Tea Bagging the Control Trap!

 

 

I can’t help but laugh when I look at this lady in the pic so I had to include her in my message today. In a nut shell its this. ¬†Controlling people may be needed at times, it may even be necessary for survival. Lord knows I’ve certainly been “hand to mouth” and had to rely on my Damsel in Distress sensibilities to get out of a jam or two.

The problem is in the preoccupation with controlling others. And this often comes at the expense of you own sanity and basic well being. Some of you go down with the ship, determined to make him love you at all costs when he probably didn’t like you to begin with.

Harsh, I know.

P&*sy rules right? Starts wars and all kinds of magnificently spectacular distruction to display affection.

But that affection is a mother sucker though. It get’s us all caught of in helplessness and the abyss of nothingness topped with some whip cream of regret!

Turned me into a soup kitchen charity case a few times. To possess people without your own self esteem, well, it will back fire on you.

You can’t hold the form of high regard when you are anxious, needy, and have unstructured boundaries. To control anyone effectively, you must first discipline yourself.

You have to build your sense of entitlement through what you do for yourself on a daily basis. I liken it to requiring that a man come with six pack abs while you shamefully stuff your muffin top into a body magic doohickey… That’s cheating!!!!!

The operative word here is SHAME. If you are ashamed of yourself, then you cannot affirm what you want and will not have the juice required to make demands for your pleasure. So how do you get out of the shame trap? One way is to accept what is.

Accept what is fixed about you, and don’t try to become something else to hide it. That will only weaken you.

We usually redirect or distract ourselves from what we don’t like about ourselves by being overly critical of ourselves in other ways.

REMEMBER THIS:What you accept, lays to rest.

And then you will have reserve power to focus on what you can improve, and what you have total control over.

If you don’t get this right, or get you right I mean, then you will fail to catch and hold the attention of the one you love.

How you gonna manipulate with low self esteem? LLLOL

Pause.

You should learn to control yourself! FIRST!

So my lovelies, I got a new website Im working on called “Drink That Tea.com , I felt it was time to give what I had to say and my coaching stuff it own platform so that I could free up more creativity to say what I wanted to say. I am planning to actually have tea for sale there too lol and lots of feel good things for 2017, so stay tuned up for that. In the meantime, I am here is you need one on one coaching, and my ebook is out and reading for instant download if you need some stronger tea, so cop that and read at your leisure if you like. Here’s the Link: My book!¬†

Have a gander at my lovely children too, (I call my art by babies) Im about being a little girl again and I can do that through my ‘dolls on walls’ lol check them out HERE

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