Love Is Never Enough!

African American art
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

If love was enough then why are there so many women experiencing low self worth. Not all of us came from jacked up mothers. A great many of us came from loving homes, and yet, the issue of self worth and the question of you being worthy still rears it’s ugly head.

That is because “kind words” won’t heal you. Sweet words are like cracked and you become an addict looking for you next hit or shot of self esteem based on what other people would like you to believe they think of you.
It’s a game.
Words without action are like pages in a book that you read and put back on the shelf. You have stand on your own two feet and become an independent thinker because those words that make you feel good can stop coming at any moment.

At the drop of a dime, you could cause someone who once professed love for you to now wrath against you. And your self esteem, your confidence and worth go down the drain along side their concern.
Flattery is a spell. It can easily trap your emotions and make you addicted to the issuer of the compliment.

The whole point of this is that how a person feels about you means nothing at the end of the day. You can’t borrow their feelings for you. You can’t pretend to believe them.

Either you believe it or you don’t.

You need to hear it frequently that you are good as you are because you do not believe it!! Your little heart craves validation and it is for this reason that you can’t handle hearing anything that doesn’t support what you DON’T feel within yourself.

You are going to have to quit that drug girlfriend!

Yes.

That drug of validation has made you a cripple, a functioning retard trying to mask your inadequacy instead of facing your demons head on.
I’m no fairy.
I realize that my approach to coaching is a bit edgy, less “put your head on my shoulder” kind of deal. And I will admit that I’m jealous of those women who can package themselves in that airy fairy way because that way offers the least amount of work and the least amount of resistance from you.

But I just cannot do it though. Kind words are a spinning wheel to nowhere; and they disarm your intellect and your reason. Soothing words make you forget what you need to fix, what you need to address and tend too.
And it creates a stall in you the real progress you could be making towards mental ownership and your own soul retrieval.

 

Stop holding your breath.
Stop pretending to feel what you have never felt.
Uncover where these notions of yourself have come from, and withdraw your sword as you question your own beliefs. Start chopping down any belief that isn’t factual.
Ask what you are not, and that whatever is left after your omit the negatives should be examined for self improve.
It’s work ladies.
Yoni eggs, good sex and a shot of Bourbon will not cure what ails your heart.
You want a spell that will help reconstruct your life right now?
Here it is in 4 easy steps

  1.  Exercise Your Body-
    This means to get your ass up and move. Do yoga or go to gym. Body movement is the best drug to boost your self image, confidence and it’s awesome to stabilize your emotions. Your body is how you communicate to the world. It tells the world how you feel about yourself.
  2.  Clean
    Nothing moves the spirit of good fortune and a sound mind like a clean organized space. Look at your surroundings. Can you get rid of sone of that shit? Is there clutter and mess anywhere? Filth will affect your body, mind and spirit. It will also affect your money because you won’t know where to find what you need, what is due, you might be re-buying what you already have because your junk pile is hiding what you have.
  3.  Eat What Your Body Wants
    Yes. Eat what your body wants, not what YOU want. You want sweets but you it hurts your teeth. You want potato chips but the salt makes your ankle swell. You want fruit but it gives you diarrhea. You want beef but it constipates you. Now what? You disregard the imbalance and the warning signs your body gives you because you can’t control your feelings? No ma’am! Let your body tell you what it can handle and OBEY the answer you get. Period.
  4. Create
    I don’t care if it’s a math test or a table cloth: create something. We as women are designed to give birth/create to things. It is a nutritional requirement to have some sort of creative outlet that you can use to destress yourself. It could be dance, crocheting, painting , writing, whatever! Just have something you do that doesn’t have anything to do with anybody else.
    Have that “me time” set. Your creativity is the curator of your self worth and gives you am excuse to be selfish if you are one of those women who have a hard time saying no to people.

It’s time for you to change.. Let me help you.

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http://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/ooh-let-me-write-that-down-e-book

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