I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?
**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.
Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**
with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.
Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.
Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,
goal appraisals and so forth.
Now Getting to know a person is another matter.
Now spending time with a person is another matter.
That could include sharing a ride home from work.
I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.
I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.
Would my presence be welcomed?
Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?
A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,
how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.
Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.
Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity
to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining or making an impression on you!!
The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection
**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…
Take it for what it is, or not..
But this message is EXACT!
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**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.
So who am I?
A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,
self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.
I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.
I hope you share this message with all you know.