Whores Verses Hoes

African American Women
No more excuses!

I smile when people get on their soap boxes with wagging fingers against the moral character of people when they lie, cheat, manipulate on a daily basis as well. They hide behind religion and pretense, and glamor, proper English, and their expensive cars AND/OR meager dwellings so that they can and say “I’m better than you” because I’m more *blessed than you, or I’m better than you because I have *no desire to want what you have.

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

All of women utilize our sexuality in various degrees, but we pretend to abhor intense representations of feminine sexuality.

Why?

Because you can be discreet about rug burns on your knees as you gag from the flesh of man/men being pushed down your throat? The man you’re married to that doesn’t want to fork you anymore, boyfriends who are with you cause they need a place to stay, male friends that come and “maintenance” your hole every few  weeks like clock work.

Salkis Re

You are full of shit!

Church whores and Head Wrapped hoes alike! I regret my naivete that became my stupidity after I knew better.. I regret all the wasted moisture my body created for dicks that couldn’t fuck me well and the pretty *eggplants that were good but didn’t genuinely care for me. Whoring myself for NOTHING. I know what that is. I know the pain and wasted time that comes when you ignore the facts to insist on remaining *hopeful.

So I say all this to say: do not let ANY other woman make make you feel intimidated AT ALL! Some of us are just better at hiding the crosses we bear. If you want what she has, then you can get it too, but do outright assume her life is honky-dory because her shoe game and makeup is perfect OR because she gets to fork her boyfriend and make baby number 5 in a tree house he built to drag you into off the grid living cause he’s against paying taxes.

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Creative Soul”
“Spiritual Advisor”
~Salkis Re

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Be Who You Are!!

 

 

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

I get it!
You don’t want to look like a fool.
You don’t want to seem strange to people.
What want to be “normal” like everybody else.
All illusions though and elaborate figments of your imagination.
Why?
Because being like everybody else is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean that people will automatically care about you, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee love!
Quite the opposite is true.

Let me hip you to a secret about people. When you conform to their way, the perception of your value is immediately reduced in their minds.
Why Salkis?

Because to be like them when they have secret loathing within them means that you are as good or not as good as they are, and if you are on the same level, there is no reason to respect you.

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Abstract Portrait Painting by
Salkis Re

People respect those they deem better than themselves. The “herd” mentality offers comfort in that there is no one to compete with, no one to take her boyfriend away or get promoted over her at work. It’s like we all are comfortable in our collective misery, steering clear of out shining each other: BUT we don’t respect each other either.

So I got a bit sentimental today and loaded up my pen to write down what you should do.
The point is to NEVER conform. You will ALWAYS reduce yourself if you do.
Why? Because the people you are “trying” to be like are already “doing them” better than you can!

Do YOU!

My Poem:

What You See” Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Why are you so afraid
of people seeing who you are,
or doing what your heart wants you to do?
The best thing you should be wanting
is to do things so people stop fronting
like they ever really cared about you.

Your obligation is to your dreams
and making sure that what you’ve seen
becomes real for all to bear witness.
And if people admire you
then see that as nothing more than a result from you minding your business.

Pledge your allegiance to yourself
and all that you wish you could be.
Let no one interrupt,
the flow of what you want
And never be afraid of showing them
what you’ve always wanted yourself to see.

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
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Your Sex Is a Gift

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Your Sex Matters
I know you’ve heard it before.
Sex is no big deal. Sex is easy to get.

Sex is doesn’t need to have commitment attached as so on..

*And I guess all of that is true: depending on who you talk too.

But I will say this, every man who has told me that to my face has NEVER cared about me. They never wanted anything outside of my “hole”.

So while the argument can be made that we are more than just a vagina, it’s that “just another hole” that they want straight away.

Don’t fall for that **devalue game. It implies that there’s no need for you to be sexual selective, to scrutinize or have “enforced” standards of conduct and intention from that man.**

A **dime a dozen vaginas** are out here in droves but your value is not **stock market based.**

Sex is a gift.

It’s a blessing if your vaginal is healthy and responsive. It is uplifting if you feel good about yourself. It’s a good luck charm if you live a life in awareness and appreciation.

  • If you are sexing to escape your reality,
  • to simulate love,
  • to distract you from your pain,
  • to make him fall in love either you,
  • to impress him,
  • because you are bored or lonely:

you are corrupting yourself!

What could be more important in your life than your vagina? That is the portal between the spirit and physical realm.

How can you excuse it’s magic and cast your pearls to swine?

Your depression,

lack of confidence

and self worth

have a great deal to do with sexual intrusion. The choice you make to “open” yourself to souls who cannot advance you is very costly. The stability you claim to have in spite of what you do is crippling you.

Am I addressing “morality‘ here?
Not at all.
Why?
Because once you have Sex, contemplating morality is inconsequential. Because after you’ve had Sex for the first time, it immediately becomes a game of “appearences” and not wanting to be perceived a particular way.
You have to make a choice here. Is your body a gift or is a “thing to play with”?

 

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Men Can Spot the Weakness in Women

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

We say men are hunters right? Ok what are the characteristics of a hunter? Isn’t Isn’t a hunter observant and watchful of what he has his eye on? Isn’t a hunter looking for the easiest prey?

Can a hunter not spot frailties and weaknesses? Men are more observant than you think. And when they care about what they’re after, then they REALLY watch.

Men can sniff out insecure women and “feed” off you just a kill. Desperation is not what you want to be; it will make you a sitting duck. Get your mind together and quit thinking you can conceal how you feel about yourself because you can’t.

 

We have to stOP thinking that we are really concealing our feelings. These things seep into everything we do. You are going look insecure, and you will act it out or reveal it eventually.

The point is to build yourself from the inside, to have integrity and follow through is what will build your self esteem. I tell the i coach girls Guilt will destroy you faster than any other emotion because leads to shame,  self doubt, fear, intimidation, and cowardly behavior.

So how do you break the cycle of low self esteem? You have to keep your word.

Yes!!!

Keep your fucking word to yourself#!

Make a promise and come hell or high water, (keep that shit)and actually finish what you start.

When you do this, your guilt will start falling away and you will begin to trust yourself. And trusting yourself means that you can say NO to what you need to walk away from. It means you can count on yourself yo always do what is in your best interest.

How freaking awesome is that!!!

To finally be your best friend!!!

AND what does this mean for men who are after you? It means that they have to right or not at all. It means that they cannot convince you to go against your better judgment because you no longer decide what is right or wrong for you based on the approval or disappointment of ANYONE.

You are chief.

The head Honcho!

Numero Uno baby!!!

BAM!

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Who am I?

I am your fairy Godmother

“Liberator of the Breath”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”

“The Lie Slayer”

~Salkis Re

 

The First Time You Became a Whore!


Yes, You are a WHORE Too!

Some of you will wrestle with your whordom. You will think that you are above reproach and that somehow your vaginal is more pristine than that of a woman who pedals her flesh. So I will tell you what you won’t accept but what is true nonetheless.
You are defiled too.
If you have had ONE penis inside you, you have died. A little death of the girl you once was takes place.
You emotional instability begins as you start to be more concerned about that dik than yourself.

  1. You start to dress up for the dik.
  2. Cook for the dik.
  3. You worry if that dik likes your pu$$y as much as you like that dik.

You become cunning and manipulative so that dik stays fixated on you.

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
  • You were balanced before that dik.
  • Level headed emotionally before that dik.
  • Less worried about things before that dik. Now he is inside you:literally and spiritually and you struggle to find your joy outside of him.

Listen Goddess, A dik is incapable of giving you self respect and honor. (for you wives that think you are different)
A dik is an instrument of pleasure and reproduction. It is an emotional tool used to “attach” souls(emotional bodies) to each other.

And If and when you break up with that first dik, the 7 years it’s takes for total celluar regeneration is of no consquence because you are “grown” now, and see no necessity behind rebuilding yourself before getting into another relationship.

Why don’t you feel this necessity to cleanse?

Because you feel like what you are now: a WHORE  and you are in a tug of war your shame as you tout that the sex you had “it didn’t mean anything to you”. Your mind and your heart’s perspective differ greatly, as you reason away your confusion and anguish.

So what is the conclusion to this whorism stuff anyway? How am I supposed to feel good about myself as a woman of I think I’m a whore? Well isn’t the point of this entire article to address the FACT that you’ve ALWAYS felt that way? You just couldn’t put it into the eloquent presentation

that I’ve done here for you, but you have indeed felt that way. You are more caught up in how it reads on paper than how it feels in your heart.

But the point is to take ownership of your body and understand which things you can overrule with your thoughts and which things are governed by physical laws that cannot be overridden.

Your body is an incubator, a DNA recorder if you will. And this means that it’s a storage space for everything you put in it: dik included. The sex you have as the whore you are is indeed your right to have, just understand that when you become initiated through sex, everything you do MUST become strategic to protect your mental and physical well being.

You should understand that since you are designed as a genetic recorder/receiver, who you fuck can “dumb you down” or “build you up” depending on his physical and emotional constitution.

As a whore, you must be self absorbed.  Your livelihood depends on your ability to be selfish, selective and graceful and cunning.

Why?

Because you know that dik will alter to you and it must be for gain or what is the point really.

You are wired for natural selection. Your lack of confidence and sense of entitlement as broken skewed your perception but it can be repaired.

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The World In Your Hands
Painting by Salkis Re

Step One of your reparation:

Accept that you are a Whore. Accept that you are adulterated AND that this is the natural alteration that takes place in every woman’s life. And vow to be strategic and purposeful in ALL your future alterations whether that be with one man or 60 men.

Get Up Goddess!

Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens The Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Queen Bee”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

 

 

 

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How to Stop the Disease to Please!

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

How Not to Give a Shit! Oops! Did I Just Swear??

 

If you could get this one thing together, I mean this would blow this need to people please to smithereens, and
You’d have what you want out a life!

Validation and acceptance from the “tribe” was once a survival requirement.
You could have been ran out a town or burned at the stake if the important folk in your town thought you were a lunatic.

And your DNA is wired for tribal approval, which means that your brain is still operating in the vein
of “I need a group to love me so that I will gave food, protection and shelter”.
But those hunter gatherer days are long gone and you have to bribe your own mother to watch your children overnight.

You are alone…

(I get so excited saying this)
Why?
Because it means you are also FREE.

  • Free to be what you want.
  • Free to do what you want.
  • Free to have what you want.

[No tribe is gonna run you outa town for being whomever you’ve chosen to be.]

You must get this in your thick skull!
And the irony today is this: people prefer to be around people who have a strong identity.

People latch onto self aware people like white on rice!**
So you wouldn’t be alone even if you tried because you being you will also attract others who are looking for people that they too can be themselves with.
It’s a Win-Win situation my darling..

So today’s Mantra is:

The rescue I want to see is
In me being me.

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Queen Bee, Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Solar Eclipse Is Here! Time To Manifest Everything You Want#!

__********->A Total Solar Eclipse is Happening today!! The last time we had one was in 1979!!
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So the moon will block out the sun totally for a short time today and this natural event as not happened since 1979.. There’s a 70 mile stretch called the “path of totality” where areas of the US will be completely blacked out. States like South Carolina, Oregon and on into Canada and South America too..

  • So why is this one so freaking awesome?
    Because it will cut across the United States diagonally and the last time that happened was in the year 1918..
    OK, so what does it mean for you and I?
    This is like New Year’s Day.
    A new begining.
    A fresh start.
    Set your intentions and make SELF care an absolute priority today.
    This is your do over. Your zero time reference and you should treat it like your mother just gave birth to you today..
    Seriously…
    You might feel a little off emotionally and physically during this time, BUT this is a powerful manifesting time. The energy is high high high.

A few things you should do while we are in this solar eclipse:

1– Set Your Intentions
Write down on a piece of paper what you want to manifest or release. Smoke the paper with burning sage and watch the paper burn. Say your intention while watching the paper burn completely out. Then whisper a prayer of gratitude and end with “So shall it be done.

 

2-Drink Lots of Water
This is a perfect time for cleansing and detoxing. Flush your system out with water to purify yourself.

3-Create!
If you draw, paint, sew, write, or dance, then do it today! Your creativity will be heightened ten fold.

4- Channel Your Feminine Goddess
Now this one is what I’m doing in beast mode from this point on. It’s ALL about feminine sexual energy for me and I’m channeling it into everything that I do from my paintings, to exercise, even cooking is sensual event for me. My intention with harnessing the goddess energy is to arrest any residual suppressive thoughts and old programming about good girl verse bad shut within me. I am embracing ALL of me.
Be unapologetic today. Be in full reverence of your womanhood today because it will set the tone for the weeks and months to come.
Rock on Creatrixx!!

Recite this Affirmation I Created for You Today:
“I Have Everything”

Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017
I pledge allegiance to myself and all the things that I do.
All my thoughts turns to gold and all my dreams come true.
What I ask my Mother Earth for is what I absolutely deserve.
And good fortune is my best friend, for I get all I want in this world.

 

*Share that affirmation with your homegirls today.
Powerful!

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Your Self Esteem Coach- Salkis Re

 

 

 

You Think He Doesn’t Know He Hurts You?

“People Know Exactly What They Are Doing”
Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Women often create this romanticism around the pain inflicted upon them. All of a sudden that person who is mistreating you is reduced and excused into having the brain matter of a drippling toddler, while you inadvertently defend their actions while creating a barrier of delusion and blame to match your emotional fragility by saying he must be “unaware” and “clueless” of what he has done to”continuously” hurt you…

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“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

He’s only smart when he treats you kind?

But when he is in the mood to treat you nicely, somehow, on that particular day, you don’t doubt that his intellect and facilities are in tact.
So here is an thought brought to life step by step:

  1. When someone makes a decision, a thought must come to their mind first.
  2.  After that, plans are made to actualize that thought. Included in the planning phase are: the be best times to do it; contingencies to make sure it’s conceal from you;
  3. and a budget may also be implemented  put in place depending on how much this decision costs to execute and how often it will be happening.

Doing Good or Bad has zip to do with intelligence!

In other words, it’s the same thought process to do “good” as it is to do “bad“. Stop thinking your that your pain is an instrument being used to increase their maturity level. People do what they want to do and regret AFTER they get caught. It’s just circumstances and consequences playing out for YOUR growth, NOT theirs…

“Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re
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How To Smash Jealousy of Other Women

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Me and my girl: “I’m Beautiful?”

 

So I did a video today addressing this thing called jealousy that kicks our assessment as women. We see a stunning woman and poof! We turn back into Cinderella BEFORE she wore the glass slippers.

But have no fear, your Self Esteem Coach is here to rescue you from the your own self loathe.

You must know that you are fabulous and you can be even more fabulous when you “nuture” and water the grass under your feet. We cannot not be what we weren’t born as nor what we are too lazy to become.

  1. Watch the Video to see me and hear me give you the tips to finally smack the shyte out of jealousy.

 

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Lions and Tigers and Bears Dorothy!!! Follow The Yellow Brick Road

I have been added without request several crazy groups where women post provocative pics and guys, well guys get all excited and complimentary or at least they give the illusion of being complimentary, but some of these women are getting clowned and they are not well versed in communication, but I guess who needs to think that deep when the goal is attention. Its quite painful to watch actually because you know they have no clue that some are disgusted yet toying with her emotions.

I get all in my feelings about it.

If I was a bear, I’d growl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

if I was a wolf, I’d howl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If I was a bird I’d watch you like a  hawk

 

 

 

 

and if I was a lion I’d stalk.

 

 

 

I  hate the misrepresentation and the mental weakness of it all.

Love yourself.

And in loving yourself, you can start to see what is nurturing to you. Some of you do not know that these men are “joshing” you and really not that big of a deal ,UNTIL it leads you into private conversations with him.

We need women to encourage us, sell is the dream, comfort and lick our wounds: and then there’s me. The one that holds the mirror up to all that you hide cause you can only concern things when you stop pretending they are not there.

I see new cycles of old shyte starting all over again and the year is only two days old. I see that some of you are gonna act like you were in a coma for all of 2016. Wake up sleeping beauty.

Here, drink this tea with me..
“Your Life Coach, Artist/Author/Poet” ~Salkis Re

 

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What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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You Can’t Sex Your Way into High Self Esteem

Conquering Self Defeat
By Salkis Re
Transforming is dirty business
You can’t f;&$k your way out of pain! You are tired. You are fed up with your condition. You have tried to change things to no avail. You entertain yourself through the pain, you eat and gorge food through the pain, you try to f;&$k your way out of the pain.

You burn candles and hug trees underneath the moonlight in hopes of winning fortunes and thwarting pain. You meditate while frustrated and worried.
You spruce yourself up with new hair do’s and fresh pedicures that aid as “posers” to true self care. These are great things to do, but not so great as a replacement for the internal work required for victory over “self defeat. No! Love cannot *love you out of the muck and mire; however, you can -cope- with it a bit better ,yet it will just manifest in other things like binge eating, depression etc. Can you become a goddess without adversity? Can you become a master without trials and tests? What is the need for bravery if you have nothing to fear? Your anguish is not the problem! We all have things that challenge our resolve. The problem is that you are not utilizing your adversity to change your life! “Go along to get along” is what you’ve been doing, and now, living in pain has become your new normal. “Smiling Depressive” is what I lovingly call you. When are you going to muster up enough courage to just admit that something is wrong with this way of living? I have news for you! You are not gonna smile or deny your way through transformation!
Your going to have to walk through the “shadow of death” to truly transform and become a new person. You have to face your dragons and slay them with valarian steel! You are going to have to make a decision that charity and giving of yourself requires that you first are able to regenerate what you give to others. You give away what you can’t afford to give because of guilt and this superstition in the benefit of humility: you are trying to replaced your feelings of unreservedness by pretending to be satisfied with being a “giver”, for you are ashamed to receive. Take my hand, I will lead you through the shadow of death with the rod and staff to slay the serpents waiting to bite your heel. Its time to transform.
~Salkis Re “Life Coach”

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I’m Pretty? Ok, What’s the Catch?

I can’t help it, I immediately go to suspicion of motives when I here kind words. I can accept a compliment, and I do enjoy them. I just know that there is most often an intention from the giver that drives them to these utterances. It could be as something as them feeling good about themselves so they are compelled to spread the cheer, to someone wanting to hold your attention long enough to invite further conversation. Then there are others who just use it to fish out what you feel about yourself by paying attention to your responses.

Let’s use the weight thing as an example cause I’ve been , skinny and now I”m slim thick I suppose so here:

“You look great in that dress!”

“Oh! this ole thing, maybe 10lbs ago!”.

“Your proportioned very nicely, I think you are perfect!”

You smile as you try to accept the kindness within his words.

He is attractive, so in your mind he can exercise his authority to speak on matters of attractiveness. He has your mind occupied with plethora of possibilities. You finally buy few new things for yourself, and it has been forever since a new dress has touch your thighs. You want more of that reassurance, and he is the only one that has given it to you without asking for anything in return. He is genuine, and humble to think of you as his equal when you clearly do not think of yourself as such. BUT ,you ate the bait, hook, line and sinker. And after a few more episodes of pleasantries that he peppers with affirmations of seeing you the way no one else can, your resistance to any possible falsehood is obliterated!

It is just a dangerous game to engage in the dance of mating when you feel unsure of yourself . You are like an open wound waiting for someone to come and stitch you up because you want them to love what you don’t love about yourself. This my dear will cost you dearly. Commit to self improvement and the accept what is unchangeable about you. This way, you can stay grounded when anyone comes into your life with declarations of loving what they themselves might think of as flaws. Essentially, it’s about knowing exactly who you are, not waiting for someone to affirm things you cannot  independently validate.

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Natural Hair and Self love The Easy Escape

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Im an artist right. I paint little girls and young ladies with natural hair right. I know the importance of imagery and their power to alter the perceptions of one’s self worth. I didn’t see what I paint when I was growing up. No symbols of affection and love for my “kind”. And I get it. Every black girl needs a super hero, an alter ego like the boys have with their Transformers, G.I.Joes, Batman etc.

But what do we really have?

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Tired of The Love Games

As usual, I begin my day contemplating love and the love hate relationship I have with it. I have been through my share of charm school antics, the play hard to get ideologies. I went hard in the paint by passing all my “goddess intiations” thinking sacred prositution could really be sacred.

I wrote my desires down in my  menstrual blood on the night of the full moon while sitting underneath a big oak tree to call the spirit world to my charge in hopes of finding the man of my dreams…. sigh

I shouted vagina power mantras and developed a neatly packaged loathing for  male species. After all, their Y chromosome was nothing more than a broken X leaving  them crippled perverts with a few muscles… well so I thought. I read Super Head’s book thinking it was a course on giving head and maybe that would give me that exceptional edge, well the edge that really mattered in the minds of men.

I practiced vaginal weight training for a while with the yoni eggs because the idea of choking a dick inside my vagina seemed quite appealing to me. I tried so many things  to bring “adoration” to me, to evoke “love”, but honestly, what I really wanted was to make a man fall “madly” in love with me. That kind of love thats a bit irrational, ravenous even. I wanted him to feel an incompleteness if I were not around, so I did things to try to be exceptional.

But as I sit here thinking about all that I have learned to do, I ask myself: was I happy? The answer would be :NOPE! Of course I didn’t take on any of these “courses” to any level of mastery but I was versed enough to be mildy impressive. But what I found out that  it does or should I say what it did for me was create a nice little home for paranoia to live. Everything was staged or rehearsed. I was constantly gauging effectiveness of technique instead of enjoying the moment. I hated myself too. I felt like a fraud. All I wanted to do was be loved and love back. Simple right? But then I have to worry about competing with ghost of past relationships, or whether I measure up sexually against “better hoes”.. or if I’m pretty enough… Eeeeeeeeeek!

I had to get off the theatrical boat. For my sanity’s sake I had to simplify my morals, values, and belief systems.. I had to lay my “Sybil” and secret order ambitions to rest. And I feel so much more relaxed and at peace now more than any other time in my life. If I learn pleasure, it’s not for bargaining or manipulation, it’s simply used to show a man another way I can love him and care for him. So As I write this, I’ve come full circle on my understanding of life and what makes it fulfilling. To have contentment is most important to me… to just be…..

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You Not Gonna Waste My Time!

The unpleasant side of being an artist is having to deal with all the flakes and foolery from folks who pretend that they are interested in buying. I used to entertain conversations with anyone who made a statement about my work, especially on social media. But these days I have very guarded with my time and the emotional conversation pertaining to my art.

I GET SOME STUPID ASS QUESTIONS!!

I had to deal with a very combative troll a few weeks ago asking me why I don’t paint boys in my art. I simply said “Because I do what I want to do!” But he kept igging me on, trying to figure out if I’m some closet feminist man hater. I assumed because I didn’t have any pictures up with men. (I’ve never paraded my relationships on social media and I never will.) But I got hot about this because as an artist, I don’t have to ‘answer’ to anyone about why I do what I do. I never heard anyone ask an artist who only paints animals why they don’t paint people or artists who paint nature scenes why they don’t paint skyscrapers!!

And its always these mother suckers that what to make ‘suggestions’ about what you should add to your body of work: but if you added it for their sake, they still wouldn’t or probably could afford to buy from you. They are energy drainers indeed and I immediately put the brakes on when I see them. Everyone who ‘likes’ your work is NOT your market. And I had to learn that the hard way.

WOMAN ASKS ME WHY IM CHARGING SO MUCH!!

OMG! that conversation took all the restraint I had left and there wasn’t much to begin with. I told this girl the price of an original art piece and she goes into a whole dialog about being a young mother, not a corporate CEO and she wanted the painting for her daughter. Then she continues by asking about my pricing structure. I told her that I offered her the option of buying a print which was more within range of what she could afford, I even offered a payment plan for the original! And she was still yapping about pricing.

I politely told her that I don’t based my price or alter it because someone has a low paying job, or unemployed, or plan to give to their 1 year old daughter… That has nothing to do with me. By the end of the conversation, what she wanted was to license the art piece and she thought by buying the original that it gave her the right to reproduce it!! WTF!!! LOL SHe came back a few minutes later with the “My boyfriend said I was wrong and owed you an apology”.. Uh Yeah Whatever.

Needless to say, I had to fall back.. I mean waaaaay back from all the noise. I don’t allow people to gets minutes of my time when it starts with me having to alter anything. I see people try to play the emotional game and I guess that works for some, but I am very clear on the ‘why’ of my art business. Im not conflicted at all about the value I bring to the world…

~Salkis Re

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New Beginnings or New Being: Both

I’ve had to do some deep soul searching lately. To uncover the hidden things within my heart. I think opening up is a way to release the pressure that comes from being ‘private’ which is just another word for ‘hiding’. I think a lot of it is just fear that you can be easily made into a puppet, but I came to the conclusion that every institution from universities to jobs use us as puppets anyway. It just doesn’t feel as bad cause you can save for a vacation and maybe qualify for government aid in the form of more debt like student loans etc.

So I decided to revisit my ego and all the built up protection I’ve accumulated over the years and released that I made bad decisions out of the fear and shame that comes with hiding. The prison from having to cover a lie with another lie was making it hard for my heart to soar. And all the people that I admired and looked up to were always very candid about their lives:it was like they were telling a story about someone else, that’s how detached they were from all of it.

I’m a creative person, a passionate person, intuitive through and through but trauma of hurt and disappointment made me question all those attributes about me:until now.
So I will express my life and my thoughts in an artful way.

A Dark skin Girl Dating Blues

I was a teen in the 80’s and 90’s and it was hard getting a guy to like you if you were a dark girl back then . I remember begging my friends to talk to their boyfriends to see if they could convince one if them to come to talk to me. That was the aim; I just wanted to be seen walking with a guy and then maybe I would stop feeling like I had two heads.

I’d sit in my friends bedroom while she called her boyfriend up and ask him about this guy or that who she thought would be nice for me to date. It was obvious what was being asked on t he other end cause my friend would say “Well yeah she is dark skin but she is pretty! No! No! I serious! She is pretty. I bite my nails and pace the floor hoping to pass the preliminary interview my friend conducted on my behalf.

I’d be humiliated every time but it was more embracing being the only one among the crew that never had a valentine chocolate or some door knocker earrings as birthday gift.i was the sarcastic sidekick that held everybody coat and purses when they were busy getting their foreplay on.

The dates I managed to get all treated me exactly like what I was: a charity case. What made matters worse was that I refused to have sex. I don’t think the choice to abstain was always moral; I was fucking scared and I didn’t want to be hurt. Even with all my desperation back then, somehow I always knew that having sex with those dudes would be the last nail in the coffin. After all, I had to keep what dignity I had left…

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Don’t Have Sex Anymore!

I know, I know… some of y'all nymphs got to have sausages in your cookies on a daily basis. I'm not of that school at all. I do think less is more when it comes to intimacy simply because the more you do it, the more pressure it is to be creative and skillful  and "new". I don't think I ever bought into pressure of being the 'best' lover. I actually cringe at the thought of it! To me, it takes the love out of love-making and turns it into a rate card.

I remember meeting this guy once. I really liked him. He was sexy and very 'intellectual' but I could tell he was a sex hound. You know them guys that look at girls booties while they talking to you but they are so entranced that they didn't realized they almost stopped talking in order to look at them, lol. We finally got around to the subject of sex and he called himself a "Performance Lover". I said, "What's that?!" while frowning. He said that he aims to please women in bed. So I asked him being pleasured and he kind of brushed it off as unimportant.

That had me thinking. If you are seeking to make a good impression over sharing and expressing love through sex then its not about love at all, it's about satisfying your ego and positioning yourself to manipulate your partner. There really is no other reason to aspire to be the best at sex other than that. Of course no one wants to be awful in bed, but to me the sex act should be instinctive, not switching positions because you're timing your moves.

After we talked about sex, I was kind of disappointed because I knew he wasn't interested in me on an emotional level and I wasn't about to try break his 'best lover' record. Karma sutra be damned! Cause you do all that pole dancing acrobatics and the end result is the same: worrying if you're are just as hot to him as the first time you met...