Colorism: The Sister to Racism

 

The conversation around colorism is hitting a fever pitch now. I just read an article about Lupita and her experiences with colorism while growing up in Kenya and then seperation by color when she moved to the U.S. She said: “Colorism is the Daughter to Racism“.

And she suffered from self worth issues and wished her skin was a different shade. Now she is contributing to the mental wellness of our black girls with her new book, “Sulwe” which is a book to encourage love of skin and beauty within..

This Evelyn Lozada and OG beef

This Evelyn Lozada and OG beef which also includes accusations of favoritism do to skin tone has got viewers upset about preferential treatment Lozada had received even though she is arguably the most “aggressive” and “violent” cast member on that show. She insinuated that OG, a darkskinned African woman, was a monkey. She repeated called her UGLY and “DIRTY” on the show but Shawnie has called OG “aggressive” on the show.

The thing I find with colorist reviews is that I’ve these negative “racist” terminology from pretty much “EVERYONE” out here.

I’ve worked in the beauty field for over 20 years and watched how mothers talked about their “nappy-headed” daughters and mates notation of how this one didn’t get the “good hair” or that the other daughter was “the pretty one”/

I’ve seen so-called “friends” make colorist statements about their “friends” by calling them  “black bytches” and “ashy S.O.B’s” and all manner of derogatory colorist statements were hurled all over the place.

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“Claudine’s Hotcomb Blues” Art by salkis Re

I’ve listened as women clowned their Dark skin boyfriends or husbands and the word “nigger” or “black mother fockker”, “crusty arse nigger” or “field niggas” was used to describe a man who either didn’t know or didn’t care that he was getting scammed for his money.

I told my little black doves about the biases in place that support a low value narrative where we are concerned.

 

I said that they think black women are: Aggressive, Dirty, Masculine, Unlovable, Unintelligent, Bitter, Impoverished….

And these notions will often times come right your own home, from people you love and respect…

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Evelyn Lozada’s Racist tweets Against Cats member

Colorism is a fight from within AND without

Colorism is a fight from within AND without. It is in your backyard, at your workplace, it might even be that penis you welcome into your birth canal...

So you have to change your energy.

STOP giving emotional support (envy, mimicry, jealousy, admiration, commerce) To people who do not reciprocate emotional and monetary value towards you.

It’s YOU who WORSHIPS their image and cries unfair treatment later.

YOU don’t pedestalize people who look like YOU.

Why?

Because you want to be them, be accepted by them, be admired by them and you feel that you have to be LIKE THEM to experience that..

Change your energy.

Do not exert emotional energy to ANYONE who does not INSTINCTIVELY reciprocate it to you.
PERIODT

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
~Salkis Re

 

Beautiful Black Women in relationships

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Why Women Stay With Bad Men!

Someone “made” you feel ugly?
Some “made” you feel insecure?
Someone “made” your worthless?
All he did was express how he felt about you..
He gave you his perspective and packaged it with a sales pitch.

He habitually stated that pitch until your resistance withered away.

Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Why didn’t YOU walk away?
You Want the TRUTH?

Because he never told you a “lie”!!
He told you everything you ALREADY believed about yourself!
And though his words hurt to hear, it made you feel comfortable and

even “Closer” to him because you shared the same feelings about yourself…

FACTS!

Don’t blame him for holding up the mirror.
The question to ask is:
How do you feel about you?
If you Answer that honestly, your healing can begin…

So what do we want to do here exactly.

What you want to do is start clearing up misconceptions and opinions and “Truths”

that do not support the narrative you WANT to believe in!

I have said it before, and I will say it yet again.

Everything you think that you are is “Make Believe”,

it starts off as a feeling,

then from that feeling inspires an action

then from the action, you create a habit.

Then before long,

you’ve done or thought  whatever it is for so long that it moves as a truth in your life,

dictating and altering your perception of your reality..

We want to rewire our brains.

This is how you heal from ANYTHING. I don’t care what it is.

The depression, the disease, the lack ALL stem from your beliefs.

And your beliefs are NOTHING BUT DECISIONS MADE OVER AND OVER AGAIN..

You can start to change by become “AWARE” of everything you feel.

“Becoming aware means that you start catching yourself in the mist of doing something habitual. 


That negative self talk, or going for that piece of cake you don’t need,

you see what you are doing and from there you will want to start to questioning your behavior.

Why am I saying this about myself?

Why am I grabbing the chocolate cake when I know it makes me feel unstable?

What is it that I am looking to feel?

Am I trying to relieve my anxiety?

Am I trying to distract myself from pain?

What you want to start doing in begin to FEEL everything so

that you have to opportunity to question everything that you feel.


To pose a question breaks the script!

It breaks your confidence in your “Truth”.

It requires you to THINK!

THINKING is what will strengthen you!

Why?

Because thinking requires that you find TRUE answers…

THINKING brings the gift of resolution.

THINKING means that you get to change the narrative

when you figured out that what you believe is bull s%Jt!

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Don’t Quit!!

“Master Your Craft!
Written by Salkis Re

How you gonna quit when you’ve already started? 
Don’t stop till use your body 
moves the finish line tape aparted!

You will only hate yourself if you stop,
and you will sabotage the rest of your life 
if you don’t ride this thing till your efforts make it pop.

What else will you do other than this?
You gonna go back to dreaming
like your other loser friends?

There’s more grind left for you to do 
and it’s not over until you have
to mastered what you like to call YOU.

So you tryna quit the game?

To do what exactly?

Oh it’s hard?

AND????

Anything you worked for, had a bit of challenge

that came with it.

And guess what you did?

You trotted on anyway, wiped the

blood off your knuckles ,and kept the pace until

your chest broke that finish line tape!

African Art
The Art Process and all my Mistakes.. Salkis Re

You have to ride your purpose until the wheels fall off

so that by the end of your time on this earth, your soul has no reason to

wrestle with the anguish of unfinished business.

Empty yourself! Don’t hold back anything.

Don’t be afraid of anyone!!

You will fall, so laugh when you fall.

You will be unsure, so chuckle at your confusion.

You will feel pain, so eat your pain and keep going.

Stop looking back!!!

There is nothing BACK THERE that can help you.

because the promise land is in your windshield not your rear view mirror.

Come on girl!! GET UP!!

 “Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Best Friends

 

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“Forever Best Friends”
Written by Salkis Re

True friendship is like a flower that grows at the spring of each second season.
For us to share and give each other care,
needs no particular reason.

Her concern for you is shown when she gives you her lollipops,
and you return the favor when she asks you to play another fun game of hopscotch.

And we sip the Kool-Aid and eat sweet things that pop and fizz in our mouths,
And we vow yet again to be friends forevermore, just as we are right now..

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

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Sometimes I like to write my thoughts in poetry form. It helps me perge my emotions in a safe, yet entertaining way.

Hobbies are important for emotional balance, and I feel that it is necessary ,for sanity purposes, to have something you do just for yourself.

Holiday season is upon us now and it’s a somber time for a lot of people.

Tokeep you from slumping down, I suggest you engage in something creative to occupy your mind. An idle mind will always lean towards depression and artificial stimulants for distraction and self pity.

Don’t be that type of woman.

Life is a flash in the pan respective to time, and it will all be over soon enough. In the mean time, color your world with your love. Express yourself in a way that makes your heart flutter. Whatever it is that gets your juices flowing, do exactly that.

Me?

Well I like old things.

Antebellum homes and rustic scenes.

I like anything “yesterday”, anything with that retro feel. Like Loud wall paper patterns and plastic couch covers.

I wish my body could still handle sugar cause I sure would love a tall glass of that strawberry flavored Nestle Quick right now!

I miss Double Dutch and Red Light-Green- Light-123.

That’s my cozy place.

I just abhor modern.

I love the smell of old books too.

Find your peace.

Find your type of solace or excitement..

Peace and Love

~Salkis

 

 

 

 

Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!

 

Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.

 

I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

Naked in Stilettoes

If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.

DO YOU!!

“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

Fie Art by Salkis Re

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