Swirlers Are Attacking Me!!

And if you are going to base the prediction of results on statistics, black men can support their arguments for not fooling with black women on those same reports you are going to for emotional comfort and reassurance.

Why Black Men and Women Don’t Love Each Other AnyMore..

How is he able to actualize his full potential in a world where his right to freedom and the pursuit of happiness cannot be realized outside of a womans crotch?Justified, yes! Justifiable, no!

T.I Says That Black Women Are Happier Alone!

What black women have to keep in mind, especially those of us who want marriage with black men’s to ditch the badge of honor over your need to do what you need to do to survive.

Don’t ever allow your sacrifice to be center of your value when it comes to black men.

Why Evil is Stronger Than Good

And nothing you think about yourself will stick unless its backed by HEAT.

What do I mean by heat?
When you are angry, you are hot! Your heart beats fast and your body literally raises in temperature.

Reality T.V. HAS Made Us FAKE!

I think of Nina Simon and Lauryn Hill for instance.

Very multidimensional women.

Hard to love or should I say hard to contain… 

Loving someone requires respect. And it requires space.

Darkskin Girl Looks

A man told me that I wasn’t ugly. He said that when he heard me address myself as ugly, he took my picture to his friends to discuss my eating. They came the the conclusion that I’m a 5 or 5.5 for sure which is average NOT ugly.

He mentioned that even babies are attracted and respond better to attractive people, so this is intrinsic to what we all search for in a mate.

I Was Rate a 5 star *Average

I told this “It ok. I understand  what you are  attempting  to do, but I AM an ugly girl!” I own that because actually gives me COMPLETE emotional autonomy over the desire to be DESIRED by men..

The reason we women who are members  of the UGC understand the necessity of claiming the word Ugly is because it destroys another’s person’s power to emotionally manipulate and physically control you.

They Classified Us As Ugly

I saw this picture of these two girls. These are young ladies from the 70’s and based on our society, they would be classified as below average looking.

But I see “pureness” in their faces. I see agreeableness and sweetness and love it it’s natural form. But these girls would be targets for predators and pimps and simps today simply because they are basic black girls who live modest lives…

I fight for girls like them. I advocate for them because I  am/was just like them.

One of these days, you will understand

Darkskin Girls
Darkskin girls Are the BEST!

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how important it is your your emotional wellbeing to divorce yourself from the NEED to be sexually  objectified by society. We <Black Girls> are already on the bottom of the social hierarchy and leading with sexual objectively gives predators your vagina wrapped in a nice little bow for no work at all!

Black and SWEEEET is what you should be. Not sexy. Not “attractive”. Think of yourself energetically…

What energy do you posses?

If you need my help and need someone to help you work through self esteem and self awareness issues, please contact me at:

Info@salkisre.com

My websites are:

www.theuglygirlsclub.com

www.iloveherart.com

Black Girls Want to Rock Too!

If you wait on people to accept who and what you are, you’ll be waiting a life time to get it.

And I you manage to get it, you’ll son realize it wasn’t worth the wait to begin with.

 

I have always made it a point extend an olive branch to other women of all shapes and sizes and colors

so that I wouldn’t be classified as bitter or insecure over other women.

 

But the conclusion I’ve reached is that it doesn’t matter if you say hello first,

if you give first,

if you offer friendship or understanding first, all people see is COLOR.

“La Petite Moor”

 

As A black woman, that’s all I’ve been all my life: BLACK 

My talents, my wisdom or anything else I had of value always took a back seat to how I looked.

 

Even in the art world, there are private discussions about what “type” of work sells and WHO can sell it,

and I was advised on several occasions not to do the “Black Girl” thing cause it’s not what black people want to see.

Some hard conclusion arose though.

African Art
“La Negra”

And it wasn’t that black girls don’t sell, its that black girls created by black girls don’t move as fast.

I’ve seen white artists paint black girls, pitch black girls in folk art style on old doors and other eclectic stuff,

some of which can be misconstrued as “Coonery” and BLACK PEOPLE bought their art.

 

I’ve seen white women do paintings exclusively of black women who decide to keep themselves inconspicuous

and BLACK PEOPLE BUY THEIR WORK too!

 

And here I am, and actual black woman

And here I am, and actual black woman concerned about the politics of painting dark skin women because

I didn’t want to be misconstrued as a “hater”….

Imagine that?

Telling my story and worried about acceptance when everybody else can enjoy

( without scrutiny) what they prefer to paint for whatever reason they choose to paint it.

“I Don’t Know”

Everybody Can DO What They Want to Do Except Me??

Everyone else gets to enjoy the novelty of it all, but I need sensible reasons for why I do what I do?

No More…

 

It’s a New Day..

And Im here to tell OUR STORY through the faces of Dark skin women.

I won’t say that I’ll never paint another complexion again because I will,

but the FOCUS now is on Black Girl Magic.

To see the entire collection and buy something sweet. for you or someone you love, go to www.iloveherart.com

Sanaa Says Marriage Ain’t That Important!

 

 

 

Sanaa Lathan And marriage
Taylor Rooks and Sanaa Lathan at CultureCon event,

 

A WEIRD obsession that black women have to get married??

Why is a woman wanting to get married now classified as a weird obsession??

Sanaa goes on to say that the divorce rate is over 50% and she doesn’t invest in anything that has such low odds..

She went on to say that black women are being pressured into marriage as well.

 

So we are pressured to get married and have a weird obsession with it as well.

Hmmm…

 

Well I will say this. With 72% of all black births from 2015 were from non married black women, how successful is this pressure on black women to get married???

 

Only 25% of Black Are Married??

Among currently married adults between the ages of 15 to 44 only 26 percent of black women were married, 45 percent of Hispanic women were married and 51 percent of white women were married (Goodwin, Mosher, and Chandra 2010

 

Over the life course, Blacks are the least likely of all racial groups to ever marry (Parker and Wang 2014).

 

We cannot subscribe to this feminism agenda.. Sanaa comes from a privileged background.

 

She is financially independent, childless and almost 50 years old. Good genetics has afforded her steady marketability with her industry BUT in real life, she would be considered a woman who has HIT A WALL.

 

Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese
Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese

Putting Marriage Last?

Putting yourself first is fabulous, and I support that 100%, but if you are unable

to have found and experienced a life partnership at almost 50 years old,

there is a probability that there is some mental instability or just narcissistic or extreme selfishness at play here.

 

There are no men dragging black women down the isle and the girlfriends of

black women are supporters, accomplices, providers of alibis

for black women who find it a more attainable goal to f*CK for money and fun and babies instead of marriage.

 

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“Women want POWER not Equality or Responsibility”~ DR Phil Valentine

That’s a problem.

To insinuate that a black woman is emotionally unstable because she earnestly wants a life partner is parasitic

in scope and an enemy to the structure of the family and our race in general.

 

The Problem With Our Black MEN

The problem we are having now is a lack of warriors and men to reset the order of society and men in general are not problem solvers. Men offer no solutions, no protection and no provisions for the black woman.

 

Therefore, black women have become their own protectors, their own providers, they educate their children on their own which leaves a residue of low self worth, hopelessness and suspiciousness of the intentions and the efficiency of black men altogether.

 

So This post is about becoming clear about what our collective aim is as black women. And we don’t need black women who have “given Up” on the goal of sacred unions to be the voice for the young black women coming up who SHAMED now  for even wanting to be marriage from women who can’t get a man to stay with them long enough to ask!

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com