“Some Things to Note When You Catch Him Cheating”
Would you like to sit and contemplate the *context of his actions while keeping the actual act irrelevant?
What does *looking for another woman mean?
Isn’t looking for another woman an act carried out to REPLACE the emotional and physical earnings in a companionship?
When you are faced with a man who displays no integrity or honor for you,
there is no need for a deeper look into it,
and if by circumstance you are faced with no option but to stay with him,
your total focus should be on your bottom line.
Are you clear that you are a woman?
Do you understand what that fact entitles you to?
Do you know that your TIME is as valuable as your body?
The FIRST thing you must do is try to keep calm.
The SECOND thing to do is try, with all your might, to avoid making any statements of conclusions like conclusions like *I’m leaving you, or *pack your shit.
The THIRD thing you must do is find some alone time to THINK about what you should do from this point.
Notice I did not say what you WANT to do because what you want to do ,when you are in emotional turmoil, is never gonna give you the result that smoothes the road for you.
Remember now, this knowledge of corruption is a gift because affords you the opportunity to focus solely on your needs which usually goes to shit when you get deeply involved with a man.
So WRITE it out.
Jot down the Pros and Cons of every decision you are contemplating,
and if the evaluation leads to more cons than pros, simply cross it off your list of options.
Some considerations may be ideal in TIME, and if that is the case, then you add it into your future plans instead.
Don’t Make a Move Unless its a Progressive one!
But whatever you decide, you will need to make sure that your decision moves you FORWARD,
that it doesn’t leave you with a belly full of pride but no food,
that you are not reduced to hardship to prove some point.
Because their is no point to PROVE, there is a point to SHOW: YOURSELF!!!
Men can compartmentalize their emotions, meaning, they CAN really feel emotions for you while and dig in another woman’s ass.
But aside from their uncanny knack for excluding revenant things, they still are under the law of cause and effect. There are consequences for there pathology,
for breech of trust,
for exposing a woman to physical harm via unprotected sex and so on.
And you should never give him understanding for the pain he’s caused.
Everything must be paid for.
LOVE BECOMES A TRANSACTION WHEN ITS BARGAINED AGAINST!!
Love MUST be paid for when HE start to bargain with it!
Our emotions are free until a man shows disregard for it!
And when we learn, through his actions,
that FACE VALUE is the cheapest in value of them all,
then we look for value through inconspicuous means.
NEVER HATE THE GAME!
So to recap:
1)You catch him lying, so expect him to try to alter your perception the lie.
2) Make no life changing decisions when you are emotionally distraught.
Wait a few days to discuss it when you’ve regained some composure.
3) Start planning. Write your list of pros and cons of every decision you are considering acting upon,
and don’t make a move when the negatives that outweigh the positives.
4) Remember that a person’s actions are personal to who they are, so your understanding of WHY he did it doesn’t justify deceit AT ALL.
Your next move good be an upgrade.
Your next move should bring you comfort and peace.
Your next move, should satisfy your emotional and spiritual needs.
Your next move is going to be painful, BUT it should be a mistake!!!
it is not your job to reform him.
Your vagina’s job is to give YOU pleasure by supporting your femininity.
So who am I?
A Life Coach
A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”