Don’t Have Sex Anymore!

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I know, I know… some of y'all nymphs got to have sausages in your cookies on a daily basis. I'm not of that school at all. I do think less is more when it comes to intimacy simply because the more you do it, the more pressure it is to be creative and skillful  and "new". I don't think I ever bought into pressure of being the 'best' lover. I actually cringe at the thought of it! To me, it takes the love out of love-making and turns it into a rate card.

I remember meeting this guy once. I really liked him. He was sexy and very 'intellectual' but I could tell he was a sex hound. You know them guys that look at girls booties while they talking to you but they are so entranced that they didn't realized they almost stopped talking in order to look at them, lol. We finally got around to the subject of sex and he called himself a "Performance Lover". I said, "What's that?!" while frowning. He said that he aims to please women in bed. So I asked him being pleasured and he kind of brushed it off as unimportant.

That had me thinking. If you are seeking to make a good impression over sharing and expressing love through sex then its not about love at all, it's about satisfying your ego and positioning yourself to manipulate your partner. There really is no other reason to aspire to be the best at sex other than that. Of course no one wants to be awful in bed, but to me the sex act should be instinctive, not switching positions because you're timing your moves.

After we talked about sex, I was kind of disappointed because I knew he wasn't interested in me on an emotional level and I wasn't about to try break his 'best lover' record. Karma sutra be damned! Cause you do all that pole dancing acrobatics and the end result is the same: worrying if you're are just as hot to him as the first time you met...

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