1)Do what you fear doing, and do it often.
2) Accept people’s right to their own opinion, so that you can formulate yours without guilt.
3) Understand that trying to be Perfect for Imperfect people is a hamster wheel with no destination. Get off the wheel.
4) You are ugly to somebody. You are pretty to somebody.
You will win.
And you will lose.
And you cannot avoid it.
Make peace with life’s inconsistencies and ride the wave.
5) You will not live forever, so you really cannot afford to waste another day trying to please people,
trying to make them see your worth, your beauty. Relax. And wow those that are already impressed with you.
even If it seems like a lie because everything is a lie until you MAKE IT the truth…
So many of us feel that we have to be good at something in order to do it or love it even.
This is not the truth. Not at all.
Self esteem is not about hyper focused attention on only the things that are good about you,
but ALLLLLLLL of you.
Yes, even the silly, stupid unskilled parts of you .
True self esteem doesn’t crumble if things do not go well in your life.
Self esteem is more about the process mores than the outcome.
Living up to your values keeps you in a place of high regard for yourself.
I find that so many of us just do not take a chance because not doing good or
being better than someone else computes in your mind that you are not enough.
You have to accept your flaws and while relaxing your drive for
praise and recognition over the good in your as well..
You just embrace ALL of you.
Be Luke warm as a Master Teacher once taught me…
Then a compliment or an insult become a consequence for the living without putting halt to your life…
So Who Am I?
Well, Im a black woman.
A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.
I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.
I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy. And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.
It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.
In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.
A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.
I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.
If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: firstname.lastname@example.org