The Disease Called Love

“The Disease Called Love”
Written by Salkis Re

I’m sitting here at my desk trying to arrange my thoughts into something you

can take and apply to your life today. Of course its about love. It’s always going to be about love.
Why?
Because this thing called “falling in love” does something adverse to our minds.

Pathologies are created because of this “feeling”, and if you take inventory of your emotional state when you are “in love” you will see that you mistake “fear and anxiety” for LOVE.

Those “butterflies” in your stomach,

Those “butterflies” in your stomach, your restlessness and inability to focus on anything else but him and his dik.
This is emotional instability forming, but these women out here won’t tell you that.

You become emotionally unstable and exhibit signs of addiction, insanity and codependency when you fall in love.

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“Difference” Original African Art by Salkis RE

makes you neurotic, suspicious, anxious, needy

The “I can’t live without him” makes you neurotic, suspicious, anxious, needy,

as you throw healthy boundaries and your standards out the window.
I read most of your posts quietly. I watch how you take trips you cannot afford to “escape” yourselves or “find” happiness.

I watch some of you brag about how gangsta you are and you don’t take no shit of men,

but every two seconds strike a pose in tight clothes to get the attention

and validation of these same men you claim to have sexual control over.

 

๐Ÿ‘‰We are scammers.. Yeah… We are..
I include myself and can admit mistakes too, after all, a healer usually has something to heal before stepping out to heal others.

Painful truths here,

Painful truths here, some of you will say that, but I prefer to call this a sound bite or an excerpt from the “GODDESS compendium”, a manual for emotional control.
Have a look at your free spirited girlfriend and really observe their temperament.

Is she ever relaxed?

Does she talk fast?

Does she need to be chewing something in her mouth constantly.

Does she ever express satisfaction in anything or anyone?
The answer: NO!

She’s constantly spinning. Looking for the next hit, the next drink, the next dik to make her feel less invisible…

And so you have it. Your “food” for the day. This not something I wanted to say, it is something I HAD to say, for I am on assignment.

My goal isn’t to make you feel good, there’s enough distractions out here to serve that purpose.

My goal is to shake the shit out of you, to help you wake up from your coma so that you are never a doormat for any man ever again...
Carry On…

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Writer”

“Poet”

~Salkis Re

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“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

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“Artist”
“Writer”
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There’s Nothing Special About You!

 

 

Beautiful Black Women

 

OK…
When I tell women that they are not “special”, they’re offended but this is indubitably true.
A woman stated to me that she was heart broken because her man left her for another white woman.

“Another” meaning he was previously married to one before that wife passed away.
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Well you knew when you met him that his preference was white women because he married one,

or are you devastated because he LEFT you or because he left you for a WHITE woman?

Over sexualized black women
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I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who dates or is married interracially who doesn’t make an announcement about this

“unique” and ย special type of relationship she has.

It’s ALWAYS a point they make even though the question if ethnicity or race is brought up.
You think you are “extra special” because a man that “shouldn’t” love a woman like you does!????!!!??!!

๐Ÿ‘‰IGNORING This Message Could Result In you Spinning Your Wheels and being PLAYED Again!!

****Some of you “dime pieces” are going to have a hard time

hearing this because men “appear” to worship you…

But they don’t see you pep talking yourself and obsessing in the mirror ritualistically every single day. You assume your beauty makes you a Goddess, but did every man you faced think so too?

Didn’t Cierra get “Baby Mothered by Future??

Didn’t Beyonce is cheated on by JayZ??

Didn’t Hallie Barry lose her hearing after getting punched in her head??

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World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

๐Ÿ‘‰ See, we have to stop believing that we are the “best” anything when we come into a man’s life.

This is the game they run to stroke your fragile ego, soothe the worry and doubt

most women have about their looks, all so they can have access to you!
๐Ÿ‘‰ Most people, men particularly have a “type”, and chances are high that you are

JUST LIKE MOST OTHER WOMEN he’s enjoyed sexually,

and you say the same fuccing things intellectually or and you look

the same aesthetically as every other woman he’s fell in love with!

So no my sweet, sweet daughters, you are NOT “special” :YOU ARE SIMPLY “NEW”.

Now take this BLACK PILL and wash it down with the glass of wisdom.
Carry On…

 

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~Salkis Re

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“Kept Women Can’t Be Nappy Heads”, Written by Salkis Re

Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.

She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation.
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She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…

Watercolor portrait Painting, African Art
“What Would I Be?” Original Art by Salkis Re


I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,

and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look.
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Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totemย pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?”
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Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…

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If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..

Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.

Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.

Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”?
No.

They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..

They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.

HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…

GAME!!
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
LESS stress,
LESS requirements,
LESS structure
LESS disciplined
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?

๐Ÿ‘‰No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
Carry On!

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
~SALKIS RE
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Talk with you soon, hugs..

 

Dating Outside Your Race Black Women?

I could join you picket line…but I won’t because part of the blame, well most of it was my doing,
for I chose to give men who I knew were not interest in me a chance.
I knew that the guys I LIKED didn’t really like me,
but I hadn’t any concrete “evidence” to substantiate my suspicions, yet and still, the situations
that by the grace of God revealed the truth, I dismissed the truth anyway.
I didn’t want to admit the truth because that would mean that in my mind,
I was acknowledging that I wasn’t good enough.
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“I’m a Girl!” Original Art by Salkis Re
And what’s the best way to relieve the mind of anxiety and depression: distraction!
Men pretended with me and I pretended right along with them, hoping that “proving value” by “selling myself” to an
*unmotivated buyer to begin with would somehow turn things around for me…
This what you do too.
You pretend.
You pretend you don’t see what you see.
You even pretend to be confused, but you know.
You ALWAYS know, the problem is that you do not trust in what you know because you
cannot differentiate your true self from the pretense you’ve created to get along with others.
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Most of the time it was just a “feeling” though. In the mist of a conversation,
his mind does not seem fully engaged, and if a woman walked by that he liked,
he took the liberty to take a long and quite substantial look,
not feeling instinctively compelled to respectfully conceal his arousal from you.
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There were other times when dates would be cancelled at the last minute
but then he’d show up at midnight to my door claiming to “miss me”,
I knew that he lied but I let him in because I wanted to feel wanted: truth be damned!
Then there were those times when holidays came around and gifts didn’t come neither the presence of his body,
probably because he was too busy stocking stuffing at “homes” of women who’s company he valued more.
And it was no buggy in my mind because
I bought my daughter all the gifts on her list which allowed me to a distraction from my feelings of inadequacy from being unwanted…
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“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE
So now here you are, running from your acute ability to make poor decisions
by seeking refuge in the arms of men who do not share your genetic makeup.
You are fascinated with the “novelty” of it all. You get to even be “blacker” with him than you are
with your own brothers as you show and tell stories about what means to be a black woman in America.
And all well until you notice that he likes you a bit too much,
almost like you are trinket or an object of a fetish he has for black fresh.
And here you were thinking he is crazy about you…
Yeah he is krazy* about you…
You dismiss it though, still on somewhat of a high that a
man from another race considers you as beautiful.
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But the truth is that you are that same woman who made agreements with men whom,
you knew were not to be trusted, not to be fucced, not to be husband or a father to your children.
Moving to another race doesn’t remove how your process and filter out your world and more importantly what you think of yourself.
You cannot run from you.
The respect and love that you desire comes when you become intimate with YOU.
It will come from black men when you have a love for your wellbeing that cannot be bought or bargained with.
Carry On…
Black Women with Thick Locs
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~Salkis Re
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“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!”

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!
Written by Salkis Re

So word on the street is that NON black men love and appreciate black women more than our own black brothers do. The word on the street is that all black men are “colorists” and prefer light skin black women with straight hair and acquiline features. Word on the street is that black men HATE women who have dark skin and “nappy hair”.

This is just the word on the street, so I can’t definitively say that I agree that ALL our brothers feel this way NOR that these accusations hold no merit.

My experience?
Well, I have been slighted, passed over and berated for the tone of my flesh by my “brothers”. I have been called a big-lipped, โ€Œ MonKey by brothers before. I have been exploited and degraded by my brothers because of how I looked..
Yes…..

But……

My SISTERS did all those things to me too, lest the sexual part. There’s a Big, Fat, Game being played here.
The Name of this game is called:
“Point the Finger”.

And all this “THEY don’t love us” talk, if we are going to be totally transparent, should include SISTERS TOO!

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

We don’t love ourselves.
And sadly even some of our chocolate sistren shout self praises around how “exceptional” they are because they have smaller noses and lips “IN SPITE” of being dark skin. What is she really saying here: I may have darker skin put my features are like white women, so I’m NOT THAT UGLY!!

We class and caste our sisters with as much fervor as any man outside our circles. We say we are abused by them but offer no emotional refuge for our castaways to run too.
We say “Well honey, truth be told is that it’s not because you are dark, it’s because you are an ugly woman who HAPPENS to be dark”.

The Game is a Full Cord Press!

If you are a dark skin woman facing travail because of your tone AND features, alas my love, you have NO REAL ALLIES.
You are alone in your sorrows, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
You simply are given by the grace of nature an opportunity to be a “sovereign thinker”. No one wants you to be a member of their club, but this means you get to be totally YOUR SELF instead of assimulating to the pressure and anguish that EVERY WOMAN puts herself through to conform to the rules of society and the social clubs they desperately want to be apart of.

You are alone.
And the beauty of that is that YOU have Card Blanche authority over the rules and regulations of your Mental Terrain..
And trust me, if you seize the opportunity that being on the outside of the pretentious, degradation fest that most of our women put themselves through, you will become a GOD/DESS over your precious gift called YOUR LIFE!!!

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
~Salkis Re

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“Realistic Thinking or Positive Thinking”

Written by Salkis Re

It’s more beneficial to think realistically than it is to think positively.

But to think realistically can offer up as much delusions as bright-side thinking too.
Positive thinking feels good, but it does not contain a *sense of urgency and the FIRE of discomfort that is the ๐Ÿ‘‰blood supply of transformation.

And realistic thinking at times makes it difficult for you to perceive the potential you posses to be more than what you are at this moment.

I see so many of you who are professional complainers, you cry yourselves down obsessing over the “flaws” of their bodies.

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“Just Like Me” Original Art by Salkis Re for iLoveherArt.com

And those flaws might very well be “real”, but the potential to be better through diet and exercise,

going out and touching your feet to earth, prayer or mediation all are tactics to improve but are negated to wallow in pity.

All practical things to change your reality are thwarted and exchanged for excuses which give you a painless “OUT”.

This is really what positive thinking amounts to for many women: a stall!

Do diligence is needed here.
Do not think that things are worse than what they are(realistic) and do not think things are just fine(positive)
Accept what you SEE as real and then start the active task of self improving.

In others words: just be honest with yourself and stop making up delusions of grandeur or defeat!!

Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Mentor”

“Artist”
~Salkis Re

If you need some mentoring in all matters of womanhood including health, weightless, relationships, life purpose, please contact me by email to talk about working together;

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Alone and Afraid?

Being yourself is going to hurt people.

Its going to dispassion people against you.

Why?

Because they will not be able to control you,

to manipulate you to do things that are not in line with your safety or life goals.

The only reason you have friends or lovers is because they like the way you make them feel.

But once you step away from he act of pleasing and choose to be passionate and purposeful

about the act of self fulfillment, people are going to take issue with you.

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“I AM a GIRL!” Original Watercolor Portrait Art by Salkis Re

They will stop calling you, stop inviting you, stop fucking you, stop buying gifts for you and so on…

And then the harsh reality of your aloneness will start to take form.

Do you know when the revelation of aloneness usually hits?

When you start to get old..

And you realize that all your sacrificing didn’t afford you their loyalty or undying concern.

then you become old and bitter because you have to face that you wasted so much time TRYING.

Trying to get LOVE.

Trying to get RESPECT.

 

What matters is your time and how much of ti you spend on frivolity or purpose.

And your purpose will need most of your energy because

you will have to fight the status quo of mediocrity and the fear that others try to infect you with…

You are your OWN GOD/ESS because your ACTIONS determine your road and your destination…

Be a god today…..

Carry On…

 

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Is Your Body Sacred?

We are too cavalier when it comes to that gateway that is nestled betweenour knees.

Too many men have had access to it for nothing more than a kind word and Big Mac with super sized fries…

 

It takes no effort to get inside of you. You don’t require him to do any grand in exchange for the risk you take in opening your uterus and cervix to his bacteria and anxiety..

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World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

Trash receptacles for sperm is what many women have become, and we are having more sex than ever before in history, yet we are more depressed and dissatisfied than ever before too.

 

Now men want to claim that they are the prize because they do all the work. They have to entertain us, feed us, cloth us, teach us, protect us, yet we bring nothing to the table according to them.

 

To answer that, I will ask this: what price should you pay to have lifetime access to my body, my heart and my mind? How much is gaining almost total control over me worth?

๐Ÿ‘‰How much is my nurturing and forgiveness worth?

๐Ÿ‘‰How much are the babies that I will give birth to worth?

๐Ÿ‘‰How much is all the time I have taken preoccupied with while simultaneously being taken off the dating market worth?

You can make the money back that you’ve given me should you decide that I am not the one for you, but what you can’t give ME back is the time I put into a relationship with you.

That part is gone forever. Every year that I am with you, the pool of other candidates that could take your place diminishes.

And you expect that a woman isn’t entitled to care and resources when she’s dealing with a race against the clock from you and any other man who shows interest?

Your role is your role and you are curse to work and I am cursed to obey you. Live with it!

Or don’t take on the responsibility…

Carry On…..

“Spiritual Advisor”

~Salkis Re

 

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