Why Aren’t You Winning in Life?

African Abstract Art
“To Be Brown” Oil Painting BY Salkis Re

Why Cant You Win?

Little Black Girl, why do you feel like you can’t win?

Was it your mommy who told you that you were no intelligent enough to win?

Was it your father’s indifference about soending time with you?

Was it your pretended to be your friend just to play with your toys?

Was it the teacher who was to impatient to help you understand the math equations so you could pass the test?


Was It Your First Love?

Was it your first love who only held your hand when no one was looking because he only want to give you attention to have access to your body?

Was it the employer at work who berates you in front of your colleagues even though you work harder than the rest?

Justification for divesting from life is abundant for you, but will it serve a purpose that benefits you in the end?


Can I Love On You?

Can I say that I love you since your Momma didn’t say it?

Can I tell you that i will protect you since your Father didn’t do it?

Can I say that I care about you since your Boyfriend never meant it?

Can I say that you have my loyalty since your Friends have never been it?


I need you to come play with me
Let’s dance and dream again.
Let’s create our reality like we did with mud pies and tea parties and catching fireflies…

Recreate Yourself today!

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Paintong: “To Be Brown”

Ugly Is As Ugly Does

We are under the assumption that the results we get in life are from how we feel about ourselves.

Energy is EVERYTHING!

ENERGY alters our perception of reality, of possibilities, of opportunities.

The wrong energy will inspire destructive behavior.

The right energy can facilitate healing of the body.

You are Energy and Matter

How you THINK creates your energetic body and influences the dysfunction or efficiency of your internal organs.

You feeling ugly is what makes you appear that way to yourself and other people.

You thinking that you are valueless is the reason for all your failed relationships.

Be on guard for the thoughts you allow to reside in your mind

When you begin to understand how influential your thoughts are to the outcomes you are experiencing, you will begin to be more careful in what you allow into your mind.

Listening to stories of defeat, create the environment of defeat within your mind which in turn, plays out in real life.

What you think about is what you become.

What to be attractive? Then you have to think of yourself as such AND perform the actions that are in alignment with what YOU perceive is a character trait of attractive people.

Thought and deed must align themselves for you to manifest the results you want..

Xoxo

~Salkis Re

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Email me at: info@salkisre.com

How Control Your Thoughts

Evil People, Control Others

You can’t control people unless you are a psychopath with a low threshold of shame and remorse, or a fallen angel like the Devil who has access to unlimited funds to con people through Hollywood style sorcery.

Since you aren’t either of these, your control mechanism is limited to your person. You get to regulate YOU at any time, 24 hours a day.

African American Art
“Claudine’s Hotcomb Blue”

You Thoughts Are Powerful

And that’s nothing to dimiss here. It’s very powerful, especially when you start realizing the scale in which you can exercise your right to think for yourself.

  • You feel devalued because of : the opinions of other people.
  • You feel unattractive because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you ARE pretty because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you are special because of: the opinions of other people.

Kind Words Are Always Snatched Back

And what people will do is twist their view points of you to serve the purpose at hand.
If you need to be controlled, your self worth will be challenged by taking away what was once a trusted opinion of your grandiosity.

If your trust is needed to acquire something, he will offer you an “opinion” about your looks or encourage you to be confident so that your perception of his intent goes unchallenged .

And when it serves him to do so, he or she can snatch that opinion away,, and drop you right back off at the place where you were questioning your value to begin with.

How do you feel about what people think of you?

And I bet you whisper that they are wrong about you, yet you continue to live like you believe them.

You Feel a Bit Foolish

You know that there’s something off about how much reassurance you need from others.

That attention you seek makes you feel a bit foolish, especially as you wash the makeup off your face and place your wig on the nightstand.

You Check Your Sanity By Looking at Other Women

You feel trapped.
Literally.
But you look around to other women to check your sanity, and since every other woman you see acts the same way, you that decide your suspicions about your sanity are just you over thinking things..

Trust yourself.
Ask yourself what you want or how you feel about your worth.
Fix what is broken, but don’t tinker with nature cause she will kick your arse for trying.

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of: “The Ugly Girls Club ”
~Salkis Re
Painting: “Claudine’s Hotcomb Blues”

The Ugly Girlfriend

Ugly Women are objectified by everybody

Ugly Women are objectified by everybody including lovers but especially your nothing ass friends who encourage you to wear shyte that don’t fit and funk for coins so that you can buy them free liquor.

2020 is the start of accepting the wissom and knowledge you’ve accumulated throughout your life.
No more second guessing intent when someone blatantly disrespects you under the guise of constructive criticism or “love“.

Only Value the Opinions You Ask For

The only opinion you should ever consider is the one you actually “ask” for or “PAY” for,
then take the rest as banter with 3 grains of salt.

2020 Is the year I’m dedicating to decreasing my hesitation with educating black, unattractive women about your pathologies and that of the women you are jealous of, intimidated by or fearful of.

A New Focus For 2020

I’m expanding my coaching skills for a SPECIFIC class of women, so GET READY for THE BLACK PILL.

Why?

Because objectification isn’t going to cure your self esteem. Neither is wearing a dress nor talking in a whisper going to make you look more feminine.

Sure, acting more feminine will assure you a “Stepford Wife” result, but intrinsic self worth, a relaxed mind, and self actualization won’t ever be realized when you are forking ACTING 24 hours a day..

You Won’t Marry A Millionaire

The truth is that You/we/us will mostly likely have to create your own millions before you find a millionaire who wants to participate in anything more than fetish Mami Sex with you, and I’m NOT just talking about white men here either!👀

I’m moving FULL COURT PRESS with The Ugly Girl’s Club for 2020!
GET UP!!!

Have a question you need answered?

You want me to write a post about a particular topic?

Are you ready for personalized, results driven Self Esteem Coaching?

Then send your thoughts to: info@salkisre.com

Butt Ugly Beauties

Awwww. Listen Linda, Listen!!

I know what it feels like, what it be like to dance with self doubt.

Everywhere you turn, there is another thing you NEED because

somebody is saying that you have look better than what you are in order to compete with…

well don’t even damn know!!

SO we buy the next gadget, the next cream, the next corset,

and the next promise that we will magically look good even for a man to fall on a sword for us…

Beautiful Black Women

I know gorgeous women… I mean women who’s stock remains high whether or not they have clothes on.

THEY ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS 

And guess what they also are?

They are doubtful of their value, challenged by their perception of their own self worth.

Questioning themselves like a broken record as they wonder if they are truly deserving of the THINGS THEY GET!!!

Can you imagine having that forking problem???

You get what you want with ease, but a whisper in your head keeps

saying it’s an accident or a fluke that you receive what you receive…

You are so beautiful that men that you like a pet, they are so insecure around you that they

think you are incapable of telling the truth or being faithful to them…

Imagine that….

Stacked Those Chips On Your Shoulder

 

 

Black artLow Self esteem escape ver few people who are actually adults..

By the time you can go to the corner store by yourself or take your road test for your drivers license,

you’ve stacked up enough insecurities to create a stairway to heaven…

Fixed and confident in all the degradation you’ve accumulated over the years.

You don’t want to think of yourself  jacked up, but that is what you are thanks to society.

 

Its Time to Die

Time to put to bed those thoughts. Time to die and be reborn again… It takes a little death you know.

A death to transform into what you want to become,

a death to assert what you want to feel like you deserve.

This goes for love OR ANYTHING you want in life too.

 

You Are Programmed!

You are programmed to wait for a “qualifier” to feel like you can claim the good life.

You need the degree to feel smart.

You need the crowd to feel important.

You need a man’s love to feel esteem.

You need your parents to be proud of you to feel like a winner.

And on and on and on……….

 

Three things you need to know and adopt in your life transformation..

No ones Opinion of you is LAW or the ABSOLUTE TRUTH

You Will Always Have a Choice to Accept or Regret What People Think of You.

Most People You know is battling their own self esteem issues, so they CANNOT help you.

 

 

 

 

 

Some immediate suggestions:

Turn off the T.V..

Unplug from social media.

Find a hobby

Find a way to help other people…

Come out of your own head and let your ego starve a little bit…

We often feel miserable because we are self centered and need constant

reassurance when the attention we want to receive is not matched to what we actually get..

You Are enough!!

If you are healthy, you are blessed.

IF you have sight, you are blessed.

If you can read, you are blessed.

If you can call you mother today, you are blessed…

Carry On….

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My email your questions and concerns to: Salkis@iloveherart.com

 

 

 

Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Why?
Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

Lllllol
~Salkis Re

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I Put a Spell On Me!!

Big Eyes Art

 

Casting Love spells is a hot thing to do. I will admit it. I tried a couple spells back in the days too.

Did some pretty nasty stuff like smudging period blood on my neck, I even cooked dinner for an imaginary husband for 3 months straight.

My daughter thought I was bat shyte crazy.

And I was a little, still am actually.

I’m open to the impossible.

But…

What they say, or what I didn’t hear, was the key ingredient for ANY intention to work is focus,

That of belief and a sense of entitlement  for what you are going after.

I wasn’t ready for a man.

I didn’t think I really deserved the love that I wrote on paper.

So I ignored what I felt inside while hoping that the universe would overlook how fearful and unsure I was.

 

African Art
Art by Salkis Re

Maybe you are in the same boat…

Hurt by the ghosts of your past loves.

Wondering if it’s your lot in life never to be the object of a man’s passions.

It doesn’t have to be this way though.

And the road to healing doesn’t have to feel like 5000 stomach crunches..

Because the road to being receptive to love, to companionship, and soul mating

is one of relaxation and confidence, NOT worry.

The first step is to stop worrying about not having a man.

Yessssssss. That’s what I said.

What you worry about, is what you will get.

Why?

Because of the intensity of your emotions and the concentration on that thing you are emotive about,

which of course is: not having a man.

Get busy right now with changing your attitude.

And the only way to bring the atmosphere of love into your existence is through self care.

Self Care..

Eat Right.

Sleep Right.

Create.

DO things that Challenge you.

There are too many things you need know,

too many things you could be doing right now instead of brooding over fantom penises.

And these TOO MANY THINGS are the very glue that with bring the fairy dust transmutation and irresistibility straight to your door step.

Worry will weaken you.

Feeling lonely is a sign of a lack of imagination.

Creativity ignites passion, and its when you are truly passionate about anything that you invite people to come as spectators, lovers  and so on.

Black Angels
“The World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

SO the Answer?

Become MORE PASSIONATE.

Find something that gets your juices flowing. Do something that takes up your time in a constructive way.

And let whatever you choose transform you into a wanted woman!!!

XOXO,

Salkis

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

4 Things to Do When You Catch Him Cheating

                                                                                                      Art by Salkis Re

“Some Things to Note When You Catch Him Cheating”

Would you like to sit and contemplate the *context of his actions while keeping the actual act irrelevant?
What does *looking for another woman mean?

Isn’t looking for another woman an act carried out to REPLACE the emotional and physical earnings in a companionship?
When you are faced with a man who displays no integrity or honor for you,

there is no need for a deeper look into it,

and if by circumstance you are faced with no option but to stay with him,

your total focus should be on your bottom line.

Are you clear that you are a woman?

Do you understand what that fact entitles you to?

Do you know that your TIME is as valuable as your body?

The FIRST thing you must do is try to keep calm.

The SECOND thing to do is try, with all your might, to avoid making any statements of conclusions like conclusions like *I’m leaving you, or *pack your shit.

The THIRD thing you must do is find some alone time to THINK about what you should do from this point.

Notice I did not say what you WANT to do because what you want to do ,when you are in emotional turmoil, is never gonna give you the result that smoothes the road for you.
Remember now, this knowledge of corruption is a gift because affords you the opportunity to focus solely on your needs which usually goes to shit when you get deeply involved with a man.

Art by Salkis RE

So WRITE it out.

Jot down the Pros and Cons of every decision you are contemplating,

and if the evaluation leads to more cons than pros, simply cross it off your list of options.
Some considerations may be ideal in TIME, and if that is the case, then you add it into your future plans instead.

 

Don’t Make a Move Unless its a Progressive one!

But whatever you decide, you will need to make sure that your decision moves you FORWARD,

that it doesn’t leave you with a belly full of pride but no food,
that you are not reduced to hardship to prove some point.
Because their is no point to PROVE, there is a point to SHOW: YOURSELF!!!

Men can compartmentalize their emotions, meaning, they CAN really feel emotions for you while and dig in another woman’s ass.

But aside from their uncanny knack for excluding revenant things, they still are under the law of cause and effect. There are consequences for there pathology,
for breech of trust,
for exposing a woman to physical harm via unprotected sex and so on.

And you should never give him understanding for the pain he’s caused.
Everything must be paid for.

LOVE BECOMES A TRANSACTION WHEN ITS BARGAINED AGAINST!!

Love MUST be paid for when HE start to bargain with it!
Our emotions are free until a man shows disregard for it!
And when we learn, through his actions,

that FACE VALUE is the cheapest in value of them all,

then we look for value through inconspicuous means.
NEVER HATE THE GAME!

So to recap:
1)You catch him lying, so expect him to try to alter your perception the lie.
2) Make no life changing decisions when you are emotionally distraught.

Wait a few days to discuss it when you’ve regained some composure.

3) Start planning. Write your list of pros and cons of every decision you are considering acting upon,

and don’t make a move when the negatives that outweigh the positives.
4) Remember that a person’s actions are personal to who they are, so your understanding of WHY he did it doesn’t justify deceit AT ALL.

Your next move good be an upgrade.

Your next move should bring you comfort and peace.

Your next move, should satisfy your emotional and spiritual needs.

Your next move is going to be painful, BUT it should be a mistake!!!

it is not your job to reform him.

Your vagina’s job is to give YOU pleasure by supporting your femininity.

black artists

 

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

Learning the Game Early

 

African American art
Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.