I’ve Never Been in Love!?/???

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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.

If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..

I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.

We are all here to help people you know.

 By working for them,

caring for them ,

teaching them,

healing them 

Protecting them

If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.

We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.

More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of

HURT YOU/

REPAIR YOU/

HURT YOU/

BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/

HURT YOU etc….

Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?

Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?

WHY?

 

Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society

We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.

You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.

We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.

How self righteous of us indeed!

 

To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,

to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?

You want microwave food and microwave love.

No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.

But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.

Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.

There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.

You build together.

You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.

If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.

If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.

If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.

Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…

This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…

A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,

a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.

Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY  fulfilling the needs of others.

PERIOD!!

 

 

“You Are Good and BAD” Accept This!!!

 

 

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Do you know where virtue comes from?

It comes from your ability to be a villain, to be evil, to be treacherous and conniving,

to be a liar, to be a cut throat: YET you choose NOT TO BE.

Virtue is has nothing to do with being “incapable” of being unfair,

self absorbed, hurtful and selfish. Your ability to exercise “free will”

allows you to experience virtue because it comes from having the CHOICE to do good!!!

Watch out for people who claim to be “good” and selfless,

those people are often times dishonest and hide their intent to manipulate through appearing ‘charitable”.
If you are not ‘bad”, then that simply means that you are not assertive and lack the

confidence to say what you feel because you are worried about how you appear to others.

But again, your lack of assertiveness doesn’t mean you are incapable of making people uncomfortable,

of being a cheat, or wanting to better than those around you.

You want that too, you are just ashamed to display it because you are concerned about your self image.

Ohh but it’s there….
So accept it!!

“The Black Hat Society”

Salkis Re

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“Virtuous Women Get No Love”

 

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There are many women that have morals and values,

who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,

but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.

The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,

not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.

But she will cook for you,

have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.

BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***

You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.

You want that women who does NOT want you, it’s called the “hunt” isn’t it?

So you men look for women who are better looking than you,

and those women are looking for men who are better than them.

And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,

or how could she do that.
Why?

Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,

but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
Salkis Re

Stephen Clarke Killed, SO WHAT!!!!

He Got Shot? Fuck HIM!

Ok so this topic is all through my newsfeed about Stephen Clark, 22 year old shot and killed by police recently.

A lot of black women are fervently against supporting the unjust shooting of this young man because they took the time to investigate his twitter account and saw disparaging comments made against black women.

His wife/girlfriend is an Asian woman and he openly expressed distain for black women, so the discussion is amoungst the black women is basically to let him burn in hell.

I think that protesting is a waste of time to being with, but I’m more disturbed by how easily

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Stephen Clarke, 22 year Old Unarmed Man Gunned Down by Police

we lose our principles when the issue of who doesn’t want us ‘sexually’ comes up.

If who we fight for is conditional and contingent upon if the person was “nice” or “ educated” or “wealthy”

or “attractive” then we are discriminating against each other, in the same manner

that we blame the establishment for doing to us.

 

The biases have no end in sight, I am exhausted with this issue of black men supposedly not wanting “us”.
A few loud, charismatic, attractive people say they do not want black women, is not a accurate reflection of our entire body of men.

What’s MORE worrisome to me are the men who PRETEND to want relationships with

the women they pursue, and there are PLENTY more of them than black men who “hate” black women.

No one can “disrespect you” , no black man’s words can “degrade” you.

What a black man feels about you (Good or Bad) is his own “personal” contemplations.

And it is your option to wear that opinion or not.

Apparently, Our convictions can be bought!!
Apparently our convictions ARE conditional,
extremely superficial and reactionary at best.
If we are the mothers of civilization, that claim comes with great responsibility and should accompany total understanding of life here on this physical planet.
What you have created, gets to rule over you now?
How so?

 

So Who Am I???

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~Salkis Re

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Ok, sigh…

I have been getting so much comments from males about their perception of what black women choose for dating /Marriage etc. The repetitive talk is this “Black women ONLY want Attractive/Rich men”.
Where these men get these notions from, I have no idea but I’m going to clear it up today.

MOST women are with unattractive men. This could mean unattractive as in literally *ugly or unattractive as in SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN HE DOES. Most women are falling into one of either of those catergories.

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

And why is this? Because ALL men seek out women who are attractive whether they themselves posses handsomeness or not; this is how men are wired to choose.
And for women, a man’s looks generally comes in second place to the size of his wallet(security) so the emotional needs of men and women actually compliment each other.

Look around you… How many brothers do you come across in your day that look like a 10?? Even a 7??? There are NOT that many “really attractive”, and there are not too many above average men out here either.

And the gag is that men who make bank, who gather REAL BAGS are VERY “average” looking. But God bless the suit and tie because they can easily bring a man up 2-3 notches in the looks department.

Most women are or will be with men who are “odd looking” disporportion noses and lips, big ears with a little mouth, etc. But generally, his face doesn’t have perfect symmetry. But she loves him anyway.

Most women will not be with men who match her beauty, but that is ok cause it really works in our favor in end.

The moral is this: Men want women that look better than them, and women want men to earn more than them.

And everybody is looking for somebody who is better than themselves, so nobody hardly ever gets everything they want. We are all “SETTLING” at the end of the day…

AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
Salkis Re

Struggle Love

We are now asking ourselves these days: why does love have to be soooo damn complicated??

We want that easy love. That Sunday morning in bed kinda love.

That fix me a sandwich after sex kinda love…

Can we be that happy all of the time?

Should we just reduce ourselves to the doom and glom of ‘reality”?????

WeLp, Yea and No!

Sunshine and rain make flowers grow. Snow and spring both bring beauty and deep contemplations..

Life cannot be all roses, but the darkness do not have to kill you…

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A relationship is EARNED according to my sprint mother Eartha Kitt!

A relationship is given on the merit of good will and best practices, not of irrealities like NEVER doing this or that…

When you understand your flaws and shortcomings, you will naturally have patience and understanding for the hiccups in the person you love..

That is what true love is.

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There is no nothing perfect about love, nothing at all.

But improvement and advancement are the things we should always strive for within ourselves and to inspire those we love..

If you are not improving in some way, love with wither.

If you are not smarter today than you were yesterday,

if you are not more curious about life and learning how to change yourself for the better, then you will be forgotten..

That’s how this thing works.

Just like stagnant water is unsafe to drink, a body and mind immovable and unchallenged will atrophy over time..

Renew yourself. Continously.

That is how you keep struggle love at bay…

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              “Artist/Life Coach”
                    ~Salkis Re

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Light Skin Women Verses Dark Skin Women

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Black Panther Character: “The General” Okay
Artist, Salkis Re

Everywhere you turn, your emotions and insecurity is exploited for sensationalism and financial gain from “marketers” and “commentators” who are only concern with “click views”. I’m specifically talking about the “trend” to discuss topics concerning discrimination against dark skin women.

I’m watching these “leaders/healers/activists” of these dark skin movements rant and rave to you. I listen to them tell dark skin women dress up when going to the grocery store, or confront light skin women about their biases.

People are profiting and helping to perpectuate a stereotype where the only “gain” you actually receive is “justification” and validation for feeling inferior to lighter skinned women.

It’s a hamster wheel.
And they CANNOT help you to heal.
Step away from ALL “ME TOO” movements because ALL those “look at me, I’m sexy too” campaigns offer is a superficial, feel good “moment”

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Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

Your REPAIR will only come from understanding and accepting that NO MAN is obligated to WANT to fuck you, because that is what all this shyte is really about!

The sex force is making you feel like you are inferior because the sexual desires/perversions are not directed your way as they are with women of other skin tones and races. But let me give you dark skin women some facts: light skin women do not in any advantage over you. They suffer emotional breakdowns, identity crisis’s, self esteem issues, panic attacks, depression, suicidal thoughts, and sexual exploitation just like women of other skin tones do.

You HAVE to step away from your need to be accepted!
You have to decide that you are enough while expanding and improving yourself through self discipline, not joining no foaming at the mouth, fanatic who’s just pretending to be sincere.

You have to learn to love aloneness so that YOUR oWn thoughts can be heard by your heart .
Conformity has you looking EXTREMELY COUNTERFEIT, and an obvious BEGGAR for a seat at the table of EXPLOITED women who are seemingly at an advantage because society says they’re attractive.

You better think again!

NO WOMAN is better than you, do not fall for that lie!!!
And you have walk with that ideal until your nervous system relaxes when in the presence of ANY woman..
LOOKS ARE ALWAYS DECEIVING!!!!!!

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~Salkis Re

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Why is Everybody Single??

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

MOST men, no matter what age they are, want “physically” young looking women and he would be a jackpot winner if he gets a woman who is young with her own money.

Lllllllmmao! But the issue with that is that if she is young and attractive and has her own coins, she can hold out for a man who is better looking than you, who fucks better than you, who makes enough money to “handle” everything she wants and needs.

And this is why people are single!
Everybody is scouting for a partner who is better than themselves in looks or money, and if you luck up on someone who IS better than you yet wants to be with you, trust that SHE/HE is “ALWAYS MENTALLY or PHYSICALLY SHOPPING” meaning she/he is with you yet open/motivated to finding a “better” replacement.

And why is this?
Because you are a “charity case”, not a boyfriend/girlfriend they fear of losing.
Chasing women/men out of your league gets you ALL OF THAT!

So when you are seeking the “best” partner, the perfect fit, be careful that you are not signing yourself up to be a beast of burden.

And ladies,
If a man is “better” than you, you mustn’t substantiate that claim by displaying insecurity, emotional neediness, and a total disregard of your own self interests or you WILL be dragged through the mud.
Carry on…

“Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re

Why You Should Lie to Men!!

Sooo I know this idea seem real shady and shiesty to contemplate, but I want you to hear my case on this matter, especially since you lie to men anyway.

I have never met a woman who is totally honest with her man.

Well yes I have.

And she regretted it!!!

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

So I did a video to break down this ‘new’ phenomenon explaining why you must do this IF your goal is to make a man remain in love with you.

Frankly, we have been taught a bold face lie about how to get or create love from a man.

Everything that is taught to us is for aiding in our subjugation  instead of sovereignty, and its time you heard the WHOLE truth.

Men love you MORE when they know LESS about you.

Why?

Because he has constructed in his mind what he thinks you are, and his imagination is ALWAYS going to be better than the reality of what you are.

WATCH THE VIDEO >>>

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Pain is GIFT!!!

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it.

You will run from it.

You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings.

Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.

You worry about how you look: Daily.

You worry about him not loving you: Daily.

You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.

But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.

You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexy  you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.

 

Will you change?
The truth?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.

Why?
Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.

Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.

But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.

What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…

The Black Hat Society”
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

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You Will Pick The Wrong Man Again!

“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re

You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.

But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??

He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.

Why?
Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.

Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔

If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.

The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.

You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

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Safe Sex??? There Is NO Such Thing!

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I do not understand the logic of “safe sex” using condoms. How can you enjoy sex with a man you think by chance he could be caring a disease. You make him wear a condom, but he can eat your vagina raw. You swallow his sweat and his saliva.

You suck his dick raw too, but you make sure you use a condom to practice “safe sex”???

Listen, there is NOTHING safe about sex, nothing AT ALL.
Sex is  a physical risk,

an emotional risk

and afinancial risk too.

If a man is putting his mouth on vagina raw, licking your asshole raw, and you have his scrotum in your mouth raw, then you are not “Safe Sex” anything!!

He’s got your cum juice, your urine, fecal matter and your sweat in his mouth and probably that of OTHER women too.

Unless your mouth and your vagina secrete BLEACH, you should be VERY fucking scared to feel the NEED to use a condom….

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

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“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

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Getting Rid of Your Fear and Self Doubt!

“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re

You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.

You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,

that you are nothing in this world.

How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.

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Art by Salkis RE Painting “Love You Anyway”

“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..

“Fear”
Written by Salkis Re

I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.

Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.

When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because

you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.

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~Salkis Re
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So Who Am I?

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~Salkis Re
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Sexually Dysfunctional

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Art by Salkis Re
  1. Unless you emotionally/sexually damaged beyond repair, your heart’s *string* will still be attached to your vagina and you WILL develop feelings.

So, the deal is this, if you want to be wiped clean of burdensome emotions for a man, DO NOT have sex with him.

🤔If you do not mind being emotionally attached, then KEEP ON having sex with him.

🤔If you are having sex with him in HOPES that he will like you( love you)more then STOP having sex with him.

🤔If you are having sex with him to display your “value” as a woman, but he gives you nothing in return, then STOP having sex with him.

🤔If you are saying to yourself “it’s only sex, but we will see what happens”, YOU ARE LYING on your heart strings and you WILL get hurt, so Do NOT START having sex with him!!

Black Panther Character: “The General” Okay
Artist, Salkis Re

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Sex is dangerous, SERIOUS business ladies. And the only reason you are so many of you are PRETENDING to be caviler about it is simply be of the use of contraception i.e condoms, birth control pills, IUD’s etc.. Birth control has superbly done away with the need to “think” and “reason” before you open your legs and it has made you equal to men, BUT your fucking emotions are IN TACT and you still REACT as a woman while trying to ACT like a man….

Hold tight my loves.

Tinker with your intellect and activate your 6 senses. You KNOW things you cannot explain. You can FEEL what he is THINKING. You just do not trust your own ability to SEEEEEEE things..
Put your “Black Hat” on an activate your inner Goddess…

“Black Hat Practictioner”
~Salkis Re
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To Be Like Her Means You Kill Yourself!

“What Woman Are You?”

Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.

You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a

“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.

So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing

outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.

Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!

 

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“Thinking of You” Art by Salkis Re

Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,

but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.

I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.

You are unlike any other woman.

This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.

The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.

To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,

have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally

be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.

I Wanted to Be So Many Things..

 

I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,

but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.

I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.

What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.

I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.

For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…

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“Love You Anyway” African American Art by Salkis Re

Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!

Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.

Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.

Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”

or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.

Why?
Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)

deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something

other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!

 

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~Salkis Re
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Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…

 

Abstract Portait Painting
Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.

 

Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

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ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Fuck For Coins

 

Natural Hair

So this topic has been pillaging my mind of late.

This notion of immorality and requiring money for access to you vagina.

When aren’t we in negotations for our bodies?

I’m waiting for a real answer on this..

Some of us fuck for gas money.

Some of us fuck to pay a cell phone bill.

Some of us fuck for trips or to get half the rent money.

Some of us fuck to show our sexual value(especially the ugly girls)

Some us fuck for Commitment.

Some of us fuck for love.

But ALL of us fuck for an exchange in value.

The problem is that some exchanges are considered adequate compensation.

 

Some of our vaginas are not seen as value packed because the face it’s attached to lacks luster.

But the reason for default on a promise of reciprocity is not the point here.

The point is that you WANT something from him,

and have worked out in your heart and mind what you intend to GIVE in order to get it.

Black Art Abstract Portrait Painting
“My Spliff” Art By Salkis Re

We all selling pussy round here.

Unfortunately some of us receive wooden nickels for it because we lack emotional control,

seductive presentation, and negotiation skills.

We think morality, being a moral woman will invite honor and respect and Fidelity.

How Sway???

So the question is this. Are you being unreasonable in your expectations?

Are you setting the bar too high?

Are your demands in line with the “value” you bring?

To be totally honest, if someone isn’t sold on your value, it’s because you haven’t lied enough.

It’s because you haven’t seduced enough.

It’s because you too busy presenting your fucking virtue instead of creating anxiety.

Men hold no power in the matter, and if you uncover their

secrets you will find that would like to ejaculate in any hole, any “type” of hole too.

Market yourself. Learn how to market yourself for results.

That is all “love” is about, especially for you girls who are NOT standard beauties,

though many of you would like to argue differently.

This is Black Hat Wisdom.

Put on Your Hat….

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

 

Nappy-Headed “Spiritual” Hoes

Life Coach, Salkis Re

“Men Who Want Natural Sisters be like”
A man who has no aspirations for “worldly” things has nothing to lose. And a man who has nothing to lose ALSO has no incentive to commit nor sacrifice for HIMSELF or YOU.

Statistically they earn less, do not get married, have no formal education, and have fatherless children. A Relationship (while on the physical plane) IS a material act.

From your first date that you dress up for, to the gas you put in your car to meet her at the “park to talk”, to the penis that goes into the vagina, to the babies that are birthed as a result of sex. All material.

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Only men with little ambition ride the “Spirituality” wave because they assume that “natural sistahs” only want a tub of Shea butter from the street vendor and a meat-free gravy and brown rice on a styrofoam plate to make us happy.

Meanwhile, he is out here heckling BUT secretly lusting after those “material girls” for whom his pockets aren’t deep enough to get. It’s a game to exploit your compassion and steal your “understanding” and your “agreeableness” for “duty-free”, “effortless pussy” nothing more.

 

When the talk of Spirituality comes up in a conversation about relationships and this conversation is directed towards any “nappy-headed sista (and I this term with endearment) I gonna need for you to understand that a net is being cast out to your vagina FREE PUSSY.

And what is the truth here?

The truth is that you are MORE SPIRITUAL WITHOUT DIK than with it so his job is to bring MATERIAL things to your feet to PAY for the “blessings” he is hoping to receive from YOUUUUU.

~Salkis Re

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Colorism and the Black Panther Movie

I’m going to see this Black Panther Movie for the third time this weekend.

I cannot tell you how emotionally impactful this movie has been to me.

The cinematography is perfect, the depiction of Opulence and beauty (BLACK BEAUTY) sent me nuts!!

So of course I had to suggest this movie to all my Dark skin

sisters because we finally have a visual representation we can FULLY support.

Of course some people actually fixed their ashy mouth’s to insinuate that

I was propagating a further divide of our race by suggesting that Dark skin women see the movie.

Really?

You really want to go there with me?

So below is my response this the naysayers ( Haters) Enjoy this post and share it with every Darkskin woman you know!!!

BAM!!!

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

Black Panther Movie and Colorism”
Written by SALKIS RE

Black Panther Cast
Danai Gurira “The General” in Black   Panther

On another platform, some comments were made in regards to statements I made about Darkskin women in the Black Panther Movie. And I temper my tongue because I know how easy passion/anger can be displaced and unwarranted in matters like Colorism.
I ask you to watch the interviews of the actresses Danai Gurira and Lupita Nyong’o in the movie to hear their statements concerning this matter.

When you go through your own mental files concerning imagery of darker hued women, what do you recall?

There is a typecast (if you are honest)and if she is not a slave,

addicted to drugs, raped, abusive, overweight, unintelligent, poor, the sidekick, a whore and a charity case,

you will not see her as a Memorable main character in motion pictures.

Now, what I said was that every Dark skin woman should go and see this because

we have a visual representation of what we always were but never depicted as to maintain the

class and cast systems around race AND skin tone.

 

This message was not mentioned to exclude others of us as we are all one family,

but it’s not MY JOB as the one excluded to say that,

and it’s really unnecessary fro me to have always include

caveats to make people feel better about their hidden hypocrisy.

You are say ones that give birth to babies, and before you check for all ten fingers and toes,

you check the babies ears to estimate how dark your baby will get,

HOPING in your heart that she/he doesn’t get “too dark”.

 

Do not play this game with ME…
Face yourself.. Deal with how you feel about you.

And alllllllllllllllllllllllll those not so politically correct emotions that you hide.
Don’t attempt to play fair for me.

I’m not a charity case in need of “what I want to hear” from anyone.
Face your demons because I dance with mine…
Enjoy your day…

“Artist/Medicine Woman’
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
WAKANDA FOREVER!

 

 

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Black Panther Character: “The General” Okay
Artist, Salkis Re

 

 

 

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com