What is Real Self Esteem!

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“Artist/Life Coach”
                         ~Salkis Re

 

Self Esteem has nothing to do with being perfect,

and Self Esteem has
nothing to do with avoiding mistakes either.

I work with women who are so afraid to make a mistake,

do concerned with “looking bad” that they thwart their own progress.

I have to talk them off the ledge of irreality so that they

can understand that perfectionism does not equate to high self esteem.

African Art of Eyes
“When We Were Kings”
                                              Art by Salkis Re

So what is Self Esteem really about?

Self Esteem has to do with having Unconditional Acceptance and worth Regardless of mistakes that you’ve done

or the imperfections you have.

Mistakes are inevitable for ALL of us because none of us have the capacity to predict the future.

The best we can ever do is assess this moment and conclude whether to  move or stand still based on an “Educated Guess”.

The lesson is that imperfection is guaranteed

So I what’s the lesson here?

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The lesson is that imperfection is guaranteed because the future is hidden,

and your self worth will rise and fall and lack any sense of stability,

if you based you worth always doing the right thing
That’s it!

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

Motivational Quotes
Artist/ Life Coach
                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Don’t Believe What They Say

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Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Why?
Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

Lllllol
~Salkis Re

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You are Perfect!

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
ARTIST ~Salkis Re

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“You Are Beautiful”
Written by Salkis Re

Simplify your beauty. A lot of men perpetuate their perpetrations. And many of them secretly want to open themselves to other men.

Suffer from Beauty Standards

You quietly suffer because you feel you don’t measure up to a standard, but you are dealing with desensitized eyes. I myself have been mistaken for a man before, and it hurt me deeply.

But I’ve come to realize that id been trying to do battle against what I could never be, and finally at this point in life, I have no desire to be.

Men You Secretly Want a Penis

Men who secretly want the pole telling you that you are not feminine enough, that you are not pretty enough, that you got to up your game. Really?
And then they will fall madly in love with you?
I think not.
It doesn’t matter really.
Stop fighting their demons, and use your strength to slay your own.

Raise up!

You are perfect as you are, no caveat needed.
When you relax into the glory of womanhood, your body will start to response to you.

Too many of us live in perpetual stress, worried consecutively about how we look.
Arrest those immoral thoughts and throw glitter on yourself.
You are the BEST! Declare it!

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

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Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

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Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

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To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

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“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,

excitement,

thirst,

yearning,

 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

 

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Love Ya!

Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

African American Art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

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The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Wishing You Were Someone Else?

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Art by Salkis Re

When you start every day and end every day thinking about the grass being greener on the other side, what is your body supposed to do with that?

You think your thoughts just dissipates after you forget what you’ve thought?

How?

How can is dissolve when your actions and the words coming out of your mouth are all carefully crafted to be in congruence with what you feel?!

Words are food just like a piece of broccoli or an apple.

Words get ingested just like any meal that touches your lips, and it can, like any food, either nourish your body or poison it.

You have to understand that you are casting spells continuously with your thoughts, and the knowledge of that fact should invite you to take inventory of what you are saying to yourself on an ongoing basis.

You wanting to be other than you are, is a result of self neglect. You thinking that you are not enough means that you have too much time on your hands.

Too much time to think about the wrong thing.

And that thinking will cripple you eventually.

It is time to consider you tonque to be your personal draftsman, the Grand Architect if you will.

Why?

Because it’s your mouth that solidifies the thoughts of your mind, for it pulls your thought out of the ethers and into the physical realm.

And once it’s made a word, YOU WILL RESPOND to it.

That’s how prayer works doesn’t it?

Do you not believe in an insult?

Have you not been hurt by the arrangement of words accompanied by strong emotion before.

What you say to others can hurt or heal them, and so it be with you also my darling..

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“Mistress of Words”African American museum

“Spiritual Healer”

“Medicine Woman”

“Black Hat Society”

~Salkis Re

 

Blow Your Whistle!

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

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He is Using You!

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African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿
“Mistress of Words”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

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A Queen’s Way

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“The Throne”
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Queen’s Way”
Written by Salkis Re

When they tell you that you can’t, don’t believe it. You must stretch past their doubts so you can see it.
And know that how people feel is not your fault,
so don’t spend time worrying about what they have thought.

You must learn that your value is a matter of what you say,
because society has convinced us to be proud of how much we have to pay.

And you have the right to dictate exactly what you are worth,
but you have to understand that it starts with you becoming self-assured.

I know this because I was unsure for most of my entire life.
Wondering why my kindness never afforded me very many likes.

Then I released my responsibility for other’s emotions,
and turned inward to build control in what I have control over.

And I relaxed into the goddess that you see before you today.
And I stretch forth my hand to pull you towards A Queen’s Way.
•••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
“Mistress of Words”©

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“Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
*Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

Stitching Up the Cut!

 

 

Sketch by Salkis Re

“People want trust, they want a guarantee. But they don’t keep their word to themselves. They do not honor personal commitment but quickly cite it as a character flaw in people they are expecting to produce for them. How can you trust anyone when you do have trust in yourself? You break vows you’ve made to treat your *own self better, yet you assert harsh criticism and disappointment in others who failed in keeping their pledge to treat you better. Better than what? How you treat yourself?¿

abstract portrait
Art by Salkis Re

To heal, you don’t “Ignore”, you “Expose” it. You have to acknowledge and face your own corruption and the graveyard of broken promises you’ve made to yourself. Don’t expect people to bandaid you. Stop expecting people to treat you better than you treat yourself. All a relationship amounts to is an outward extension of how you feel about you. The bandaid is not enough; you need clean out the wound and stitch it up so that it/you can heal.
♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
☆Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

Multiple Personalities is The Right Way to Be

I am Darkness and Light respectively. I do not apologies or excuse the contrast or the contradictions within my personality. I am whatever I need to be, whatever I want to be to suit the moment: this is balance!.

You attempt to alter your “sameness” with hair styles and new garments because your crave the magic and the mystery behind “change“, yet you are still afraid to show the world the parts of you that you long to bring to the surface.

 

I am very loving, and childlike in nature, I have an innocent side that comes out in my work. And then there’s the “Black Hat”, and knows all things, is not interested in being “liked” or even “loved” because she sees through the veil.

I suggest that you get a “hat”, doesn’t have to be an actual hat but that would be helpful. And let that be your “trigger” to TURN ON or activate the other parts of yourself laying dormant and unused. Changing outfits is not enough to pull you out of your shell.

Yes.
You have to conjure her up.
Because there is an appropriate time to be vulnerable just as there is an REQUIRED time to be “matter of fact” to make decisions that your emotions just cannot take a front seat for.
Get Your Hat and Dress for the Occasion!

“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Mistress of Words
“Queen Bee”
“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Website: www.iloveherart.com

Where Are Your Balls?

Black art
“Self Esteem Coach”
Salk is Re

Look at the world today!

The people who are getting along splendid in this world are the ballsy people. The people who don’t give a shyte what anyone thinks are the ones who live opulent lives.

But all the “good folk” seem to live the entirety of their days conflicted between their morals and desires, between manners and their secret desires to exercise conceit.

  • The good folk get used,
  • have low self esteem,
  • and are too scared of fire and brimstone to make a real move.

You got to be a little bad.

Yeah…

I said it.

dark skin girls in art
“Clementine”
Art by Salkis Re

A little scoundrel is what you need to incorporate into your personality so you can build a back bone and some conviction.

Watch my New Video about Fear. IT’S TIME TO END YOUR FEAR

 

Pretty Dark Skin Women

Your Vagina is Tired!

 

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

 

Your Vagina is Tired
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself how many men you’ve slept with that you wish you’d never had sex with? How many of them hold regrets for you and the wish to turn back “Father Time” for a clean slate again.

How many?

One?

Two?

ALL of them maybe?

The vagina is used to make friends,

make money,

make love,

native american art
“Eyota and Her Thunderbird”:Art by Salkis Re

and life decisions, all while being pounded and tossed about like she is separate from the rest of your body.

You act like your vagina doesn’t feel your regrets, like it doesn’t feel your shame or desire to be washed clean from your disregard of her. I think Queen Afua coined it :”The Angry Vagina”. Your vagina has been through alot.

***Your indifference and how you’ve isolated her from your heart and mind have taken a toll on you.

It’s time to stop chasing love and pleasure from those who wanted to heartlessly use your vagina like it wasn’t attached to a living breathing soul being.
It’s time to heal through right action..

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re ”
She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe ”
“Self Esteem Coach ”
“Queen Bee”
“Artist ”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

Love Is Never Enough!

African American art
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

If love was enough then why are there so many women experiencing low self worth. Not all of us came from jacked up mothers. A great many of us came from loving homes, and yet, the issue of self worth and the question of you being worthy still rears it’s ugly head.

That is because “kind words” won’t heal you. Sweet words are like cracked and you become an addict looking for you next hit or shot of self esteem based on what other people would like you to believe they think of you.
It’s a game.
Words without action are like pages in a book that you read and put back on the shelf. You have stand on your own two feet and become an independent thinker because those words that make you feel good can stop coming at any moment.

At the drop of a dime, you could cause someone who once professed love for you to now wrath against you. And your self esteem, your confidence and worth go down the drain along side their concern.
Flattery is a spell. It can easily trap your emotions and make you addicted to the issuer of the compliment.

The whole point of this is that how a person feels about you means nothing at the end of the day. You can’t borrow their feelings for you. You can’t pretend to believe them.

Either you believe it or you don’t.

You need to hear it frequently that you are good as you are because you do not believe it!! Your little heart craves validation and it is for this reason that you can’t handle hearing anything that doesn’t support what you DON’T feel within yourself.

You are going to have to quit that drug girlfriend!

Yes.

That drug of validation has made you a cripple, a functioning retard trying to mask your inadequacy instead of facing your demons head on.
I’m no fairy.
I realize that my approach to coaching is a bit edgy, less “put your head on my shoulder” kind of deal. And I will admit that I’m jealous of those women who can package themselves in that airy fairy way because that way offers the least amount of work and the least amount of resistance from you.

But I just cannot do it though. Kind words are a spinning wheel to nowhere; and they disarm your intellect and your reason. Soothing words make you forget what you need to fix, what you need to address and tend too.
And it creates a stall in you the real progress you could be making towards mental ownership and your own soul retrieval.

 

Stop holding your breath.
Stop pretending to feel what you have never felt.
Uncover where these notions of yourself have come from, and withdraw your sword as you question your own beliefs. Start chopping down any belief that isn’t factual.
Ask what you are not, and that whatever is left after your omit the negatives should be examined for self improve.
It’s work ladies.
Yoni eggs, good sex and a shot of Bourbon will not cure what ails your heart.
You want a spell that will help reconstruct your life right now?
Here it is in 4 easy steps

  1.  Exercise Your Body-
    This means to get your ass up and move. Do yoga or go to gym. Body movement is the best drug to boost your self image, confidence and it’s awesome to stabilize your emotions. Your body is how you communicate to the world. It tells the world how you feel about yourself.
  2.  Clean
    Nothing moves the spirit of good fortune and a sound mind like a clean organized space. Look at your surroundings. Can you get rid of sone of that shit? Is there clutter and mess anywhere? Filth will affect your body, mind and spirit. It will also affect your money because you won’t know where to find what you need, what is due, you might be re-buying what you already have because your junk pile is hiding what you have.
  3.  Eat What Your Body Wants
    Yes. Eat what your body wants, not what YOU want. You want sweets but you it hurts your teeth. You want potato chips but the salt makes your ankle swell. You want fruit but it gives you diarrhea. You want beef but it constipates you. Now what? You disregard the imbalance and the warning signs your body gives you because you can’t control your feelings? No ma’am! Let your body tell you what it can handle and OBEY the answer you get. Period.
  4. Create
    I don’t care if it’s a math test or a table cloth: create something. We as women are designed to give birth/create to things. It is a nutritional requirement to have some sort of creative outlet that you can use to destress yourself. It could be dance, crocheting, painting , writing, whatever! Just have something you do that doesn’t have anything to do with anybody else.
    Have that “me time” set. Your creativity is the curator of your self worth and gives you am excuse to be selfish if you are one of those women who have a hard time saying no to people.

It’s time for you to change.. Let me help you.

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