You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
Men are curious creatures ready to play.
The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.
Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.
That’s all courtship is really.
Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.
His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,
to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..
So what’s the true tea here?
DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.
But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good
because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..
Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!
And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.
They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”
which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.
But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.
So what should you do?
Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,
heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,
throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?
I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.
You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.
You want be kind, but not compromising.
You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.
You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,
and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!
Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.
And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.
Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.
All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”
is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.
So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!
This means that you trust your instincts;
you move only when you are comfortable;
you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind
ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!
If you need to talk, I’m HERE
As a business owner, I have to wear many hats. I am a marketer, a creator, a branding ambassador, a sales person, a counselor and sooooo many other things.
It’s HARD work. But the reward is that I get to call my own shots and for me, that position is priceless.
The road of self sufficiency is for lunatics!!
Yeah, I admit it!
You have to be crazy to actually try to salvage your freedom by working for yourself when it’s so much easier to work someone else’s 9-5.
DO your 8 hours and clock out, then rest of it is for someone else to worry about cause you are off the clock!
I have come to the conclusion that most of us do not want freedom.
Yep! Sad but true.
Most people just want to be comfortable, not FREE.
Just a little more paid vacation time. 5 dollars more an hour would feel like a life changing event for most.
And they’d take it willingly too.
That is all your time is worth?
A dollar or two more an hour plus “overtime” and you’d grind until your knuckles bleed for the bottom line of someone else you NEVER even see.
The listen to what someone ( who is barely more qualified than you) tell when to take a lunch or when you can leave. Grrrrrrrrrrrr!
Get’s me hot just typing this!
I’m doing this post to jolt you!
A lot of you women I coach want to be entrepreneurs, but you’re too scared to make the start.
You are thinking about failure before you even try.
You think that ship has sailed and that you missed your boat of opportunity and correct timing.
There is nothing more precious than time: NOTHING!!
And the time you spend toiling for someone else, working all that overtime hours for the Uncle Sam to take half of,
could be spent planting seeds for your personal growth and development.
You could be creating the next million dollar idea on those night and weekends.
You could be perfecting that invention instead of looking for an escape from the thought of going back to work come Monday morning..
TODAY IS A NEW PAGE OF YOUR LIFE
Will your story be boring, repetitious, filled with horrors?
Your actions are you pen… so write a story you’d be proud to tell…
“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???
So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.
That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.
She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.
And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.
So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.
You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!
So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.
She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..
She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in
Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!
It was an uncle here, a stepfather there, an older cousin here,
I remember when I was it the 4th grade, I got dragged behind a tree by this boy that I actually had a crush on.
I started crying. Then he laughed, backed off, and ran away…
I stood there picking bits of tree trunk off my face, shaken, feeling ashamed and really confused like what the fuck just happened here!
But he laughing so I wasn’t sure if what he’d just done was even wrong.
So I thought that maybe I was perceiving it wrong…
Isn’t that what we always do?
Second guess ourselves and our feelings because HE won’t own up to his actions…
No penetration physically happened, but a disruption of my self worth and confidence sure did!
Because I secretly LIKED that boy.
Which means I looked up to him.
And because I liked him and he didn’t like me:
it meant that HE was BETTER than me…..
This is the typical pattern that starts after you’ve been physically violated.
And every relationship you seek, only aids in solidifying your false sense of low worth…
Wives aren’t exempt from this either, in fact, a lot of them are simply “under contract” to be abused because you have taken the “I’m powerless’ position..
So he gets to tell you he doesn’t like your body while he’s fucking you because he pays the mortgage. He gets to tell you that he thinks you are stupid while he rides your back to relieve his stress. He gets to blame you for his dik not being able to hold an erection, but as the “good wife” you swallow and wallow quietly in degradation because that ring says you have NO voice.
But you can repair your heart and mind..
So The Maxims For Today Are:
Do NOT second guess YOURSELF anymore…
What you SEE IS what you GET…
There is NO BENEFIT IN A DOUBT,
So DON’T give the BENEFIT OF A DOUBT.
DISMISS ANY talk that calls to question your perception of reality…
And remember, you CANNOT have SELF CONFIDENCE when you Do Not trust YOUR feelings…
“Sex is a Return on His Investment, Not an Act of Good Faith!”
Sex is NOT important. It should really be the last thing on your list of must-haves.
Because you can maintain your advantage and the upper hand.
What do you think he is chasing you for? Cause he likes to tell you his problems?
You think he is tracking you cause you’re an excellent cook?
Is that what keeps him thinking about you all day?
Its your snatch my dear.
That slime box shaped like a flower pedal between your legs.
That is what the game is about. So if you give it to him without a commitment, the GAME IS OVER.
Quite Frankly, the game is over the moment you give him sex no matter when you do it,
but if you give it to him AFTER he’s made an investment of time and ANNNNNNNNNDDDD MONEY,
it will be a challenge to just abandon the relationship.
The key word here is “LOSS”.
If he has already spent money on you, then he is INVESTED. He has paid into the relationship and wants to recoup a “return”.
Any women still requiring love to be at the top of her list for commitment is going to be a lonely fool…
“TAKE THE BLACK PILL”
“The Black Hat Society”
Well there are a few hard truths to swallow before you can position yourself for that possibility.
Some things that you will have to do are:
🌼1)Bite your tongue.
🌼2)Swallow your pride.
🌼3) Be charming.
🌼6) Stay away from intoxicants.
🌼7) Have excellent hygiene.
🌼8) Dress to compliment your form,
🌼10) Eat right.
🌼12) Do not upstage him with your intellect.
🌼13) Do not act like you can’t live without sex.
🌼14) Do not have sex too frequently because your “novelty” will wear off faster than is beneficial to you.
🌼15) Act like you are accustomed to nice things.
🌼16) Make sure you are more good looking than he is, preferably 3-5 points higher in the scale.
🌼17) Resist being argumentative because this is a sign that you care. And you shouldn’t.
🌼18) Do not check up on him or grill him about whereabouts.
🌼19) Do not consider procreation with him until you have been Married for a while because being a mother is a “little death” towards your “sexual attractiveness”..
🌼🌼20) This one’s most important. Allow a man to “pick” you. Do not fall for the sexual liberation trap that makes you think you can discern interest in a man that YOU desire, you’ll end up giving him pussy he didn’t need to perform to get.
Do NOT pursue a man you have to convince will like your “type” i.e.(fat, dark, shorthair, skinny),
That, “You don’t know what your missing” sales pitch: piss on it and let it burn cause you are setting yourself up for “pick me” abuse.
Final words, by no means is this a comprehensive list, it is merely a foundation to build on to the other things that must be done that require mentalism and self control.
Love Doesn’t exist in romantic relationships, this is why you HAVE to do all the steps I listed to coax those feelings out of him.
When you accept that love is a game, and an unfair one at that, then you will move your mind out of the conflict of right and wrong with what you MUST do to position yourself as a woman of value.
Get over your tug of war.
Get over this happily ever after that you are ashamed you don’t have yet.
Respect the wisdom your experience has bestowed upon you.
Stop thinking that the TRUTH is sad..
Take the “BLACK PILL”
And gain control of your emotions.
Amen, Amun, Ameen
“The Black Hat Society”
Now, we do try desperately to stave off our worn out vaginas
Don’t let Yourself GO!
If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.
If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..
NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!
Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.
If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,
giggle, blush, and keep it classy…
Why would you do this?
To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.
AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..
That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.
The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.
In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,
he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.
And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.
RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO
IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.
It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.
I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.
But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.
And these are two entirely different things.
So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .
Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,
because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…
Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..
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