The conversation around colorism is hitting a fever pitch now. I just read an article about Lupita and her experiences with colorism while growing up in Kenya and then seperation by color when she moved to the U.S. She said: “Colorism is the Daughter to Racism“.
And she suffered from self worth issues and wished her skin was a different shade. Now she is contributing to the mental wellness of our black girls with her new book, “Sulwe” which is a book to encourage love of skin and beauty within..
This Evelyn Lozada and OG beef
This Evelyn Lozada and OG beef which also includes accusations of favoritism do to skin tone has got viewers upset about preferential treatment Lozada had received even though she is arguably the most “aggressive” and “violent” cast member on that show. She insinuated that OG, a darkskinned African woman, was a monkey. She repeated called her UGLY and “DIRTY” on the show but Shawnie has called OG “aggressive” on the show.
The thing I find with colorist reviews is that I’ve these negative “racist” terminology from pretty much “EVERYONE” out here.
I’ve worked in the beauty field for over 20 years and watched how mothers talked about their “nappy-headed” daughters and mates notation of how this one didn’t get the “good hair” or that the other daughter was “the pretty one”/
I’ve seen so-called “friends” make colorist statements about their “friends” by calling them “black bytches” and “ashy S.O.B’s” and all manner of derogatory colorist statements were hurled all over the place.
I’ve listened as women clowned their Dark skin boyfriends or husbands and the word “nigger” or “black mother fockker”, “crusty arse nigger” or “field niggas” was used to describe a man who either didn’t know or didn’t care that he was getting scammed for his money.
I told my little black doves about the biases in place that support a low value narrative where we are concerned.
I said that they think black women are: Aggressive, Dirty, Masculine, Unlovable, Unintelligent, Bitter, Impoverished….
And these notions will often times come right your own home, from people you love and respect…
Colorism is a fight from within AND without
Colorism is a fight from within AND without. It is in your backyard, at your workplace, it might even be that penis you welcome into your birth canal...
So you have to change your energy.
STOP giving emotional support (envy, mimicry, jealousy, admiration, commerce) To people who do not reciprocate emotional and monetary value towards you.
It’s YOU who WORSHIPS their image and cries unfair treatment later.
YOU don’t pedestalize people who look like YOU.
Because you want to be them, be accepted by them, be admired by them and you feel that you have to be LIKE THEM to experience that..
Change your energy.
Do not exert emotional energy to ANYONE who does not INSTINCTIVELY reciprocate it to you.
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Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club
When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com