Dark Skin Girls As Video Vixens???

Tory Lanez
Rapper- Tory Lanez

 

Someone asked me to state my opinion about dark skin girls being represented in rap music because of some artist named Tory Lanez checking a video director for replacing a dark skin model with a light skin model for a video shoot.

My thoughts on being represented in rap videos is that it’s nothing to fight for or fight over.. We are ALREADY seen as sex objects to the world as black women.

From my vantage point, we are classified in two catergories. There’s the “Mamie” that nobody wants to fucc and the “Whore” that everybody wants to fucc.

 

We might get sprinkles of intellectual simulacrums here and there, but measured against the history of media and what’s put out for us to consume even to this day, they’re not even enough for an honorable mention…

I’m exhausted with topic, and the fact that women steadily want to rope into protests around colorism gets on my fuccing nerves actually..
Why?

Because even within the argument of segregation based on skin tone, dark skin women with small noses and small lips and small waistlines are the “Show Ponies” for the argument that we are just as attractive as any other woman, we just so happen to be dark skin..

 

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Do you see ISSA GAME?
Hierarchy will ALWAYS exist, even amongst the oppressed…

Y’all want another panel discussion to justify your depression, your laziness, your misfortune?

Nobody owes you SELF ESTEEM!!

You are not going to get that by watching women who look you shake their ass on screen!

 

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Media IS SOCERY. Media is MAGIC.

Makes you feel hopeful or helpless depending on the agenda..

So we must admit that we are like children.

We are affected emotionally by what we see even though we know it’s not real.

Cut off their supply of your energy.

Stop letting society VAMP on your emotions.
Be SELF aware!

 

 

 

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Wendy WIlliams Getting Her Groove Back!

Sooo somebody said that Wendy Williams os out not he dating scene since coming out a few months ago with the announcement of her split from her husband.

Wendy Williams
Wendy Williams with a new guy? hmm

I was reading a post on my facebook about the term “Cougar” and one of my FB friends said that she felt it wasn’t a complimentary term to be called.

Being a Cougar Means That You Are Dik Chaser With Wrinkles

Cougar means an older woman who prefers younger men. But the context of that title is relative to older women who are really washed up dik chasers looking for a last hoorah!

I tell women all the time to be careful to take your time with new relationships, especially if you are an older woman because it is assumed that you are desperate and needy and lonely and hard up for companionship and love. And it doesn’t matter how successful you are at your job, or how many degrees you have or credentials, at the end of the day, you are just a woman lookin g for love..

Dried Up Choochies Are More Compliant

But what men tend to do is indoctrinate women with an artifice conclusion that assumes that there really is no reason to “hold out” when you are a woman of a certain age because you should be more grateful that anyone would want to face your dried up choochie!

But honestly, holding out is discouraged at every stage of your life, for it is in no way exclusive to geriatric women looking for a boy toys to play with..

Too Old to Protect Your Heart?

If you are an older woman looking for love, you have to understand that the likelihood that a potential lover assumes that you are wounded and therefore extremely compliant is VERY HIGH!

So you have to ask yourself if protecting your heart, mind and body are now antiquated issues that are really irrelevant for this stage of your life…

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I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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Why Calling Yourself UGLY IS IMPORTANT!

 

Inner Shame and Guilt That You Are Trying to Cover Up!

Listen, I know it’s “shameful” to call yourself UGLY..
I get it, truly..
It feels icky and degrading and self deprecating and whatever other

fancy word you’ve found in your thesaurus to use..

But guess what?
It’s everything that you ALREADY feel about yourself too!

So what are we doing here?

We are EXPOSING OURSELVES so that we can disarm the inner critic.

This is the only way to get to the root of our emotions so that we can fishing out the inner sabotage that happens on a daily basis.

Everything you feel that hold any negative connotation is tied into the way you look. VANITY is a woman’s curse.

 

It keeps us under control, it makes us obedient servants to those whom we feel can provide us an identity…

 

We look to others for this validation all day, every day.

 

And if other women seem to have more beauty than we do, we cease trying to better ourselves as we slump into the normality of GIVING UP.

Vanity is a CURSE. It destroys your ability to discern, to think clearly, to judge others justly and skews the perception of our TRUE worth…

 

You gotta embrace it..

The word Ugly is the key that unlocks the door to your mind in order to unleash your power!

 

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Why Is It So Easy to Con Women?

Criticism leads to a need for one to defend her position.

Whether it’s right or wrong is not as important as feeling demeaned by another person.

This is why it’s so effective to just tell you what you want to hear.
Make it sounds supportive, beef it up with praise and your “Wulls” come tumbling down.

Your wallet open, and you become an emotional pawn for every charismatic charlatan out here.

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I think we are smarter than we REALIZE though.
I just think we use our intellect when it’s too late for it to make a difference.

It’s always when the damage is already done that we ADMIT that we always “knew” that this or that was a misrepresentation or an outright lie.

It’s our fear of the REALITY of rejection that keeps you hopeful for hopeless things..

You will defend what will ultimately destroys you.
You defend what doesn’t reciprocate love.
Willing footstools you be, a purveyor and propagator of IMAGINATION not reality..

Don’t be a “Dumb” woman.

There are enough women out here who are only fit for the slaughter house,

but HER level of comprehension doesn’t have to be YOURS.
If your instincts are telling you that something isn’t right,

resist the fear of ostracism, and stand on your principals.
Don’t go for the herd mentality to feel “safe”.

Because the this: Your friends and family are the ones who seek to, and often times, are VERY successful in making you feel diminished and unworthy under the guise of “care” and “concern”.

So my dear.. Don’t worry about the Devil, for the Devil TELLS you what he wants; it’s the SAINT PRETENDS not to want anything from you so it can take EVERYTHING from you.

You need me to coach you?
Need a breakthrough?
Tired of feeling like you are beneath other women?

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Contact ME!
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“Life Coach”
“Artist”
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~Salkis Re

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How Not to Influence People

How NOT To Influence People

You Cannot Influence ANYONE

if you do it from a position powerlessness.

This is why I do not engage in conversations about

why black men don’t like dark skin girls or whether “Light Skin Privilege

( fair skin women enjoy real relationships and happy lives)

is an actual thing for us to worry about, or even why

black men are going to white women or traveling

outside the U.S. to find exotic women to marry…

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What other woman experience is NOT a measure of what you can’t get or what you will experience yourself!

The only way you could have similar resultsis if you mirror how that other woman thinks, And I’m not interested (nor should you be) in believing that YOU cannot have what YOU DESERVE TO HAVE!

Why are you parroting off talking points from anyone who tells you that you don’t have a chance in hell to get what you want?

Do You value freedom?

Don’t you want to feel free??

Well what is freedom?

FREEDOM Doing what you want

when you want

with who you want!

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Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis RE

Freedom To Me Means HAVING A CHOICE!

And your first step to being able to choose what you want, is to OWN WHAT YOU WANT!

Meaning, don’t ever again feel ashamed for wanting something

whether that be a millionaire husband, having a lots of your own money,

having a child, being attractive, or living your life purpose!

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You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***

Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

You have to live on purpose just like you did when you went to

school everyday to get your degree, or go to the gym workout..

You do things to get a forking RESULT, not for a journey!!

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

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Why You Need to Be Different!

It Must be emotionally exhausting carrying around feelings of self doubt of your low self worth every day of your life right?

You wake up unexcited, barely looking at yourself in the mirror and if you do, you grimmace with dissapointment at your reflection!
Day in, day out, the same secret sentiments of self loathe and dissatisfaction infect your mind…

If you keep waking up like this, where do you think you are headed?

You want some relief…

I know…
Cause I was exhausted feeling fu8ked up about myself too.
I felt jacked up because I believed the corrupted side of my imagination!

I talked myself into believing that I was stupid, unworthy of success and love,

and in my mind, everyone around me presumed they same things that I assumed about myself..

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“Skylar” art by Salkis Re

So I decide one day to acknowledge that I had FEAR.
FEAR of rejection.
FEAR of failure.
FEAR of being alone.
And every decision I made or avoided, was because I used my (corrupted) imagination to convince me that my failure was almost a guarantee.

SO I suppressed my desires.

I spent a lot of years being quiet and careful not to say too much because (as a ‘stupid’ woman) I thought I’d probably say the wrong thing.

I spent a lot of years being quiet and careful not to say too

much because (as a ‘stupid’ woman) I thought I’d probably say the wrong thing.
I had decided back then, to be “compliant” and “submissive” to avoid pain and rejection…

And guess what happened?
Pain and rejection came ANYWAY!!
PAIN AND NO RESULTS is all this way of thinking got me.

Is this how you live right now?
Is this your Every Day Life?.
Are you Scared to start?
Scared to even want what you want?

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Even at the expense of your own safety and emotional stability.
BUT you still get no results!
So what does change require?
*It requires you to FAIL.
**It needs for to prepared to TAKE RISKS.
It requires that you GO FOR BROKE while obtaining guidance, while developing your skill for measurable SELF improvement !

SELF LOVE is the foundation that success is created on!
And you need to LEARN HOW to love yourself.
I’m the only black woman who can truly help change your lowly

thinking and your proclivities towards self defeatism .

AND:
You won’t have to be 20 years younger to do it!
An hourglass shape is not need to do it!
It’s not in creating stipulations that you don’t have to

inspiration, the discipline or the biology to meet!
You are going to focus ONLY on what you CAN DO!!
This is how you will get what you want of life!.
Lets Get It!

 

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Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

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Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

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No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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Why You Can’t Get a Man: And It’s Not Because of How You Look!

You don’t have love and you think it’s because you are an unattractive black woman with a:

dark skin,

big nose,

overweight,

uneducated,

no curves etc…
It’s not because of ANY of those reasons!!
Yes.

People you who are apart of this society will come to you with their “programmed” perceptions of your worth.

So WHAT!!!

Who can use you without your participation?
Who can lie to without your belief in them?
Who can string you along without your patience?

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You don’t get what you want because you let “them” beat the PASSION out of you!
You don’t get what you want because you are “The Walking Dead”.
Soulless.
An Inanimate mass of flesh waiting for “them” to “Turn You On”!


This why YOU don’t have what you want.
Being “Nice” or “Good” doesn’t translate into PASSION.
And you have to ask yourself this: What am I willing to lose to show who I truly am?

Can you bear the criticism?
Can you stomach looking like you are crazy?
Can you come to terms with your unconventional looks and the skin suit you wear?

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If you are unattractive AND boring, there is no hope for you. Just jump off the next bridge to put yourself out of your own misery!


But if you don’t want to end it all: THEN RISK IT ALL.
Put yourself on blast!
Speak what’s on your mind!
Do what your God has assigned for you.
And let the chips fall where they got damn may!!
.
“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

 

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DO You Feel Threatened?

 

 

 

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“Room For Two” Original Art by Salkis

 

 

Every choice has a bit of risk.

Every choice as an element of suffering involved in it..

But there is a difference between THREAT and a CHALLENGE.

 

 Having challenges is a nutritional requirement to be challenged in life.

I tell all my clients/collectors that  having challenges is a nutritional requirement to be challenged in life.

You have toface your problemshead on or you

leave them to grow roots and stipend its own blood supply.

Once you get clear on what is a threat and what is a challenge,

you will start to venture out and take more risks.

 

 

You’ll create the potential to receive.

You’ll create the potential to receive.

This thing called YOUR LIFE is a numbers game.

The more you do a thing, the better you get at it.

The more you practice, the more you give is the more

you will master and the more you’ll receive…

 

                                                               Why Should You Heed My Advice?

 

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Go to The Gym!

Self care supports your desires.

Self care makes you feel good about who you are.

Self care is a soup of oily habits that can also seal your fate!

But I am not talking about soaking in a bubble

bath or eating some calorically dense powdered donut.

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I am talking doing what I’m about to do which is head to the gym at 8 o’clock at night

to get my workout out in when I’d rather being under the covers scratching my are!

I am talking about eating the piece of fruit and some water before bed instead of greasy fries.

I’m talking about the extra hours of study or staying up late to finish a project that with get you big money.

I am talking about talking your vitamins and cutting down on your salt intake (which is soooo hard for me).

Self care is about doing what you don’t want to do in order to get the results you Do want to get.

Are you about THAT life?

GOOD.

Now Let’s Go to the gym! Wink!

“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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