I hear this verbado all the time. “Oh I don’t play no games, I’m straight up when it comes to relationships!” I hear this and immediately think: “This person has no clue in how to seduce!” Playing games is a part of courtship, its apart of creating emotional connections with people. Now, I am not talking about anything malicious here, I am speaking of creating fantasies in the mind of the person you are wanting to pursue YOU.
Telling him you can cook rather than surprising him with a 4 course meal is going to have a different effect. Both will yield a favorable result, but being caught off guard, being surprised will have more emotional cushioning surrounding the big reveal. This is what Im speaking of. We just talk to f’ing much and don’t allow the other person to paint a picture of us, to dream of us. By putting is ‘All Out There’, you leave nothing for discovery. You don’t give him a chance to feel happy and honored about being chosen by you…
Hold you tongue. This is not about you. This is about the man that you want to be with who cannot know that he has already won your heart. That is what hurried honesty does, it breeds contempt and a slow down in the chase. “Oh I got time, she wants me!” Is what he says to himself. If you are not aware of this yet, anxiety is the best friend of passion. Save your truth for your own heart and disclose over time, not in one 4 hour phone call. You do that talk all night ish on the first run, and you are done before you start… Pace Yourself..
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