You try to fix your relationship
When you try to fix a relationship by giving, you actually make him pull away further.
You don’t reward a complacent heart with charitable humility!!!
Don’t be so hard on yourself, you will do better.
What happens with most of us is that at the first sign of trouble,
you spring into action with a checklist of everything you have to do to win him back.
You make yourself more available to him on every level!
Lose 10 pounds: ✔
Have more sex: ✔
Say YES to whatever he wants: ✔
And you turn him off even further!!
“It makes me feel good when a man goes out of his
way to give me what I want,
so it must work the other way around as well.”
But it’s exactly the opposite.
Men love what they give YOU, not how you cater to them..
LOVE is about what a person is compelled to do to EARN your affection.
If a woman gives him everything he wants
without him having to work for it, will he treasure it, respect it?
👉He treasures what he has to take care of!!
👉He respect what he invest in.
👉He desires what’s hard for him to get..
So the goal here is to RELAX, the worst thing you can
do is act like you are afraid to lose him.
Fear and anxiety sends a message that you are unworthy
and that he is worth more to the relationship than you are…
It’s not the time to do anything he wants
It’s not the time to do anything he wants,
its time to make him feel good about giving to you again..
Why do you think when you break up with men
that they start acting well behaved and attentive?
They do this because you have shown him that you are unafraid of living
without him if necessary and that your comfort has to be
his goal too or consequences will be activated..
And let me be clear here, it’s not about making verbal
demands and increasing your sass my dear.
Arguing is a sign of emotional weakness and it
acting is a sign that you are unsure of yourself.
1-Get quiet and strategic when he starts acting a fool.
Be even more unbothered emotionally than ever before.
2-Give him his space.
3-Don’t confirm or deny anything.
Make it clear what has to happen in order for you
to care about him again, then leave him to decide.
It has to be his decision not your forced ultimatum.
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