Well my play husband wrote a 7 page letter in rebuttal to his ex wife Kelis and her claimed of physical abuse during their 5 year marriage.
Kelis stated in an interview that Was would imitate physical fights with her while under the influence of alcohol.
She stated she new about his extra marital affairs that went on for 2 years during their marriage, but she didn’t decided to leave because of that: “The cheating was more like the icing on the cake, she states.
Now I render when they had gotten a divorce and I honestly don’t remember hearing any bad blood between them, actually
I was impressed with the class that Kelis displayed when asked about what happened because she remained tight lipped about it.
Fast forward to today and the whole cat is out the bag, shyte slinging everywhere as each are publicly accusing the other of abusive behavior.
Nas’s accusation cut deep and really hit home about domestic abuse and how easy
it is to take advantage of another person who shoes emotions dependency for you.
He said he suspected she was crazy but she was “BeautifuL” , so I guess her beauty gave her character a pass, at least for a while.
Other things mentioned were her uncooperativeness with him in arranging to see his son and how he even faked a reconciliation with her in order to spend time with his son.
He said Kelis “fat shamed” his daughter from a previous relationship and verbally abused her often.
Its a mess.
A big mess!
I love Nas as an artist and I don’t him personally, so I would judge his character or takes sides with Kelis on her allegations against him.
But I have a message to men and women about choosing life partners.
When deciding to marry someone, you are putting yourself into a contractual commitment that holds more weight than a hand shake or a promise ring.
You are in fact stating that you are willing to risk potential loss or enjoy potential gain by cutting yourself off from any other options(dating) out here.
Do you weight the value or the compensation package of this crucial decision on looks, muscles, big booty, big d&*k or even money ?
Making decisions based on superficial things often leads to buyer’s remorse and heart breaking regret,
over time because a decision wasn’t made based on actual value inside the box but the Chiny packaging outside of it.
I have said this before that pretty women are often accused and assumed to be crazy, light skin women in particular seem to have a reputation for emotional instability.
But you GUYS say that the Coo-Coo FOR COCO PUFFS usually makes the sex even hotter!!
So listen guys, I know you want a woman who is beautiful, I know this is a top priority for most if not all of you whether your financial means can support it or not.
But you must weigh her character, you must observe and pace yourself just like I tell women to do when dating men. Especially you guys who have a lot to lose
. There are great women out here that you won’t give a chance to because she is not “pretty” enough to make a serious consideration for,
women who would bend over backwards to see to your comforts and to make sure that you are well fed,
that your secrets are protected, that will work just as has as you do to keep the house in order so that you come home to an oasis away from the grind.
But you will never know their sweetness because you don’t see their value.
This goes for women too of course…
IF you suspect that there is emotional instability in the woman you are interested in, take a pause, retreat,
RUN if necessary! And do not look back. MANY MANY MANY women hide their emotional unsteadiness behind their physical attractiveness.
I have said MANY MANY MANY times that attractiveness does not equate to SANITY or INTELLIGENCE or HIGH SELF ESTEEM either.
And I mean this with all the muscle I can flex
Women are bewitching, beautiful women even more so…
But who you MARRY has to be more than a pretty face and good sex. If she is to be the mother of your children
and potentially someone you are tied to in one way or another for life, give care in that she is mentally fit
to mother your children and provide the emotional stability and virtue I think you guys want..
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