I don’t think there is anything worse than wanting someone in your life that doesn’t want to be with you. I have been on the receiving end of this more times than I care to admit. I have also been the progenitor of emotional devastation in men I no longer wanted to be with. It’s not easy letting people go, but what’s worse than that moment you break someone’s heart,is the loss of time. Time is that shit you can’t get back. You can get another lover but you can’t recover the time you wasted trying to make things work with someone you know you no longer want to be with.
Break ups can get tricky when the sex is good, when children are born into it, or when financial investments are tied into it. But time is more valuable than anything you could lose because it is not a renewable resource. When you are not sure, you’re not sure. But when you know, when you have already tallied up the cost of separation, talked to the lawyers secretly, took vacations to see another lover, well you know that you know.
A piece of mind is priceless. Being free to start over is scary but exciting at the same time when you are perfectly clear on your objectives. We are not jumping from the frying pan into the fire here. You need to stay your ass put if that is the case. I have seen breakups happen and the chic just goes on dick binge: in one fell swoop, her virtue and reputation ends up in the toilet cause she couldn’t handle the responsibility of her new freedom. Freedom does not negate consequence. You can’t escape consequence just because no one can stop you from making a decision.
Results will happen, and you need to know what you are striving for. But if you must be a hoe, just don’t be a noisy one. Work your “hoedom” quietly and stop leaving verifiable evidence all over the place for people to point fingers at you. Tell your mama if you must and maybe one tried and proven friend, but no bull horns unless your getting tell all book deal like Super Head. Just do you best to reason out your decisions because adding “causal pu$$y giving” regret to a roster already filled with years of unfulfilling obligation, just invites more confusion and turmoil to your mind and heart.