Making things better in a relationship.. Hmm I don’t think a turn around in a down hill spiral takes a tremendous amount of time. If you are with someone who treats you unkind, its not because they are sitting there waiting on the ‘right time” to treat you right. They treat you dastardly because they want to, because they have no inspiration or incentive to treat you any other way. But one hand cannot clap my lovelies: it’s a master and slave relationship. He can’t rule without subjects that have agreed to his appointed sovereignty.
The instinct to hold you dear is a gumbo mix of give and take IT away. Its an atmosphere of anxiety and incomplete comfort that causes one to strive to make pleasing you their number one purpose. Equality doesn’t feed passion. Truthfulness doesn’t make one treat you fair.. But of course you know this as you have had much lonely nights to asses and account for all your uprightness and your willingness to show, (even at the risk of chasing reciprocity), how much you genuinely care.
You have given him no room to earn you! You are impatient and needy, yet so motivated to learn the lesson for the 100th time that beggars can’t be choosers. What is the secret I must share? You do not give to get, you BE to get. This is what Queens do!
We all appreciate and cherish what we have earned. We shine them up like trophies on beautiful display cases, but with things given without merit, we put them in the back of our closet, or box them in the attic to collect dust until we fine someone who can find more use for them than we can fairly give.
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