging your worth.

It may be based on how you look, or you talents and intelligence, but everybody is “adding you up”.

From your employer to your boyfriend, everyone is quantifying and making assessments about your value.

SO you need to have a number in your head  that you’ve reached through introspection and self evaluation.

If you feed people nourishing food from scratch, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are extremely efficient and conscientious, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are a healer and generous, that is worth SUMthing.

What is your worth black woman?

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Be a Pussy Kat!

You are wondering how to be?

You want to know what you need to do and say and be to get the things you want in life.

And it is really as simple as adopting the nature of a feline..

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“Ms Kitty Says” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here


The magic that is a Cat is something so majestic, so mysterious, so gentle and fierce and it really cannot be compared to anything thing else in this world.

Your nature should be congruent with your expectations. You can’t act one way (that you realize is ineffective) and expect to get the results you want.

Most of reasons why we suffer as women is through in indoctrination of guilt.

 

Guilt is a powerful persuasive technique because it creates self doubt and weakness within the mind.

 

Cats are superior opportunists and do not linger around past your usefulness.

They get their food and leave.

They come and demand your attention and then leave again.

They rub up against your leg and prrrrr for a while and the leave.

They’ll even bring you a freshly killed mouse as a gift of generosity….

and then the leave.

You can be loved and completely ignored by that same cat which makes you love the cat even more.

 

 

If someone can make you feel guilt and shame, THEY OWN YOU! PERIODT!

So you my dear, you must become like the feline, ever on her purpose, not easily impressed to care or not.

She is a watcher,

quiet,

yet you feel her presence when she is in the room…

BE A KAT!!! Prrrrrrr

 

She will not “cum” to you until SHE wants too……
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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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You Are Leaving Him Because You Are Bored???

As I coach women lately, I’m finding that many

of you are considering ending stable

relationships because the man is “boring”

and seems to be unable to stimulate you emotionally.

 

He pays the bills

He pays the bills, you don’t have to wonder where food and shelter will come from.

You get what ever you wants BUT you’re bored..

 

Exciting Men Will LEAVE!

These men with “community deicks” bring a lot of excitement.

They are undisciplined, unpredictable, care-free and purpose driven for fun,

and can offer that feeling of being “wanted” that you prize so much.

 

Intellectual Men Are Manipulators

Those “Intellectual” prophets can tell you something you never heard before,

wow you with recitations of cosmic theory and speculations

of our origins of man while he ‘experiences you instead of claiming you’: just like Nipsy did to Lauren….

On SALE NOW ” “DO You Still Love Me?”

STOP BEING A FOOL!

Don’t let your emotions make a fool out of you.

A regimented man can fiancé your need for “stimulation”

He can provide the resources you need to get out

of your dissatisfaction with what you are.

BE the stimulator.
Be the catalyst.
Be the fantasy.
Be the PURPOSE for your own life and stop being a brat

for attention and go find something constructive to do…

Thick LocsWhy Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who

had to bind her insecurities and throw that b#tch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Why Women Stay With Bad Men!

Someone “made” you feel ugly?
Some “made” you feel insecure?
Someone “made” your worthless?
All he did was express how he felt about you..
He gave you his perspective and packaged it with a sales pitch.

He habitually stated that pitch until your resistance withered away.

Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Why didn’t YOU walk away?
You Want the TRUTH?

Because he never told you a “lie”!!
He told you everything you ALREADY believed about yourself!
And though his words hurt to hear, it made you feel comfortable and

even “Closer” to him because you shared the same feelings about yourself…

FACTS!

Don’t blame him for holding up the mirror.
The question to ask is:
How do you feel about you?
If you Answer that honestly, your healing can begin…

So what do we want to do here exactly.

What you want to do is start clearing up misconceptions and opinions and “Truths”

that do not support the narrative you WANT to believe in!

I have said it before, and I will say it yet again.

Everything you think that you are is “Make Believe”,

it starts off as a feeling,

then from that feeling inspires an action

then from the action, you create a habit.

Then before long,

you’ve done or thought  whatever it is for so long that it moves as a truth in your life,

dictating and altering your perception of your reality..

We want to rewire our brains.

This is how you heal from ANYTHING. I don’t care what it is.

The depression, the disease, the lack ALL stem from your beliefs.

And your beliefs are NOTHING BUT DECISIONS MADE OVER AND OVER AGAIN..

You can start to change by become “AWARE” of everything you feel.

“Becoming aware means that you start catching yourself in the mist of doing something habitual. 


That negative self talk, or going for that piece of cake you don’t need,

you see what you are doing and from there you will want to start to questioning your behavior.

Why am I saying this about myself?

Why am I grabbing the chocolate cake when I know it makes me feel unstable?

What is it that I am looking to feel?

Am I trying to relieve my anxiety?

Am I trying to distract myself from pain?

What you want to start doing in begin to FEEL everything so

that you have to opportunity to question everything that you feel.


To pose a question breaks the script!

It breaks your confidence in your “Truth”.

It requires you to THINK!

THINKING is what will strengthen you!

Why?

Because thinking requires that you find TRUE answers…

THINKING brings the gift of resolution.

THINKING means that you get to change the narrative

when you figured out that what you believe is bull s%Jt!

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

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“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Soft Porn Everywhere!

“Soft Porn”
Written by Salkis Re
 

Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously

about how we should look and feel about ourselves and 
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
 
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You are being programed to feel insecure.

You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
 
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They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain

 
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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No Reward!

You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..

And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…  

Wake Up “Mummy”


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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Pretty But You Sick???

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If your goal is to truly love yourself

 

If your goal is to truly love yourself and you are not adding

what you eat into your transformation cocktail, then you are

playing games and fooling yourself at the same time too.

Holistic living requires that your diet be in line with nature.

 

Triggered to Eat Junk Food

This is a very emotional thing for us because

EVERYTHING we do is triggered by our emotions.

I don’t know anyone who eats for nutrition purposes.

 

Food Porn

We have to dress the food, lay it out really nicely,

make it look attractive and appetizing in order to want to eat it.

Ad this food porn only further makes us emotionally

dependent on the soothing that we think we are getting for food.

 

If you are eating for nutrition then salt would not be apart of your dish.

I know I know, food tastes like shit without salt,

, or so our tastes buds have been trained to believe.

 

 

You may not being doing crack, but the food you are eating a daily

basis is just as much of am addictive drug as any line of cocaine.

Salt is a chemical, it is not a food.

Sugar is a chemical. It is not a food.

Cooking oil is a chemical, it is not a food

 All manner of imbalances happen when you consume these chemicals, from colds to cancer.

 

If A baby Can’t Eat, Neither Should You!

The general rule here is if you can’t feed it to a baby or eat a bowl of it, or feed it to an elderly person,

THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE EATING IT!!

The journey to self love REALLY BEGINS NOW.

Are you ready??

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

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The Ugly Girls Club!!

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The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

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Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

The Ugly Girls Club.com” COMING SOON!

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


Black Women with Thick Locs

Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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