You need to know “how’ to get to know.
The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.
Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.
You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.
You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.
***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.
And what are you looking for?
*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,
*what he says about people he loves,
*does he love his work,
*is he disciplined,
*does he take care of his body,
*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.
BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him.
If you need help with that, I can coach you..
But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.
Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.